Why patience is key

Hey girlies,

I think we all know this situation: we write down our goals and how we’re gonna achieve them.

We start working out, do our skincare religiously for a week, eat clean…but after two weeks that feel like years we don’t see much progress.

We don’t have ABs, our skin is not crystal clear and cooking three meals a day annoys us.

We get mad because we did everything we could but can’t really see a difference.

Well, I have bad news for us all. It’s not possible to change your life in a few weeks.

We have to be patient, no matter how hard it is.

We can’t expect our body to completly transform in a few weeks after we neglected it for the last years.

We can’t expect our skin to clear up in a week after we did nothing for the last few months.

It is painful, I know. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, I know. But we have to stay strong and patient.

Results will come with time, remember that.

Odette & Odille

Give us the low down on sugar daddies please

yeah a lot of the girlies ruined it for everyone else. how? because they post this sh*t online for everyone to see. they post on youtube “how i scam sugar daddies online” and “how i made $200 from a sugar daddy”.

yeah first of all, the girlies ruined the value of a dollar. $200 is nothing. real sd’s give and SHOULD give you at least $1,000 each time you see each other. asking to get your nails done for a little $150 is weird and broke.

another thing the girlies ruined is what is considered “damsel in distress”. a rich guy doesn’t want a girl who is broke or who acts broke. a lot of girls are like “omg pretend you need money for a flat tire.” babe you’re 21 years old and you don’t have $200 for a flat tire?

another thing the girlies ruined is they confuse “doing the deed” with sugaring. real sb’s know that going out to dinner requires funds, taking me shopping also requires me funds on top of what you are spending on me. anytime you spend time with me, you pay me cash on top of whatever you’re doing. i never did anything extra with my sd’s until about 2-3 months later. there was one that i never did anything with.

so now you go on these sites and guys are offering $500, $300, “oh i just want to make sure there’s chemistry before anything”, they ask you to send tons of pictures, they are no-shows, etc.

it’s very rare to find a sd these days— a good one. to me, a good one is you give me at least $1k every time we see each other and you leave me alone. i don’t wanna talk to you everyday so respect my space and i’ll respect yours.

but they are really annoying. they wanna talk to you all the time and most of them are not hygienic or attractive. they also like to nickel and dime you when they get mad at you (again like i said several posts ago, they are super insecure because they’re old and ugly). i could go on but i wouldn’t recommend it anymore. if the girlies acted like they didn’t need them and stopped worshipping the ground they walked on, it would be a different story. but the girlies are obsessed with the idea of a sugar daddy and these men know that so they will push limits to the point where YOU are THEIR trick, and not the other way around like it should be. these men have money for a reason. if you’re a 25 year old girl and you think you know how to run game on a multimillionaire, you are mistaken lmfao.

Hi philanthropist’s wife :) I was wondering what you think some of the differences in approaching the spoiled girlfriend vs sugar baby lifestyles are? I’m more interested in the spoiled gf route since I’m looking for something more long term but I know a lot of advice for all flavors of sw/hypergamy/blah blah gets mixed in together often times. I hope you’re well! x

Hi Honey,

The main difference imo between a sugar baby and spoiled girlfriend is what you already mentioned: the length of the relationship. Now that’s not to say some sugar babies don’t have long lasting arrangements with their daddies but it’s not the main goal.

The next important distinction is when you’re a spoiled gf that man is your bf so he’d better be someone you can tolerate actually enjoy being with. When you’re a sugar baby you can get what you want relatively quickly and upfront vs spoiled gf you’re taking the time to flesh out a whole relationship to get what you want.

In this day and age sugaring is done lol it’s become so mainstream it’s mostly salt daddies and scammers in the bowl. There are still some successful sugar babies but the ones I know are vets/part time escorts.

There’s a reason all the advice sounds similar when it comes to getting into this game. You can call it whatever you want but at the end of the day it’s all different iterations of the same thing. You’d be wise to learn as much as you can from high end escorts and sugar babies and never mention it to your future bf.

Happy hunting sis and good luck! Send me an update once you’ve snagged your whale 🎣

Xoxo

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Always remember it’s not about being head over heels in love, that’s how you get hurt and walked on.

It’s about how he treats you and does he make you feel safe asking for things.

Is he a provider that fits your life goals?

That’s your man.

I’m not saying date an ugly man, I am saying date a man you don’t mind growing old with because he makes you feel safe and pays the bills

I am high end.

I am elegant.

I am special.

I am so much unlike the others that there is no such thing as comparing me to anyone else.

I am loved.

I am artwork.

I am pleasing; to myself, and to others. But always myself. First and foremost. I never have to work hard to please others, since my natural energy draws them to want to please me first, and never the other way around.

But I am naturally caring, beautiful, and thoughtful. So I love to help with ease.

My value is seen and recognized so easily.

I am so blessed and abundant, always. God bless and amen. Thank you!

How are you investing 🍬 or extra money? I started trying to learn about stock investments during the panorama. I lost just under $5k playing around with crypto 😭 but I learned (and still learning) a lot about financial management. I recently moved $10k from my HY savings account to a CD. I was dating a finance guy and he told me to open up a CD because it’s a higher interest rate and he matched my initial deposit 🥰 There’s so much to learn but it’s much better than letting money sit & collect dust! I’ve been wanting to hop on live & share my experiences with sugar investments 🤔

I refuse to complain.

I have no right to complain, not about my appearance nor about my health.

I have all the tools and knowledge to transform myself into the best possible version and until I tried everything, I simply refuse to complain about anything.

Let’s chat.. i am a black woman and I recently found out about ‘divesting’ from YouTube and that was the nail that broke the camels back for me. I’ve been getting so many signs saying leave SW FULLY from God.. I was fighting too hard to be handed a luxury life (that is not actually luxury) and not working for it for myself, righteously. Honestly… why are so much of us trying to sell p*ssy instead of getting ahead in life by doing the hard work that won’t leave our soul feeling rotten…?

So, I’ve accepted SW as a phase in my life. My Holy Spirit has been wanting me to stop but my body/flesh did not want to let go of it. I need to believe that God can solve my problems and have the highest faith in Him only, and serve no other gods.

Be careful who you bring around you also, friends can lead you into that lifestyle and it happens quickly. Around age 21 when I let superficial friends that only care about designers, men, etc… get around me and essentially corrupt my mind. Be careful because you can easily get sucked into that life of shallowness and do things you should not to keep up with the shallowness. It happened to me, led me to spend above my income and in turn, it led me to thinking money, rich men,luxury trips and dates, drinks, etc… can validate me. Then came me turning to older white men since I live in a city where the men with money are generally white. Even if marriage wasn’t the goal for me most times with them , it is truly embarrassing to be so strung out/in the sunken place (lol) that I thought being with a 70,60,50+ year old white man (especially in public) is okay. (I’m in my 20s!!!) I even at one point thought marriage was in the picture with them… lol. I was about to allow myself to enter that mindset when I know that’s not what I want. I know for a fact that I deserve better.

The lifestyle of the sugar baby, sw'er, whatever, I've been invested in for so long and I am just tired of faking that it is .. idk the word . Tired of faking that it is “all that”. Idk the word .. but you get my point (maybe). And I’m not saying it was an entirely horrible experience… but at the end of it all you don’t gain much. (What is it to gain the whole world and lose your soul.) and I feel God never let me get fully invested (face out) either like He kept me protected. My Holy Spirit had me understand through the whole journey that this is not forever and to not let my mistakes linger for life that I actually start to embrace the mistakes.

But thinking back to it all, what was it for? Because I could have put all that time into a more l*gal and profitable business that I am actually proud of , but I chose not to… I chose the “easy” way out which was not so easy especially when the income is sporadic. Maybe it was the thrill. It was like a high. A drug almost. This is a lot to unpack babes.. The devil wanted me to give even more than I gave to that lifestyle and I gave a lot… but nothing God cannot return.

Anyway, babes, I have so much on my mind but I am choosing to work on businesses, study/figure out how to pass my exams, take trips, learn the righteous way I can live my life, travel, lean on God always and just being at peace. I am so at peace right now it's amazing. I am okay with my past because without it i would not come to this realization and I am thankful for the Grace of God that his kindness led me here. So, ladies, the summary is, work for what you want that is beneficial for your Holy Spirit. I am no longer in sw and will continue to write updates here and there! <3

And yes I still very much am a Very Rich B*tchh😘

-VRB

Gifts and Being Spoiled - Non Allowance

Let’s discuss Gifts.

I’m not talking about $30 for a pedicure or a Starbucks gift card and tumbler. I’m talking about the jewelry, the cars, the thousand dollar bags and shoes, the stocks and bonds, the gold and silver bars, kinds of gifts. Unless you’ve grown up accepting gifts or have made enough money to buy these things for yourself, it may make you feel uncomfortable. Who wouldn’t? We’re talking about receiving thousands of dollars worth of gifts.

Hell, this is something that even the most experienced SBs have had to work to become accustomed to, and even now gifts of a certain caliber can make a lady a little bit nervous. The easiest way to become comfortable with receiving luxury gifts is by desensitizing yourself to the cost.

Note: this is not desensitizing yourself to just start swiping your credit card for whatever purchase you want. This is to remove the feelings of doubt, shame, and insecurity that surround owning expensive items while those around you may not yet share in your wealth.

One exercise I did was write down every single thing I wanted to purchase. I broke it into the following categories: useful, nice, frivolous.

The useful items are things I would use on a consistent basis. Think computer, KitchenAid mixer, exercise bike, spa passes, etc. These will be more tailored to your own needs.

The nice items are things that don’t make or break any given experience, but would be fantastic to have and would increase my quality of life. Think multiple pairs of running shoes, a $300 outdoor hammock swing, new matching bedroom set, etc. Once again, these are more tailored to your needs.

The frivolous things are anything else. Think of the Chanel bags, the jewelry, shopping spree at Bloomingdale’s. Items that won’t make it break your experience of life.

Throw literally everything you can on this list and include the prices. When you see something on TikTok, add it to the list. When your coworker is talking about that sous vide, add it to the list. Big or small, just add it.

At this point you’ll have an idea of what you like and want, and how your SD can best gift you. Maybe you aren’t a clothing girl, but will go crazy in the homegoods section. Your gifting doesn’t have to look like mine, and that’s okay. This is your time to be spoiled!!

This brings me to my second thought: using your belongings.

It can be nerve-racking and ostracizing being the only girl with real gold in your ears. You may want to leave your good items in a safe or only wear them on special occasions.

Don’t.

Shoes and bags and jewelry and clothing is meant to be worn, not to sit in a dust bag for admiration. Your exercise bike is meant to be used. Running shoes are meant to be worn down. Don’t be afraid to use your gifts, because you’ll appreciate them more and will become used to using your most expensive items.

The last thing I would like to leave you ladies with is simple: Gratitude. Be grateful for the gifts that come into your life. Be grateful for the person providing the gifts. Be grateful for the journey of becoming a woman who has the capacity to receive. It’s okay fantastic to thank your SD/SBF for gifting you with something. In fact, most of these men are surrounded by people that use and take from them. Say thank you and mean it and watch how your experiences change.

Happy Sugaring ✨

Good morning heauxs!

How is everyone doing? I'm just checking in to make sure all of my favorite people are okay.

I will be back later this week with concepts, fics, the works.

For now, I'm living my best life in the middle of the ocean lol

I'll be finishing up the rest of my concepts and requests and also accepting new ones! So if you have an idea, send it my way (First Lady verse).

I hope all of you have an amazing day and remember that there is nothing in this world that you can't face or handle and I am always here to be a listening ear.

Oh, and don't forget how much I love and adore all of you and I'm thankful for everyone that takes time out to read what I post whether it deal with my baby Jackman, Urban, Joe or my life as a nurse.

I'll be back soon!

Muah 💋

JT in Poster girl 💕

Heyy guys, any SBs and SDs/SMs willing to take a survey on their surgaring experience? In it, you’ll answer questions about your SR preferences. It’s 100% anonymous and takes about 10-20 minutes.

A lil more insight into my thoughts/purpose behind the research:

The study basically centers on the idea that SRs are dynamic and mean something different to different people. From lurking in the sugar subs for over a year now, I’ve learned that there’s a lot more to these types of relationships than popular generalizations suggest.

Recent research seems to reflect that there are quite a few non-material benefits people get out of SRs, so I’m looking to expand upon that research and dive into what specific motivations lead people to start sugar dating, what intrinsic and extrinsic benefits people gain from them, and how those motivations and benefits are similar to or different from those reported in vanilla sexual/romantic relationships. I’m interested in seeing how many people prefer strictly casual arrangements vs how many are looking to find a deeper romantic connection and if any factors related to individual variation influence a preference for either.

So, here’s the link to the survey if you’re interested:

https://fullerton.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_2bF97LlH6f0AC34

The survey will be open till feb 24st & you must be 18 years or older to participate. Thanks so much for your time !!

(this research is for my masters thesis & has been ethically approved by the institutional review board)

Learn to recognize when you can do better.

If he makes you feel guilty for wanting to be taken care of, you deserve better. Since the 1700’s women have only survived because they chose men who were capable of providing and protecting

Don’t let these new age dusties gaslight you into accepting the poverty love they offer