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Ace rings and Aro rings. What are they?

An ace ring is a black ring, usually worn on the middle finger of the right hand, that indicates you are on the asexual spectrum. An aro ring is the basically the same thing just white and worn on your left hand on the middle finger. Placement is important since other communities us rings to identify themselves. Many people on the spectrum don’t know about the rings, so it is often times a more personal symbol. Even if you never meet another ace or someone who knows about the rings, I still think it’s a nice step of personal acceptance and way to display yourself! It’s just a really neat way to embrace your ace-ness and/or aro-ness!

Some people go with plain black and plain white., but others like their rings with a little bit more to them. Some people might go out even further and get rings that are dragon-like. The meaning of this is explained in this post of mine. There are even rings out there with the ace of spades (and other suits) which the meaning of that is explained in one of my previous posts. There are also cool rings out there that are less subtle that have the aro flag colors, ace flag, colors, and the sunset aroace flag. Overall, just the normal ace ring, a black ring with embellishments, and any other ace symbols are used by people! People have all sorts of different rings that fit within the aro/ace ring vibe.

Feel free to reblog and get this info out there! ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ

Have a very asexual 2023! 🐸

Biromantics are so precious. I love my bi + ace siblings. Reblog to give a biromantic a bowl of hot clam chowder, like to give them little saltine crackers to crush up and sprinkle over their soup

maybe i’m weird but i love pretending to have crushes on celebs or characters, i love calling them hot and giggling and kicking my feet even though i feel absolutely no sexual or romantic attraction towards them.

so I came out to two people yesterday: one told me asexuality doesn't exist and I'm just afraid of commitment, the other said "omg, haven't met anyone who's asexual, can you tell me more about your experience?"

guess who's gonna remain my friend

Nothing is more frustrating than wishing that you felt something that you will likely never feel in your life.

Wishing you were what society would consider 'normal', but regretting your silly wishes, because despite the pain it brings, you still love who you are.

I love being asexual and the comfort and confidence I've found in the label, but I also wish I could relate to people without feeling like there's a wall that separates us. Knowing that we'll never truly understand each other.

* opens door without any sexual tension * asexual people are so great

* walks outside very asexually* I am so glad these people exist

* breathes in aro ace* I hope asexual people and everyone under the umbrella know that I love them and wish for them to have a good fucking day

nothing like being complimented on your appearance by an aspec person “i recognize that you have good facial symmetry” thanks man 

Sexual Abstinence: The choice to not have sex.

Chastity: A promise/vow to never have sex (usually taken by priests)

Asexuality: The lack of desire for sex (umbrella term)

Repost this to help people learn the difference between the terms because you'd be amazed by how many people actually mix these words up when trying to invalidate the ace community.

Abra-CAT-dabra!

What does it mean to be Sex/Romance Ambivalent?

The majority of people on the aspec are aware of favorable, indifferent, etc. when talking about personal stances toward romance/sex. But what about ambivalent? I don’t see people mentioning it nearly as much. I’ll give a brief explanation for those who don’t know what romance/sex ambivalent is.

Since I’m sex-ambivalent, I’ll use my personal experiences as an example. Sex-ambivalent is a personal stance on sex. Your feelings toward sex may fluctuate and be unclear. (Everything I say can be applied to romance-ambivalent as well with some obvious tweaking). Your personal stance could range from the feeling of being indifferent to averse, favorable to repulsed, indifferent to repulsed, whatever. Personally, I fall anywhere from feeling like indifferent to repulsed.

How we feel may vary depending on mood or what types of acts are being performed. For some they may be more comfortable when it’s with fictional characters. Or maybe they’re more comfortable with different people. I may be in a in a mood and be rather repulsed by the idea of anything sexual, but when I’m in a better mood it doesn’t bother me as much. There are many other reason why your feelings towards romance/sex may fluctuate, but this is just a general overview.

I may occasionally read erotic fanfiction and enjoy it, but I can’t even stand the thought of actual p*rn. Sometimes I don’t even want to read any kind do fanfiction like that. While I do enjoy certain types of more erotic fanfiction, I only enjoy it when certain types of acts are performed. Usually I just like a passionate make-out that gets a bit heated. Maybe some stuff that gets more suggestive too. But anything that involves actual more intimate parts on top or bottom gets an immediate “Nope” for me and I suddenly get more uncomfortable. I can’t stand the idea of intercourse or read about, but I can be totally okay with other “less intense” sexual acts.

I also want to point being being greyace is not equivalent to being sex ambivalent. I’m a black stripe ace meaning I experience no sexual attraction, but I am also sex-ambivalent. You can be greyace and sex ambivalent, be black stripe and ambivalent, and even be allo and sex-ambivalent! Ambivalent isn’t just a way to describe aros/aces, it can apply to anyone no matter your orientation.

Romance/sex-oscillating is also another slightly different term that describes how feelings towards the concept of romance/sex fluctuate/change over time. The factor for changing feelings when your oscillating is the passage of time v.s the factor for changing when your ambivalent is going to things like mood, whether or not it’s the written word, fiction or non-fiction, the types of acts being performed, etc. It depends on the person what external factors may change their feelings. Some people use both labels, some people, like me, don’t, and that’s okay. I apologize if I didn’t explain oscillating well enough. I do not identify with the label myself or feel that way, so please tell me if I could improve upon anything said.

All of this to say, some people feelings on romance/sex are very complicated and don’t fit super neatly into one single stance or they can fluctuate over time. You may feel differently about different situations than I do, and that’s okay. All us ambivalents aren’t the same after all!

Merry christmas to the whole asexual community. Hope Santa brought y’all tiny frogs, garlic bread and a purple dragon.

still aroace af with no desire to seek out a date but if a woman asked me out I’d probably take her up on it because have you seen women??? The Ultimate Compliment™️ let’s go, love

Who needs orgasms when you can have a perfectly formatted works cited page?

I made this ace lockscreen… (I took a picture of one of my crochet WIPs and edited the colours and put them together!)

(No reposting! Reblogging is always appreciated though!)