critical to the evan/jared dynamic is that evan is also a huge asshole, he's just so much quieter with how he goes about it. only calling jared when he needs something, body blocking jared when jared goes to talk to Mrs Murphy, ditching jared the moment it was feasible for him to do so. don't get me wrong, jared is also Asshole, but he's so much louder with it. almost as if it's a facade hmm. evan does a lot of mean selfish things that he wants to pretend aren't because that's how he copes with the loathing. please note the "I don't even THINK mean things" line.

this is like. a huge facet of the show and yet. the take of "Jared is horrible to sweet bean Evan who just wanted to help. It was Jared's idea to lie anyway!!" continue to fester, a sentiment that's certainly not helped by the movie. evan IS an asshole, he's a selfish dick that people assume has much purer intentions because he's anxious. the infantilization of anxiety disorder explode. now. but evan is also very desperate and miserable and isolated. which like. everyone is. everyone in deh is miserable and isolated and sucks a little. sucking a little is the spice of life.