transphobes who are obsessed and fixated on gender who project their obsessions and fixations on to the trans community are hilarious- they say that we can't go without thinking about or mentioning our genders but then bring up theirs unprovoked. "I'm a man i can't do that," "of course i like that I'm a woman," "you can't do that to me I'm a man," "women can't wear that," "men aren't weak like that," "women can't participate in that," etc. etc. etc. etc.

these people are literally so obsessed with gender they can't separate themselves from it and yet they project. even if a trans person is obsessed with gender it's better than obsessing over other's genders to oppress them and prevent them from living freely any day. a trans person who can't shut up about how they love being trans is infinitely better than someone who can't shut up about how other people shouldn't be able to do things for arbitrary reasons

The thing is, i am scared to publicly post pictures of my hoarde after the encounter with cohost.

It's insane because it's gotten into racism and transandrophobic territory where transmen are blamed because I loudly expressed how you should not be transandrophobic. I even made an entire secondary blog dedicated to strictly talking about transandrophobia and how it hurts groups of people. I made a list of transmasc/nonbinary mascs who were killed in 2024, I posted resources, uplifted transmasc voices, and continued to focus on that focal point of it. It was never about someone else, it was always about people being targeted for being transmasc, and how transandrophobia shaped queer communities into anti-transmasculinity to favor feminine people because queer to a cishetnormative society means feminine. It means anything that ""threatens"" the "female state". To queerphobes, queer means anything that threatens what they think a female is. (which in this case no longer is just being "feminine" bc if ur masc and a "female", u still have to prove yourself.)

I'm still around family that calls women, "females". But that ""luxury"" is not given to men. It is not trans men vs trans women, it has always been how cishetnormative standards never had true femininity. Feminine people do not exist in cishetnormative society. You are either masculine or submissive. And you want to know who that hurts? Those who are ""threat"" to the "female state" or "cismasculinity".

That includes trans men for being ""gender traitors"" for being ""woman hypnotized into men"", that includes trans women for being ""predators"" for being ""men dressing as little girls"", and everyone in between like nonbinary people and intersex folks trying to retain their rights to bodily autonomy. ALL of them are harmed by the idea that feminine means queer, and let's admit - A LOT of queer people have adopted the idea that queer means feminine. They have forgotten that the reason they associate it like that is BECAUSE of cishetnormative society dressing the label that way and denoting any gay man as feminine, and now queers that have picked it up - they're excepting femininity from all trans mascs. When a trans masc doesn't present that and reinforces that they would like more masculine representation, people complain that they want to be referred as masculine. "tell me you're not comfortable with your masculinity without telling me !1!1!" kind of posts all over Twitter recently.

in cishetnormative society, it's either cismasculinity or submissiveness. and they categorize anything feminine as queer because it could ""threaten"" the basis of which these two operate on. They hate trans men for being "fake men who should be submissive", and they hate trans women for being "fake women who should be cismasculine."

and we're still trying to avoid pointing attention to how bad every queer person is handling it by refocusing on tme/tma language. (if we do what we did before but harsher, it'll go away again.)

A thing that annoys me. The transes will understand

My heart aches for our community and what we've all been facing lately. Please hang in there, everybody.

To anyone concerned about KOSA and the state of the web

My wife, @utopicwork, is working hard on a "next internet" with the primary goal of being a place where marginalized people can safely and privately communicate without being restricted by the whims of advertising algorithms and malicious bills.

This would be a decentralized peer-to-peer network, which means

A) it won't be easily shut down

B) it's built around the best aspect of tumblr: being able to choose who you do and don't connect to

She is a highly qualified computer scientist with years of experience in cybersecurity, web development and network technology. However, she can't do this alone. A trans woman is fighting hard for the future of free communication so please support her.

Trans man: *acts vulnerable*

Queerspaces: “Stop acting so meek and fragile! You are taking advantage of being afab!”

Trans man: *acts tough*

Queerspaces: “Just another toxic misogynistic man. You may be trans but you still have all the same privileges as a cisgender man!”

ok but the “lgbtq groomers are indoctrinating children” narrative is so strange to me cuz like. i had it hammered into my head so hard that i was a girl that i thought i was, as a uterus haver, obligated to have my ear impaled at eight years old. I was so conditioned into heteronormativity that i thought my only choice in life was to grow up, marry a cisgender christian man, and have his babies. Like the adults in my life practically shipped me with this guy friend i had when i was like 6 to the point where i thought we had to date when we got older. you know who’s never made me feel anything like that? queer people. when conservatives say “indoctrinating” they mean “inspiring dissent that could disrupt the status quo we’ve forced upon everyone”

"I respect you and won't stop you from being who you are" and "I'm not ready to call you by a new name and pronouns because it hurts me" can not co-exist when the speaker is your parent who has a huge amount of control over your life.

"Georgia Republicans bundled over a dozen measures that targeted the state’s transgender residents into omnibus packages in a desperate attempt to get them passed. In a stunning defeat for the GOP, every single one of them failed.

Legislators gutted bills that had passed through committee and instead stuffed them full of their anti-LGBTQ+ wishlist items.

Bills that would ban transgender students from playing on teams aligned with their gender identity, ban transgender students from bathrooms aligned with their gender identity, opt parents into notification for every book a student checks out of the library, bar sex education before sixth grade, make all sex-ed classes opt-in and expand obscenity laws to make it easier to ban books with LGBTQ+ content all failed.

“MAGA politicians in Georgia tried it all in service to their anti-LGBTQ+ agenda,” said Human Rights Campaign Georgia State Director Bentley Hudgins, “including silencing debate and gutting unrelated, popular bills that had bipartisan support to ram through policies that would have put young LGBTQ+ Georgians in harm’s way. They failed.”

“It’s undeniable that the tides are shifting, both here in Georgia and across the nation,” Georgia Equality executive director Jeff Graham added. “Anti-LGBTQ actors are losing their political power, and more and more Georgians who know and love LGBTQ people are standing up against their baseless fear-mongering.”

In Florida recently, nearly two dozen anti-LGBTQ+ bills were defeated in the wake of Gov. Ron DeSantis‘s (R) presidential campaign implosion, dozens of measures in Virginia were tabled [Note: In the US, "tabled" means "shelved" or "taken out of consideration - the opposite of its meaning in the UK and other places], and Ohio’s governor backed off his attempt to restrict gender-affirming care access for transgender adults and minors. 

Meanwhile, in D.C., Democrats successfully excised 50 anti-LGBTQ+ provisions in the two budget bills passed and signed by President Joe Biden to fund the federal government.

Even Fox News has been forced to acknowledge transgender issues are among the lowest-priority concerns among voters."

-via LGBTQ Nation, April 1, 2024

Biggest fuckin shoutout to trans people who found out they were trans and then sat in their room listening to cavetown/the village and watching videos on how to pass while crying from dysphoria y’all r the realest (it’s me I’m trans people)

For people's attention

Via old colleague Cheryl Morgan: this warning.

(For reasons unclear to me, I seem unable to simply use the Tumblr link-to-post option here. So, please see below for the meat of Cheryl's message:)

One of the things that has protected trans rights in the UK over the past couple of years is that the Tories are too busy, and too cowardly, to actually repeal the Gender Recognition Act, even though many of their MPs very much want to get that done. The anti-trans lobby is unhappy about this, and is therefore taking matters into its own hands by taking legal action. Very soon, their case will reach the Supreme Court. Should they win, the consequences for trans people in the UK (and equality law more generally) will be catastrophic. The Gender Recognition Act says, unambiguously:

Where a full gender recognition certificate is issued to a person, the person’s gender becomes for all purposes the acquired gender (so that, if the acquired gender is the male gender, the person’s sex becomes that of a man and, if it is the female gender, the person’s sex becomes that of a woman).

However, as I understand it, the argument that will be put before the Supreme Court is that allowing a trans woman to be treated as a woman is, de facto, discrimination against cisgender women, and therefore illegal under the Equality Act. As the Equality Act is a more recent piece of legislation, its provisions should supercede those of the GRA. Hopefully it is obvious that, should this claim succeed, it will open the doors to equivalent claims such as, “letting Black people into my whites-only pub is discrimination against white people,” and “building a wheelchair ramp is discrimination against able-bodied people.” Thankfully such claims are less likely to pass the Supreme Court. But the chances of this getting through are very high. And if it does, not only will the GRA be rendered useless, it will create a climate of fear in businesses all around the country. Because it will be possible for a business (or school, local authority, etc.) to be sued for discrimination if they inadvertently allow a trans woman to be treated as a woman. This will lead to a lot of proactive bans being issued at places like public toilets, gyms, clothing stores and so on. Most of the people caught by this will be gender-nonconforming cisgender women, because despite what the anti-trans lobby claims, they can’t always tell, and neither can anyone else.

...And once you've been stopped going into a women's room because you don't look (pretty) woman enough... well.

Another writer has been funding the less humane side of this argument. The people funding the humane side are short of funds to assist them making the less toxic side of the case.

Please help if you can.