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i love lesbians
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alison bechdel truly deeply gets me like no one else in the entire world
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@ People who’re not lesbians and want a better understanding of lesbophobia in order to extend better solidarity towards us:
(Repost from my old blog)
The first thing you have to internalize, is that the most recurrent themes behind lesbophobia are patterns of humiliation, punishment and denying us vulnerability.
The “mean” (arrogant and cruel) lesbian, and why lesbians must be “humbled down” (humiliated):
We’re perceived as offensively arrogant because under the patriarchy, women are supposed to be inferior to men, men are supposed to be superior.
One of the key roles of patriarchal manhood is to desire women exclusively. By taking on that role that’s supposedly only reserved for men, we provoke people to think “Who do they think they are? Do they think they’re equal to men? Or BETTER than men?“
Us not “giving men a chance” is seen as a cruel act, too. Even though straight men not giving men a chance, and straight women not giving women a chance, is them just knowing what they do or don’t want.
Because of our perceived cruelty and arrogance, we need to be humiliated back down into our proper place within womanhood.
There’s a reason why men tell us they’re going to make us “real women”, when threatening us from a distance, as well as when correctively raping or beating us. When it reaches a point in which they see us as incorrigible through humiliation, they kill us.
Projecting aggression on us, which must be punished:
Even other people who’re not cishets see everything we do or don’t do as violent, abrasive or aggressive. We’re seen as raging beasts.
Expressing my unattraction to men in public in the most neutral terms possible has been treated as me shaming people who are attracted to men (an attack), or as an attempt to hurt all men. It has been deemed homophobic or biphobic, too, no matter how careful I’ve been to not hurt other people’s sensitivities.
Don’t get me started on me not liking men on itself earning me being called a TERF no matter how clear I make it that I’m inclusive of trans women. This happens even to transfem lesbians ALL the time too.
Our mere existence is seen as an act of violence, as a threat, and our violent crime must be met with punishment, which can fall anywhere between isolating us, up to meeting us with concrete violence.
The emotionless, yet hysterical lesbian:
Since we’re violent beasts, we’re seen as emotionless. Since we’re unemotional, we’re unbreakable, which means that no violence we face is punishment enough. In consequence, when we’re subjected to violence, it’s minimized. Since it’s minimized, if we complain about it, we’re exaggerating. We’re being hysterical.
We aren’t vulnerable human beings with emotions in other people’s eyes. The only emotion people allow us is anger, and only because they can use it against us. Lesbian anger at being constantly humiliated and vilified is used to demonize us further.
We don’t need protection, we don’t hurt, so it’s fine to stomp on us, and if we complain, we’re exaggerating. Actually, we’re the ones being mean to whoever hurt us, by making that person feel guilty for a non-issue.
We ESPECIALLY don’t need help, much less to be rescued!
By being lesbians, in other people’s eyes, we’re making the statement to the world that even IF we were to not be completely unbreakable or unfeeling, we still don’t want to be rescued, we don’t want help. We did this to ourselves, in other people’s eyes.
When you see a lesbian saying or doing anything and start to feel indignation, to feel attacked, to feel threatened, to perceive them as aggressive, cruel or hysterical, ask yourself:
Is this lesbian being genuinely offensive, aggressive, cruel or hysterical, or is it ME who has lesbophobic bias I haven’t unlearned yet?
Is this lesbian actually exaggerating, or is it me who sees lesbians as unfeeling and unbreakable, so they shouldn’t be so upset anyway? If you stab a lesbian they won’t bleed, so why are they making a fuss about it?
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men hate butch dykes because we retain a boyish charm that makes menswear look good on us forever. men would kill to have the confidence of a masc lesbian aged 42. we get decades to dress like male models, businessmen, outdoorsmen, bikers, movie stars, rappers, eccentric geniuses, heroes and villains while they lose their hair and get erectile dysfunction. sad but true!
#⚢#and if you think that’s being mean to men then boy would i love for you to watch a drag king perform lol
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last night i dreamt of a stranger...
i know... it's you.
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a story in progress.
#⚢#butch#illustration#digital#it isn't even fanart anymore I fear i've freaked it too hard this time#< he/him#she/her >#leather
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#kd lang#cindy crawford#vanity fair#lesbian#butch#⚢#had to convert this to jpg from webp . disgusting!#ul
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• BUTCH LESBIAN
• WEST ASIAN + WHITE
• SHI'A MUSLIM
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You can call me Silver or Sil, 18+, I go by she/her pronouns. This is a side account and my main is private so if you know me from my main please don't reference it here.
Polls by lesbians for lesbians since the rest of y'all can't behave.
Lesbians only: men, non-lesbian women and NBs, TERF's, radfems, Bi and M-spec 'lesbians' are not allowed here (and any other lesbophobe)
Zionists, racists, homophobes, incest fetishizers and pedophiles can fuck off too.
I have the right and obligation to refuse any questions I feel are a breach of this safe space.
Submit your polls, questions and comments and have them answered. Mature questions are allowed under the #mature topics tag but I exercise my right to decline to post any questions.
Submit your polls with a question and answers. I have the right to edit answers to fix typos and clarify topics and what not, but I will try to keep that at a minimum.
WEIRDOS SO FAR THAT HAVE INTERACTED WITH ME: 16
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something that's so good abt jennifers body is that it's built up entirely on honesty followed by joke. honesty followed by deflection. honesty followed by pop culture joke. and all of this builds up until the end of the movie, when jennifer jokes away her death saying "my tit" and needy corrects her. no. your heart. stop joking. stop deflecting. you were my best friend and I killed you. there's no looking away from this
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Nothing has felt more freeing than finding my home in lesbianism, even against how much literally everybody else, cishet or not, violently hates us.
Trying out identifying as bi felt suffocating and for me was nothing but an exercise of constant panic after panic of "Why am I not liking men enough? I have to like men more. I have to get myself to find men more attractive. Why can't I naturally feel anything for men? Stop stop stop only finding women and some non-binary people attractive. What's wrong with me?"
Trying to identify as vaguely queer/vaguely sapphic/unlabelled was also hell for me. I felt adrift, insincere, and without a home or community that could understand the specificity of who I was (which, granted, is not something everyone needs, but I do).
Are any of those options inherently bad? No! Of course not. But they were terrible for me.
When I finally allowed myself to try out how I felt understanding myself as a lesbian instead, even through all the self-hatred that was imposed onto me by both cishets and the LGBT community alike, even through all the trauma and marginalization, I finally felt I wasn't forcing it anymore. It finally felt like the piece of the puzzle fit, perfectly and comfortably.
When I started envisioning my love life as only including other sapphics, suddenly the only pressure I felt was that of external homophobia. I would only have gay relationships going forward and it didn't feel limiting like so many people insist that must be, it felt like I'd finally found my true freedom. I will only have gay sex! I will only have gay love! FINALLY! The only love I care to have is the only one I will seek out and have!
Lesbianism is only restrictive if you try to force it onto someone to whom it just doesn't come effortlessly, but there are people out there for whom it does, and for us, it's not a cage, it's a warm embrace in an otherwise very cold and lonely world.
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that said. lesbians who smoke weed and don’t try and be overly pc are keeping this website alive <3
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photos by J.E.B. • from Women: A Journal of Liberation, vol. 5 no. 2 (January 1974)
#the link goes to Jstor where many editions of this publication are available for download for free :)#i was lucky enough to get to flip thru this one in person on the land#⚢#lesbian#women: a journal of liberation#j.e.b.#women's land#lesbian herstory#photography
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Plush are precious
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