EVERY TIME I LOOK BACK, MY CHILDHOOD GROWS HORNS; ON AGING.

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Alain de Botton, Essays in Love [transcript in ALT]

Alain de Botton

“Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you? Everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? That is the real test.”

— Alain de Botton, “On Love: A Novel”

Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.

Alain de Botton, Essays in Love

Loneliness is the space between you and the people you want to be close to.

-- Alain de Botton

(Palma de Mallorca, Spain)

The values captured in art shouldn’t remain in the museum - they should go with us into the playroom. 

- Alain de Botton, Art as Therapy

Love Language

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Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.

Alain de Botton, 

The most interesting faces generally oscillate between charm and crookedness. There is a tyranny about perfection, a certain tedium even, something that asserts itself with all the dogmatism of a scientific formula. The more tempting kind of beauty has only a few angles from which it may be seen, and then not in all lights and at all times. It flirts dangerously with ugliness, it takes risks with itself, it does not side comfortably with mathematical rules of proportion, it draws its appeal from precisely those details that also lend themselves to ugliness.

Alain de Botton, from 'Essays in Love'

sevdiğini ilan etmek, eksik olduğunu, iğdiş edildiğini ilan etmektir. sevmek sahip olmadığınız bir şeyi vermektir.

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Alain de Botton, Essays in Love [transcript in ALT]

Forse è proprio vero che di fatto non esistiamo finchè non c’è qualcuno che ci vede esistere, che non parliamo finchè qualcuno non è in grado di comprendere ciò che diciamo; in sintesi, che non siamo del tutto vivi finchè non siamo amati.

Alain de Botton, Esercizi d'amore, 1993

Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.

Alain de Botton, Essays in Love

“Anyone who isn't embarrassed of who they were last year probably isn't learning enough.”

— Alain de Botton

The emotionally intelligent person knows that love is a skill, not a feeling, and will require trust, vulnerability, generosity, humor, sexual understanding, and selective resignation. The emotionally intelligent person awards themselves the time to determine what gives their working life meaning and has the confidence and tenacity to try to find an accommodation between their inner priorities and the demands of the world. The emotionally intelligent person knows how to hope and be grateful, while remaining steadfast before the essentially tragic structure of existence. The emotionally intelligent person knows that they will only ever be mentally healthy in a few areas and at certain moments, but is committed to fathoming their inadequacies and warning others of them in good time, with apology and charm. There are few catastrophes, in our own lives or in those of nations, that do not ultimately have their origins in emotional ignorance.

— Alain de Botton, The School of Life