Helen Gurley Brown's bestselling 1962 book Sex and the Single Girl described sexual intercourse as a route for a single woman to entice a man into marriage:
You must develop style. Every girl has one . . .
Brains are an asset but it doesn't take brainy brains like a nuclear physicist's. Whatever it is that keeps you from saying anything unkind and keeps your asking bright questions even when you don't quite understand the answers will do nicely . . .
Your figure can't harbour an ounce of baby fat. It never looked good on anyone but babies.
You must cook well. It will serve you faithfully.
You must have a job that interests you, at which you work hard.
"Normal Women: 900 Years of Making History" - Philippa Gregory
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not to get all "actually☝️" about it but. the whole point of this is the fact that it isn't at all eddie's fault and buck just doesn't know how to properly process or recognize his feelings and know what he's missing *until* he gets presented with a specific situation. in truth buck has no right to be mad at eddie for building bonds with other ppl and it's why he has to do some introspection. this is not a "oh no poor buck eddie apologize to him!!!" thing, it's about buck getting, for lack of a better term, a good emotional humbling. eddie deserves good friendships and relationships, full stop. and if he likes the way he feels when he hangs out with tommy then great!! he's his own person and not a tool to further buck's character. but you also can't expect buck to immediately recognize that because, again, and for the millionth time, the whole POINT is that he doesn't. so if it has to get ugly and uncomfortable and embarrassing for him to do so then that is what will happen and that doesn't make either of them bad people. this is not a blame to be passing around. it's just them being human beings
hot take. its shitty to make fun of people who can't / don't / won't give head, even if those people are men. not liking giving oral sex does not inherently equal being shitty inattentive partner, and the longer we pretend it does the more we run the risk of people feeling pressured to take part in sex they dislike or which makes them uncomfortable