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creatinganewwlife · 3 months

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Wtf is a group chat? I’m an adult, i only have 2 friends and they don’t know each other.

#desiblr #desi #desi tag #desi tumblr #relatable #adult friendships #adulting #desi aesthetic #being desi

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sequenceofmind · 2 months

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I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was twelve. Jesus, does anyone? — Stand by Me (1986)

It wasn't a big deal, just a minor betrayal. Or we'd outgrown each other, you know, that sort of thing. — Trainspotting (1996)

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creatingnikki · 1 year

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you’re moving back. you’re coming back. you’re looking to build a life in the city I call home. but this time around everything is different. this time around you will be engaged and you and I won’t be having triple scoop ice cream together. but I am different too, this time around, aren’t I? I no longer cry if a man touches me and I will not be fed by your hands. I no longer give and give and give. I no longer want to. but most importantly, this time around I will not show you my heart. you had access to it, such easy and deep access. now, it closes; now my heart closes to you. and this is a time, a rare one, when I will use the word forever. my heart closes to you forever. I’ll be around, if you insist, but it will only be a shell of me. will you recognize? of course you will. you know me all too well. and that’s why it hurts this much, no? because despite knowing me so very well, you chose to do everything that would sadden me. but you are sad too. the next time I think of going to the beach and drowning in the sea, I won’t be calling you.

#spilled feelings #writerscreed #poeticstories #poetryportal #inkstay #fuck you #moving on #heartbreak #growing up #adulting #adult friendships #old flame #almost lover #writers on tumblr #poets on tumblr #creatingnikki

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wearpersistencewell · 5 months

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People with kids: No one wants to hang out with me now that I have a kid. They just want to go clubbing.

Me: I don't go clubbing.

People with kids: But I have to bring my kid everywhere.

Me: That's no problem!

People with kids: But I don't want to do things with my kid. I need a break.

Me: Okay. I get that. When do you want to hang out?

People with kids: Well, I can't do weekdays.

Me: Me either.

People with kids: Or week nights.

Me: I hear you on that one.

People with kids: Or weekends. Or weekend evenings.

Me: ... weekend mornings, maybe? I'm that desperate for a social life.

People with kids: Nope. Got Mommy and Me Yoga on Saturdays, Little League on Sundays.

Me: Okay. So you can't hang out with people anytime ever.

People with kids: No one wants to hang out with me now that I have a kid!

The issue isn't that everyone on the planet just wants to drink. The issue is that your life has changed, and socializing is now a luxury. That's actually understandable! These things happen. Do what you need to do. But don't act like everyone in your life abandoned you, or new people won't give you a chance, when you just don't have the bandwidth for friends. That's not the same thing as people not wanting to spend time with you. At all.

#adult friendships

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ebonyduskk · 9 months

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Back when you were a kid, friendship was a whole different deal. You'd hang out with pals every day and swear to be best friends forever. But growing up changes things.

Ever wondered why some adults don't have those super close friends? Well, sometimes they've got this idea of a perfect friend who's available all the time, which doesn't quite work in real life. See, as you get older, life gets busy, and finding time for stuff becomes a puzzle.

So, even if your pals don't text you every five minutes, it's cool. When things get rough, they've got your back.

Now, remember those two buddies from school who still stick together? Yup, they get it. Life throws curveballs at everyone. If someone isn't texting like before, it's probably 'cause they're swamped with their own stuff. They'll pop back up when they're free. Those pals who get this, they're the ones who stay besties.

ebonydusk || 06.08.23

#freinds #true friendship #adult friendships #best friend

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whereforartthoumisthios · 1 year

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I made a discord server!

Do you like generally talking to cool people and making new friends? Do you like AC Odyssey? Do you like history?Do you like doing art and hobbies like writing? Do you like memes? Have I got a server for you!

So, I decided to make a discord server to see where that takes me LOL. 21+ ONLY as I and many others are/will be older. This is meant to be a safe space, so, please keep things respectful!

Hope to see you there!

Here are the channels I have so far to see if you’re interested under read more:

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coyote-apologist · 1 year

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hello! i am looking to make some friends! you can call me either apollo or lavender, and my pronouns are he/they/xe! i am almost 20, autistic (mentioning that upfront because i am beyond awkward in social situations) and a floridian!

if you share any of these interests, please interact with this post and/or message me directly!

fishkeeping, including bettas and gouramis, blackwater inspired tanks, and planted tanks!

botany and ecology, especially native plants and ecosystems!!

gardening, specifically in raised beds and pots, including vegetables, native flowers, and houseplants!

red dead redemption 2!

cats!!! in general, and including warrior cats!

queer shit! i love learning about queer history!

knitting!

canning/preserves/jelly making, specifically with fruit or fruit juice!

cottagecore aesthetic stuff!

there's definitely more, so i will add things as i think of them

#fishblr #botany #gardening #rdr2 #cats #queer #kitting #jelly making #cottagecore #adult friendships #looking for friends #actually autistic

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dddemigirl · 3 months

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Making friends as an adult is so hard, especially when I don’t have social places to meet people at because I’m in a rural area and the locals are often bigoted and scare me. I don’t have a way to know who’s safe and who isn’t. I can’t just outright ask people if they’re an ally or not. I don’t have school or work where I could talk to people but even in college and my last job I experienced loneliness. There’s nothing worse than being around other people but having no friends. My social anxiety has gotten so much worse since the pandemic I think. I was already anxious before that but the isolation definitely didn’t help. Outside of my girlfriends and family I’m pretty lonely. I wouldn’t have anybody if it wasn’t for them.

#alexa rambles #vent #lonely #friendships #adult friendships #social anxiety #isolation #isolated #friends #adulting #growing up #sad

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debaucherygirlie · 2 months

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I Found A Family Member To Fast With 03/11/2024-04/09/2024 I Am VERY Scared I Am NOT EVEN Mentally Strong BUT I Want To Try

#ramadan #pr04na #pr04nn4 #thinspø #newbie #baby steps #weight loss diet #female friendship #adult friendships

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6catsandanerdo · 4 months

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I keep saying "It's ok" but deep down it's not ok, it's not ok at all, and I'm afraid I'd lose my loved ones if I start saying "It's not ok".

#it's ok though #it's fine #it's okay #whatever #anxiety #adhd #adhd blog #adult friendships #adult relationships

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creatingnikki · 1 year

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I felt like calling you babygirl, not really sure why. Maybe because I want to wrap you in a big warm hug and make you feel like everything is okay. You know? I feel like that when someone calls me bbg, I blush a little.

my friend wrote me a mail with this opening paragraph. we haven't been able to get on a call for the last 1.5 months because our schedules don't match. it's pathetic. but I'm loved.

I like that you can hold a conversation well and that you are inquisitive and care to learn about things and I love your lips. When we first met I thought you'd be bossy because in our first conversation you said, 'Listen H' three times assertively but then as I got to know you I realized you are considerately bossy. And no, you're not a piece of ass to me but yes you do have a really good ass.

this is what the guy I'm seeing currently said. seeing is not the right word because it's a situationship and it's confusing and frustrating. but I am made to feel loved when he kisses my forehead and my nose and holds my hand as we sleep.

and now you can see why I'm happy and sad at the same time and I don't know if that's just how the rest of my life is going to be. so very bitter sweet.

#spilled ink #writerscreed #poeticstories #poetryportal #inkstay #writtenconsiderations #bitsofstarglow #poets on tumblr #writers on tumblr #situationships #friendship #adult friendships #adulting #bitter sweet #happy and sad #spilled thoughts #creatingnikki

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vizthedatum · 4 months

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I am SO blessed. I had a beautiful outing with my friend today, then she came back, helped me clear off my entire coffee table (it’s full of stuff again but that’s not the point (it’s art that needs to be hung up)), and helped me put up sticky notes of where all my art is going to go!!! She also body doubled while I sorted through stuff and did dishes, while she told me updates about her life.

10/10 social interaction.

And my space feels so much better already.

And my mind feels less cluttered too.

And I love her - we have been friends since 2018, and I could not be more lucky.

*beams*

#healing #friends #adult friendships #we are both neurodivergent too #neurodivergence #love #friendship #AND IT SNOWED TODAY #blessed #I was sad for a bit today bc of grief stuff #but #self love

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ensign-spider · 1 year

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you know, before i do any Actual Work today, i just wanna give a quick shout out to me.

i am a spider with autism. i have either 1. not experienced symptoms regarding interpersonal relationships or 2. developed a masking strategy so early on that has reconciled symptoms. either way, i’ve held down successful sales jobs and generally be able to relate to people pretty well.

however, i have an invisible tether to people. it’s strong when i’m close, but if something changes (i move, start a new job, etc) that tether is severed and i don’t remember them. i remember of them, and think about reaching out to them in the shower or while i’m otherwise preoccupied, but i generally let the tie sever.

a lot of good friendships fizzled. it’s work for me to maintain friendships. i’ve had one best friend that has been in my life for almost 20 years. i met her on neopets when i was 13, and have had the pleasure of meeting her IRL once, and i love her so much. i tried to sever the tether, not on purpose, but it nearly happened; she fought for me. and then i fought for us. it was worth it, and i did it.

but lately in the last 3 or 4 months, i’ve realized i need to start having this attitude about people in my life and in my city. i didn’t just wanna see my friends when my boyfriend was around. that’s not the person or the energy i’m trying to be.

so i started reaching out, especially to two friends in particular that i could feel the tether thinning. so i made it a point to text them, reach out to them. now with one i have a biweekly coffee date, and i have a gym buddy/daily texter in another. both of them are also neurospicy so there’s never any animosity if a text goes unanswered or if someone forgets for a little while.

i like, have friends in my city, now. i’m starting to see doing things with people as less of an obligation, because i am in more control of the occurrences, and because i am just enjoying other people in my life. letting go of some of those barriers is a good thing.

i know no one’s reading this lmao, but i am happy to mark my own progress regardless. go spider!

#autism #actually autistic #people with autism #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #neurospicy #friends #friendships #adult friendships

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spiritfeelingspiritfelt · 11 months

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Queer / neurodivergent soft SOFT friendships pls

Cis hets DNI pls thx

Hi you can call me by the first letter of my name ‘T’, I’m in my late 20’s, soft butch, trans masc, enby, stone butch, gender blind (in all respects tbh), vegan, artist, writer, researcher, outdoors fanatic, lover of all things nonhuman

My special interests: philosophy specifically/particularly metaphysics, biocentrism and ecosophy aka anything to do with the study of the matter of our universe and all it contains, the absurdity of how matter is essentially based on illusions and tricks, everything non-human , all the connections/symbiotic relationships of natural relationships in the natural world and also spirituality / faith systems and the law of assumption

My social battery and social ways tend to mean I can be amazing socially socially for a select time but then I crash out and disappear to hermit land (depending on how social I was being this could literally mean no internet interaction for months let alone in person) I’m working on this

I go through phases (years/months) of having great genuine soft friendships to absolutely zero and I want to work on this also, currently and perhaps obvious to this post Im in the latter phase. Which means my social skills are probably poor again. One brilliant thing about adhd though is regardless of all the above as soon as I’m vining with someone I’m the joker of the moment bound to make you smile.

Neurodivergent friends: this is actually a category that can be a loophole on my dni aka men as my issues with men I’ve found can sometimes be not a thing at all with someone neurodivergent, I myself have autism, adhd and cptsd. I’ve had close friendships with I swear like every known diagnostic out there haha so don’t feel you have to be apprehensive about this I know how it is and I’m really chill honestly, they are just descriptions to better establish our ep connections right. Also agere in this context is a vibe and we connect on this.

Im really looking to connect with queer poc, queer women, butches, dykes, masculine presenting women, trans lesbians, transmascs

I have a lot of trust issues right now but specifically around men/cis hets,

For in person friendships:

I’m based in the uk, I’m very loyal but to the point I do need to work on it as not to be taken advantage of, I can be quite tactile after trust is established, I, the friend that will always (consensually) pick you up play with your hair give you a back rub or vice versa i love being picked up having hair played with, I also love nature walks, going to queer/poc events, making art/getting crafty, reading (also isn’t it special when you can read in silence with a person or group of persons), friends you can stargaze with or go wild camping are especially close to my heart, despite this post I’m the banter loving playful puppy sort could literally have a conversation that makes zero sense due to its randomness and still have a blast whilst equally get deep on conspiracies and philisophical theories. Also like to binge shows that tend to be, fantasy, lgbt, anime, cartoons, documentaries, crime based, conspiracy based etc

For long distance/online friendships: It could be that we live far apart or you aren’t good with being in person in which case as long as you are the creative writing or rpg sort this could still work, I’ve had friendships that were mainly lived out through back and forth writing creating story experiences to share in worlds we create, or if you are into RPG as this can be similar as long as you are down to teach me the ropes of your game(s) of interest I, down for this, also down to do video calls when we both feel

I will probably end up drawing for you or write you poems lol

Things I think worth noting about me: my literal communication style benefits from CLOSED questions I hate open ended questions as my brain will scan through too many possibilities and uncertainties which can lead to me saying what I think I’m meant to not what I mean, clear and concise communication is great else I overthink or project or misunderstand or get paranoid and probably won’t express this. I sometimes need persistence, like being called, texted a lot in order to start re engaging this actually also helps wit my trust.

I love comics and sorta live off WEBTOON because comics/graphic novels are expensive for how fast you get through them:( particularly obsessed with fantasy stories that entail queer dynamics

I’m happily taken in a relationship so queer couple friendships, friendships with queer families/parents is also great=)

Feel free to message things about you or just message in short as a response or repost if you are looking for similar things and want more people to see/interact all is cool

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is-it-just-mee · 1 year

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Lonely by Design

Is it just me or is adulthood inherently lonely? Almost like it's designed to run on solitude.

It feels like the older you get, the less likely you are to make new friends coz the people around either already have friends or are simply too tired to go through the process of building a friendship from scratch. So everyone ends up just staying in their lane until and unless you specifically have a rare case of good chemistry with someone and you start letting yourself be tight.

People act like friendships are meant for children. Grown ass adults don't have "best friends". How often do you find your parents "hanging out" with their friends. Married couples act like socialization is a task on their to-do list.

I don't want want to become one of those adults. I want to be able to keep my existing friends and be able to make new ones and just have good healthy friendships all around me at every stage of life. It can't be that hard. But why does it feel like it's going to be?

One things for sure. The older you get, the more time you will be spending with yourself. You can't escape that part so you have to make the most of it. You have to learn to enjoy your own company and to feel content with it. You have to learn to romanticize solitude or "me-time" so to say, coz you're gonna get a lot of it. You have to learn to be able to sit with your thoughts and not feel the constant need to drown it out with entertainment. You have to learn to be comfortable with doing things yourself and embodying your own main character energy even in the midst of people. Coz when you do, that's when you really lean into your situation and start to thrive.

That's what prevents you from becoming the grumpy adult who's always complaining about adulting. Instead, you enjoy the little things that make adulthood what it is.

Note to self: Take the upper hand.

#adulthood #grumpy #lonely #adulting #adult friendships #best friends #friendsforlife #relationships #upperhand #cheatcodesforlife

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thesinglelogbridge · 5 months

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Hey, what do you do with your friends as an adult that doesn't cost money and isn't watching tv??

#it can cost money once though #we just can't swing going to lunch or a museum or something #please help #we've watched all the tv shows #adult friendships #advice #Annie talks

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