Shoutout to all the people of Ohio who just passed abortion, contraception, and reproductive rights of all people into constitutional law by a fucking 12+ point margin despite the state legislature desperately trying to do everything they can to fuck up the vote. I'm so proud of y'all!!

Edit: Trans people fucking rule, sex work is cool and deserves respect, sex isn't a binary, gender critical theory is based on terrible disproven science and is just Phrenology for sex.

I'M PREGNANT AND NEED TO NOT BE. PLEASE HELP

fuck okay so I can't believe I'm making this post, but here we are.

despite birth control and my best efforts, i'm pregnant.

i can't handle this right now for a lot of reasons-- i'm going through a divorce, i'm deeply in debt due to the marriage i'm trying to end, barely staying afloat as it is working multiple jobs. i'm multiply disabled and so far have been EXTREMELY sick every day to the point of being unable to function. i don't have the time, money, physical and mental health, or resources to deal with a pregnancy, let alone a baby.

on top of all that, i have an infection they can't treat while i am pregnant, so they're trying to get this terminated as quickly as possible. i have an appointment set for Tuesday, 3/28/23 at 2pm.

my insurance does not cover abortions except in proven cases of rape or incest. all this to say, I need to somehow scrape together $600 by Tuesday for the abortion itself, plus cost of transportation. it's also been difficult to eat lately and i've been living off yogurt and the few other specific things i can keep down, so help restocking the fridge would be amazing.

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right. should say it.

Fictional characters are to antis what "the unborn" are to pro-lifers.

Fictional characters, like the fetus, are the epitome of everything good the anti/pro-lifers wants to demonstrate on their crusade. They're uncomplicated. They're abstract. They are exactly what the arguer thinks they are in that moment. They will never disagree with the arguer and never make demands of their own.

Pro-lifers rarely help born people, and in fact gleefully call for the deaths of born people, because born people make demands, and have their own free wills, and sometimes make mistakes. The unborn will always be a perfect being, a tragedy, a what could have been; "what if the baby you aborted could have cured cancer?"

Antis rarely care for real people, and in fact often gleefully abuse them for disagreeing with their stances, because real people make demands, have their own free wills, and sometimes make mistakes. Fictional characters will always be perfect, and a tragedy, and a what-if; "what if the fictional character knew you shipped them with a literal child?"

Fictional characters are a way for antis to "care" about abuse/rape without actually confronting the reality that abuse survivors, as with anyone else, are messy people who have flaws and don't agree on any one issue. Just as fetuses are a way for pro-lifers to control the abortion debate with an image that is solely about shallow, unearned pathos, and never about the beings that currently occupy this world.

Both are the weak attempts of a person who likes the IDEA of doing/being good, but not the actual work that goes into making the world a better place. You can see it in how they react to anyone who disagrees with them with unrestrained vitriol and hatred. It isn't about "protecting life" or "protecting abuse/rape victims", but about being SEEN as someone who wants to protect life or protect rape/abuse victims.

Sorry for the long ask but I had this thought a while ago and wanted to share it.

Oh yeah they’re very similar mindsets

this is it. ill never create anything better than this.

The BBC and New York Times both had some interesting coverage on the Alabama IVF ruling. NYT spends more time on it, but I think the BBC's shorter section has an interesting approach by interviewing a bunch of pro-life people who are almost bewildered by the fact that yes, the tigers are also eating their faces.

EDIT: The BBC Global News Podcast generally has three or four topics per cast, and the IVF discussion is second in this one. I believe the timestamp varies by region due to some advertising algorithm, but for me it's at about six and a half minutes in, starts with "For decades, the debate over reproductive rights--"

"average American female has 3 abortions per year" factoid just statistical error. average american female has 0 abortions per year. Abortions Georgiana, who lives in a cave & has 1,000,000 a day, is an outlier adn should have not been counted.

Kon is too trans for this pregnancy shit please and thanks

"I just mean he's literally insane about you and I was always really confused as to why you guys hadn't jumped each other's bones yet," Bart clarifies. "But then I did some reading and learned about compulsory heterosexuality being a thing and that kinda helped explain it? But also I was still pretty confused because again, Tim is literally insane about you. Like, Cassie is kinda weird about you and I am kinda weird about you, but Tim is literally insane." 

"Tim doesn't know," Kon says, a little too bemused to process any of that. 

"About the baby?" Bart asks. 

"About me," Kon says tightly. "Or, well–okay, he probably knows about me, he's a Bat and all, but I never told him about me so we never . . . no bones have gotten jumped. Ever. I've never told anyone, I just . . . I just put on civvies and fucked some random fucking stranger in some random fucking club and I don't even know what stranger or which club or–or anything, I just–" 

"Wait," Bart says, staring at him. "You're not out to anyone at all? Not even like Superman or the Kents or . . . anyone?" 

"No," Kon mutters with a pained grimace that he really can't hold back. "Like–they knew at Cadmus, obviously. The people who worked on me and whatever, and people who were high-up enough to access my unredacted files. Them. And like, obviously the Agenda figured it out. But like . . . that's it. I've never actually . . . I've never told somebody before."

"Wow, this time period sucks," Bart says, a little more wide-eyed than usual and vibrating a bit at the edges. "So like, are you gonna have the baby or do you need a clinic buddy? Or are you not sure yet? I could also be a lamaze buddy, probably. I've read some books about that. I could read some more."

just once i'd like to see a pregnancy fic where the happy ending is the relief the characters feel after the abortion lol. just once.

my official stance is a pregnancy is whatever the pregnant person wants it to be. if it’s a 4 weeks old clump of cells and they wants to call it a baby it’s a baby. if they're 20 weeks and they want to call it a parasite it’s a parasite. if they're 39 weeks and call it a fetus it’s a fetus. “why are you so sad about miscarrying at 6 weeks it was literally just an embryo” because that was their baby. “how can you get an abortion at three months” because that wasn’t a baby. hope that helps.

Toichi, seeing the explosives set at his show: Well it's too late to get that abortion now, but…but what if I were to fake my own death? Delightfully devisish, Toichi

I keep thinking I've reached peak cursed with this AU then I continue to prove myself wrong

I dont know why tumblr recommended your blog since I am very much sex repulsed. But I am also morbidly curious what's makes the difference between breeding and pregnancy. Like in theory one would lead to the other.

yeah uhm i also dunno why! but if you actually want to know (though as bad as i am at reading tone, doesn’t seem you do? idk)

i’m.. t4t and gay. like man that likes men. i am also sterile!

also, being t4t, and the lovely sexually explorative world we live in - there are MANY toys available to give the “experience” without having something inhabit my hostile womb for 9 months / having a person that needs me to survive when i can’t afford to eat myself <3

i also, like many trans men i’ve met at least that are gay, have had many, many horrible experiences sexually WITH cis men/chasers/“detrans masters”, that think for some reason someone HAVING a womb gives them the right to impregnate it.

and frankly, it’s 2024, abortions exist. miscarriages are very common knowledge. conception does not always equal child, nor does every load create life.

hope this helped! /gen

Hate/love relationship with antis calling a ship that's immoral as 'proshipping' could you imagine those who are pro-life claiming that anyone who has an abortion are 'prochoicing'?

"Did you hear Jane is prochoicing next week!"

"wow what does John think of Jane prochoicing?"

it's so annoying and funny

Had a painful "lulling myself to sleep" AU about the Kryzes last night.

Bo-Katan gets pregnant at sixteen, and is in denial about it until about six or seven months in. She goes to the doctor for an unrelated thing and is informed that she's tested positive for a pregnancy.

(Her periods were always irregular and she wasn't showing much, so she just excused it as stress.)

Bo calls Satine, panicking to the point where she ditches work to come check on The Little Sister.

The doctor explains what's happening. Bo does not want to keep this baby but is far enough in to feel conflicted about aborting when the baby could theoretically survive in an incubator in a few weeks. She doesn't want to carry to term but she's torn about actually aborting. Satine is trying to talk her through it and promises to support whichever decision she makes, etc. All the good parent-sibling stuff.

The doctor offers a third option, which is removing the fetus to a cloning tube. It's not a common solution, but a Duchess can afford the process. Bo takes that option. The procedure happens. She recovers, but won't even look at the baby. Satine talks about raising the child herself, since she's An Entire Adult.

As soon as she's fully recovered, Bo-Katan runs away from home to Governor Vizsla's. Satine tries to convince her to come back, but Bo really wants to ignore the whole issue of her baby. She's staying away, thanks.

The baby is decanted. Satine names him Korkie. She considers claiming to be his mother, but that might put him in more danger, so she'll stick with the truth without telling anyone how he's her nephew.

TCW kicks off.

Korkie tries to joke about also being half-tube-child with the clones. They're confused enough that he has to actually explain his whole Baby Situation. Disaster lineage is cringing but with metaphorical popcorn.

I think Satine was probably 21-ish when Korkie was born.

Obi-Wan keeps insisting he's sure the timing doesn't work out for an Obitine baby. People are still suspicious.

Today my mom and I finished the 90’s superman TV show Lois and Clark and it’s a really great series and I think every superman fan ever should watch it because Henry Cavill has nothing on Dean Cain, but that’s not actually what this post is about. This post is about the fact that in a pre-Superboy Jon Kent world, the central arc of Clark Kent’s character was that he wanted a family of his own, and this culminates in (spoilers) the last episode being centered on the question of what to do about having kids since Clark’s biology is not compatible with humans’ for making babies, and my anthropology major brain couldn’t not analyze this through a gender/sexuality lens since I took a class all about the cultural impact of gender and media portrayals of it.

Here’s the thing: in the vast majority of media (I almost said western media but then I thought about it more and I think it’s actually pretty darn universal) infertility is a female plotline. It’s one of the few plots that is inherently feminine in nature because for so much of history we’ve viewed infertility as a woman’s concern. If a man and a woman can’t have a child, after all, it must be something wrong with her, right? (Ha. Ha. Ha. It’s not funny, actually.) But this means that this silly little superman show from the 90’s is portraying an infertility plot line, but the problem isn’t the female character’s fertility, it’s her husband’s. Except that since fertility is an “inherently” feminine plot line, we get almost no emotional impact of this news on Clark himself. Lois, after all, is the one who spent the second to last episode going through the question of whether or not she’s ready to have children and deciding that she is. It could perhaps be argued that this is because Clark has been ready for a while, because a family is all that he wants, but I think it’s also because the question of a working woman choosing to have a child is, culturally speaking, a very different question to a man choosing to have a child, and has been since women became acceptable in the work place.

Here’s my point though: Clark gets the news that he can’t reproduce with Lois, goes to talk to her, and ends up holding her as she mourns this loss of something they were hoping for. She doesn’t comfort him, except by coming up with actions they can take to try to get around their incompatible biology. Lois is the one who gets to mourn, while Clark continues to emphasize that they will be okay no matter what because they love each other. And all I could think about watching this was how removed Clark was from his own fertility. How completely separated he was from it. Because in spite of the issue being his fertility and not hers, Lois is the one who gets to have an emotional arc about it, because she is the woman in the story.

One of the solutions they come up with is to ask Lois’s father, who (in rare fashion) is not a general but instead a handy-dandy generalized “scientist,” to see if there’s anything he can come up with for them. In order to do so, though, they need to reveal to him that Clark is Superman. The whole scene where they’re trying to figure out how to tell him feels a little bit queer, because I can see a modern writer turning everything from it into a trans reveal instead of a secret identity, but that’s a little beside the point. The point is that still, at no point does Clark seem distressed for himself, but instead for how Lois feels about all this— up to and including the point about her mother’s lack of maturity meaning that she doesn’t feel safe telling her they’re trying to have a baby or that they’re facing infertility.

And from all this, somehow all I can think of is how far we’ve culturally removed men from power over their own fertility. It feels like the only things that get discussed on the news or in shows, up to and including the abortion issue, is women’s fertility. We rarely talk about giving men education about and control over their fertility, only women. Women’s bodies, women’s rights, but what about the fact that the men don’t seem to be attached enough to their own fertility to know or even consider what they can do to control it for themselves? I actually wonder if the requirement (historical or present, depending on where you live) for women to get permission from their husbands to get their tubes tied has more to do with men’s fertility than with their wives’, because in some ways it seems that the only control a man is offered over his own fertility in our culture is by exerting control over his wife. There’s an alienation between men and their ability to procreate that honestly baffles me now that I’ve thought about it. It’s separated from them by their relationship with their partner’s body, and I wonder if somehow giving men more control over their own fertility, and educating them about it and how they can reclaim it from where it has been outsourced to another body, might be a positive step. I wonder if our cultural disconnect between fathers and children might take a few steps if men were taught to view their reproductive systems as more than just pleasure centers, as a part of their personal fertility.

I don’t really know where I’m going with this, I think there’s more to be explored with this idea but I’m not fully prepared to go on the biological tangent with it yet so I think I’m going to leave it at that. I just. What would it take for men to reclaim their own fertility from where it has been culturally outsourced to women’s bodies?