Shipping discourse in a fandom like Outlast is honestly an entire new level of ridiculous.

some of you are being so weird about 911 like there's "i refused to watch bucktommy kiss because i am loyal to buddie and this makes me better than you somehow" levels of insane at one end and "actually eddie isn't good enough for buck anymore and if you don't like bucktommy you clearly hate buck and also bisexuals" levels of insane at the other what is going ON with some of you this isn't twilight fandom 2008 why are you drawing battle lines please touch some grass

Little doodle of Narrator/Broadcaster 405 when he's flustered. He can choose what kind of head he wants to have- so to prevent people from reading his face he goes Camera Mode.

"Just download tinder!"

Pal, i'd rather eat glass.

hi I have a Thought I must throw into the void. Not a response to anything in particular, it just crosses my mind from time to time and makes me stupid angry.

I read "trashy" romance and do not apologize for it. It's just romance, it's not trashy. It's not a guilty pleasure. I fucking love that shit. I read my faerie porn voraciously.

I don't judge other people's intelligence by what they choose to read for fun and I hope you don't either!

I feel like there's a steady metaphorphosis of the bored housewife stereotype into "the booktok girlie" specifically for romance novel consumption. It's derogatory when it really shouldn't be.

I'm not absolving the community of its problems, because lord knows there are many, but that doesn't mean it's free range to drag anyone that reads a lot of romance.

You aren't into it. Cool. Move on. I'm not sure why it seems like the same people that talk about not yucking yums in fanfiction turn their nose up at afab people reading a lot of romance.

Is it because it seems "normie" to you? If you bothered to crack one open you might find that your fanfiction and what they're reading isn't that different.

FYI

Anon asks are officially closed hahahah we had a good run of it ya'll but :) please use your common sense online and don't send inappropriate messages to people who are essentially strangers to you! I am a real human person behind this tumblr so use your best judgement.

The vast majority of you have been very well behaved so I wanted to say thank you for that. ♥ Thank you all for your support!!

No offense but when is aliexpress gonna come out with factory extras of these already

I simply cannot express how much utter joy this has brought me!

I just realized that one of the things that have been bothering me (apart from certain people in the Marina fandom lacking boundaries and moderation) is the fact that oftentimes Maya’s and Carina’s relationship is labeled as “relationship goals”, which is also kind of ironic, given the sheer hatred Maya keeps receiving for being traumatized and mentally ill.

The point is, I don’t think their relationship was ever meant to be anything close to perfect or have a role model function, which is why it is concerning to label it as such.

Both of them entered this relationship with a lot of emotional baggage, especially in regard to their own families (especially their fathers). On top of that, they both didn’t really talk about said emotional baggage for quite a while and refused to get professional help for it, too. And then we have the fact that they disagreed on topics that were highly relevant for their relationship: marriage and children. In the end, they still get married and Maya even agrees on having kids, but if this were a real relationship, this almost certainly would go wrong in the long run, and it’s just not realistic that Maya would change her mind so quickly, just like their wedding was extremely rushed. And that is not even taking into account that Maya cheated on Carina with Jack and that Carina still ends up being friends with Jack again.

Fast-forward to more recent struggles, and we once again see a lack of communication between the two of them. Carina preferred to talk to anyone but Maya about her marriage problems and Maya just completely shut off, which is understandable but doesn’t help their marriage at all.

And I am not saying that their entire marriage is completely dysfunctional, because there definitely are beautiful moments between them, but in the end my argument still stands that the writers weren’t going for a beautiful, picture perfect, functional relationship.

And that’s okay!

They decided to show a relationship that had a less than ideal start, with two people who come with a lot of baggage that they refuse to talk about and fail to resolve in healthy ways a lot of the time. They often need a metaphoric explosion before they come to their senses and realize they cannot go on like this. Their relationship is deeply flawed because they are deeply flawed. And that’s just what relationships are like, sometimes. But I still wouldn’t suggest that anyone take their relationship as an example for what to look for in a relationship, because in real life this would almost certainly fail or lead to some sort of toxic trauma bonding, and I’m not sure anyone would want that for their own relationship.

That being said: The main issue seems to be the discrepancy in what demographic this entire storyline was written for and the demographic that is a big part of the actual fandom. As someone who grew up with Callie and Arizona as the main queer couple on TV, I know what it’s like to see a dysfunctional relationship and overlook the dysfunctional parts because that’s just the little representation you get, after all. There’s a considerable gap in the positive and healthy representation of queer couples for younger folks, and it’s showing. I personally don’t need or want positive representation, because I am at an age (oh, here we go) where I quite enjoy messy and realistic representation. Because I know when things are messy and problematic.

However, that does not mean that there is no hope left for this relationship. If they both! go to therapy and make amends, they might as well find ways to a healthy relationship. It’s fine if they do, it’s fine if they don’t. Again, the writers have done a remarkable job at portraying a realistic relationship - and sometimes realistic does mean messy and dysfunctional and problematic, and I hope more people are able to acknowledge that in the future. And by the way, that doesn’t mean that you can’t ship problematic couples - heck, I do it all the time, but it does mean that sometimes we need to use our critical thinking skills and not sugarcoat behaviours that weren’t meant to be healthy in the first place. Thanks for coming to my ted talk about problematic relationships!

Status: Tired 👍

I admit I'm... skeptical of the broadness of autism diagnosis that's gotten popular lately mostly because that would mean I'm almost definitely autistic and every social struggle I've had through my life could be easily explained as something other than "I guess I'm just an asshole fail person who doesn't want friends" and the reason socializing is so frustrating and draining is because I spend the entire time masking and trying to guess how I'm supposed to react and the reason I like being alone is because I can hyperfixate and act like a creature in peace with no witnesses to call me weird but that almost feels... too convenient.

Like I can attribute all my faults to various traumas and identities like this is because I'm trans and this is because I'm an only child and this is because I'm introverted and this is because of what so and so did on and on forever. Or maybe I'm just ~autistic~

when the universe gives you a perfectly functional foosball table on a neighbour's nature strip.... ofc you summon your inner amazonian warrior and walk that thing halfway up the street home

now i just have to figure out how to get it through my doors

I'm of the opinion that if people just stopped getting mad about ships that aren't what they shipped they'd be happier.

being, to my deepest core, allergic to fandom drama, I'm excited for like 18 months from now when I can finally enter the BG3 character tags

3 months left to go and I'm over it already.

It seems like only white ppl are mad abt thor 4. Why am I not shocked xp

Why are you turning this into a race thing? Because Marvel is trying to use representation as a shield so that they can get away with crappy movies? Or is it that you feel better about yourself if you make a caricature of those who disagree with you? Because either way, it's wrong.

L&T has been criticized by most fans because it's not a good movie. If you like it that's cool, and by all means if you want to discuss the things you like I'm all ears, but if you need to bring race into this I'm simply not interested. That's not an argument, it's an excuse to try and discredit what is otherwise sound criticism.

You're allowed to dislike something done by a non-white person and that doesn't mean you're a racist. You're allowed to dislike the work of a woman and that doesn't mean you're a misogynist. All these blanket statements where you think an entire group of people don't like a movie because they're all bigots are quite frankly part of the problem and a sign of bigotry in itself. Puritanism is not a good look and if you're old enough to have an account here you're old enough to research it and educate yourself.

If my tone sounds harsh it's not my intent but I'll be damned... stop searching for bigots where there are none, not everything in life has to be a morality contest. Sometimes people don't like a movie and there's no dark motive behind it, they just don't like it!