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sonicaro · 6 months
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i fully believe trans men and plenty of other men, like for an example, black men, are specifically treated the way they are BECAUSE theyre men. like if you look at the way black women and black men are treated its completely different types of abuse. black men are "scary" to white people because theyre men specifically and thats why theyre usually victims in lynchings. theyre considered sexual predators (because theyre men) and dangerous (because theyre men) so theyre clearly being punished for being men.
trans men are similar and tbh? i think trans women experience the same anti man sentiment because whether we like it or not we're men to these people. all 3 of us, and plenty of other races and disabilities and intersex and stuff, are punished for being men wrong, or for being masculine, and for being dangerous. passing trans men having to use womens restaraunts in some places is not some funny gotcha. trans men are being seriously beaten because they look like men so theyre dangerous like men. theyre no safer in the womens room than we are as a broad class (obviously nonpassing trans men and well passing trans women both skate by a little freer).
youll even see cis women punished for proximity to masculinity theyre getting the shit beat of them for using the bathroom while masculine also. i really genuinely believe that in these situations men and "men" (us tgirls) are being punished as men specifically. we have to have these questions about being punished for masculinity or percieved masculinity talked about more in our community.
i dont like the word transandrophobia for a variety of reasons, most importantly i think the problem is wider than just trans men, lots of disabled men, men from "violent" cultures or races, and even women (cis and trans) are affected, and on a more nitpicky level i think its too similar to transmisogyny which is a fully different and more specific phenomenon, but yeah. we gotta stop fucking fighting over whether or not we like the word honestly its so petty in comparison to whats actually happening, which is genuine assaults happening all over the place, because womens restrooms are a GREAT place to violently enforce gender roles under "threat" of sexual assault against, lbr, cishet dyadic abled white women. everyone else gets shoved off into "other"
speaking of feminism can you guys please figure out how to separate men as a social class and men as a gender thanks
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sonicaro · 8 months
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STOP FLAGGING US FOR SAYING "TRANS"
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sonicaro · 8 months
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if they said it about a real person they would be its literally no different... like there IS a difference between saying "if you liked x y and z in elementary school youre probably a man now" and saying "this real gnc person i dont know is such an egg" and you know what? its creepy when lesbians and gay men try to clock people as having same sex attraction but being closeted or not knowing yet too. its not wrong to say "if you liked programming, machine girl, and catgirls a year ago youre probably a woman now" or "x character is such an egg" and someone complains theyre straight up being a dick tho because THATS directly comparable and totally fine. its just tryong to clock actual people thats an issue. im literally constantly calling fictional characters eggs and making jokes about little egg me its different
it really is so funny that the whole argument over egg jokes has taken place on the same website that people regularly joke that little girls that liked horses or wolves or my chemical romance or dolls or very popular fantasy books or collecting leafs and rocks or incredibly well known late 2000s animanga or pretending to be warrior cats in the playground or drinking water and breathing are gay guys now. but are not accused of being creepy fetishist gender essentialists for it.
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sonicaro · 1 year
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literally everyone youre responding to is sayong its self identification. a 12 year old is not old enough for surgery but a reversible drug that was originally MADE for children who experience early onset puberty at like 7? i bet youre all for that cant have those nasty Intersexes around messing up your perfect binary.
its ridiculous that you think we should take away peoples bodily autonomy for their safety. personally i think if you want horn implants and a lizard tongue and 30 piervings and tattoos you should be able to do that so youre not gonna convince me taking a natural hormone half the population has or blockers which were made to be child safe and reversible is evil 😭😭😭 youre such a fucking baby.
btw go ahead and ignore the part that pokes a giant hole in your argument that adults cant decide whats best for their body. go ahead and keep pulling random shit out of your ass every time someone says something to you too. like you literally made that up who said we know whos trans 😭😭😭
heres an example of making a point from something someone is actually saying; if we can decide whether a person should be allowed to augment their body, do you believe doctors that deny cis women hysterectomies until theyve had multiple children are right, even if the patient is a high cancer risk? or is that a disgusting offense to adults who can make their own decisions on whether they want kids? what about abortion? are adults REALLY smart enough to decide they dont want children? what if they change their mind 🥺 and we didnt force them to have children they dont want so they have no children and they might be sad later 😱 oh noooooes someone who made a choice might be sad better make sure theres no choice!!!
“detransitioners” taking it out on the trans community instead of admitting they took a massive L and were never truly trans in the first place
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sonicaro · 1 year
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"people who dont identify as trans arent trans" "oh so you mean we should take bodily autonomy away from adults because you can mystically tell when they arent trans?" where the fuck did you get that. like the kids thing is stupid as fuck too bodily autonomy for children forever but the idea of banning adults from doing something that isnt even bad for their health because sometimes people make a mistake is sooo funny. question, do you bother people who smoke cigarettes and drink this much or does it only matter if people """""harm""""" themselves if u dont like it personally?
“detransitioners” taking it out on the trans community instead of admitting they took a massive L and were never truly trans in the first place
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sonicaro · 1 year
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Okay, this is my last post about the Present Discourse but defining Lesbianism in relation to men really seems to run entirely against the grain of being a lesbian. If someone is a bisexual lesbian then that means they're a bisexual lesbian. And, not to put words in other peoples mouths, they're not concerned with men.
They're Lesbians. That's why they're using the word lesbian, why is that a problem.
Two dykes can fuck each other and simultaneously admire a man's ass.
If your beef is 'we need our own special word' then grow the fuck up. Your special word is lesbian. Its right there. No one is adulterating it. It means women that fuck women. There are Dykes, there are Bulldaggers, there are Butches, there are Studs, there are Femmes, there are He/Him Lesbians. Not all lesbians have vaginas. Not all lesbians are women. And in that same vein not all gay men have cocks and not all gay men are men. We (Dykes) aren't special and we aren't excluded from fluidity.
And also sexuality and queerness don't need to be firmly defined. I was ace for a while, now I might not be ace. Shit changes. Hell, I was a guy for 23 years. Shit can and does change over the course of someone's life.
If you're main beef with bisexual lesbianism is the fact that these women have the capacity to be attracted to men then maybe chill. They're lesbians. That's why they're using the word lesbian. If you're worried that Bisexual Lesbians will somehow compromise "The Sexuality" in the face of the straights then I don't know what to tell you.
Respectability politics never win. Exclusion is never the right choice. There are Bisexual Lesbians in this world, no amount of whining is going to change this fact.
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sonicaro · 1 year
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this new thing (a small percentage of) other trans girls r doing that makes me intensely mad is like. saying everyone loves men who crossdress but as soon as they decide theyre a woman theyre discriminated against. how ignirant of drag culture queer history and just generally lacking common sense. society does NOT love men who crossdress just because finnster is popular also WE ARE FRIENDS WE ARE BESTIES u dont have 2 literally complain about how good crossdressers have it 2 b oppressed thats not how that works. i just saw this blog and like their whole thing was whining abt transandrophobia ppl and crossdressers like post after post about how no one on eatth is as oppressed as a trans girl. sorry but a black gay man who crossdresses is actually MORE oppressed than a white trans woman bc of intersectionality esp depending on where they live and how well they each "pass". its more complicated than just "everyone hates trans women more than anything in the world". u dont hav 2 b a baedel about it. fucking loser.
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sonicaro · 1 year
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shoutout to the trans and nonbinary men, mascs, etc. who were AMAB (or not AFAB). you dont get enough love, let alone recognition. you deserve better and i absolutely adore your gender. i am giving you the biggest hug, if you want one. double hug if you're intersex.
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sonicaro · 1 year
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[ID: The text "This February, say NO to amatonormativity" in green, pink, and red letters. The background is a picture of red, pink, and white heart shaped sprinkles arranged to form a heart, with pink and glittery photo filters applied. End ID]
february is for the aros now
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sonicaro · 1 year
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“trans men don’t experience misogyny because they’re men thus cannot experience women’s oppression”
I hate to tell you this but even cis men experience misogyny if they step a toe over the line of what our incredibly sexist society sees as “proper” for a man. You really don’t think that a man with interests or expression the world sees as “female” aren’t treated with violence?
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sonicaro · 1 year
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i love you closeted queer people, i love you queer people who are afraid to "look queer", i love you queer people who hate getting told things like "you ping my gaydar" because that's scary, i love you queer people who are terrified of being outed, i love you queer people who don't fit the narrow tiktok/tumblr idea of what queer looks like (ESPECIALLY if you're disabled and/or a poc and that's part of why you don't), i love you queer people who rely on queerphobic family to survive, i love you queer people who find it hard to joke about their sexuality/gender, i love you queer people with a complicated relationship to being queer
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sonicaro · 1 year
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Know your history:
Gay:
Used to mean carefree
Then sexually deviant
Then prostitute
Then slut
Then sodomite
And THEN as we know it today but only as a slur
Reclaimed in the seventies
LGBT:
Invented in the nineties
Has faced constant backlash (from both straight, queer, and LGBT folks from being not inclusive enough or too inclusive)
Every year there are pushes to change to acronym
LGBTQ
LGBTQ+
LGBTQ*
LGBTQIA
Mogai
Alphabet soup
Queer:
Used to mean “other”
Became a slang term for “not straight” in the 1400s
Became a slur in the early 1900s
Reclaimed in the 80s.
Sudden push back from within the queer community to have it seen only as a slur in the 2010s, a push that can be traced back to terf ideology.
Is the only term that includes all non cishet people
Homosexual
A medical diagnosis
Used for decades to make queerness into a mental illness
Used as a slur for the latter half of the 20th century
Rejected by the queer community as an acceptable term for a brief period of time in the early 2000s before coming back into fashion.
Only describes the experience of cis gay men and cis lesbians
Think what you want, believe what you will, but every word we have ever used to describe ourselves is coated in blood.
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sonicaro · 1 year
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if you think you're "validating", defending or affirming neopronouns and neopronoun users by saying "they're just used by neurodivergent kids and don't harm anyone"
you're wrong.
what you're doing is limiting neopronouns to a very specific group. you're implying that "they just don't know better" so they use neopronouns. that "they will grow out of it eventually". not to mention that the constant conflation of neurodivergence with "being childlike" is super annoying and condescending.
i've been saying this shit for literal years. i'm 23. i exclusively use neopronouns. would you like to know what happens to me on a regular basis? i get mocked, insulted, harassed for daring to use neopronouns "at my fossil age" by queer people of all ages, but especially teens, the very people you all say that neopronouns "are for".
if your acceptance of neopronouns is tied to ridiculous criteria like age or neurotype and leads to harassment of people who don't fit the criteria, it's not acceptance. it's either acceptance for all neopronoun users or it's not acceptance at all.
after all, my current favourite neopronouns, ze/hir, were used by leslie feinberg, *as a literal queer elder*.
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sonicaro · 1 year
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as funny as top/bottom/switch jokes can be, i wanna drill into queer kids heads that those terms are 1) not myers-briggs personality types 2) likely not something you know about yourself if you’re a virgin 3) inherently sexual and therefore 4) not something adults should assign you, even as a joke
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sonicaro · 1 year
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I think that all terfs who call themselves "females" should watch this video
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sonicaro · 1 year
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sonicaro · 1 year
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A LGBTQ/Queer Jewish Reading List (in no particular order)
Nice Jewish Girls, a lesbian anthology edited by Evelyn Torton Beck
Twice Blessed, edited by Christie Balka and Andy Rose
Queer Jews, edited by David Shneer and Caryn Aviv
Mentsh: On Being Jewish and Queer, edited by Angela Brown
Found Tribe, edited by Lawrence Schimel
Balancing on the Mechitza: Transgender in the Jewish Community, edited by Noach Dzmura
Between Sodom and Eden, by Lee Walzer
God vs. Gay?: The Religious Case for Equality, by Jay Michaelson
Through the Door of Life: A Jewish Journey Between Genders, by Joy Ladin
Blood, Marriage, Wine, and Glitter, by S. Bear Bergman
Keep Your Wives Away from Them: Orthodox Women, Unorthodox Desires, edited by  Miryam Kabakov
Torah Queeries: Weekly Commentaries on the Hebrew Bible, edited by  Gregg Drinkwater, Joshua Lesser and David Shneer
Kulanu (All of Us): A Program & Resource Guide for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Inclusion, by Richard F. Address, Joel L. Kushner, and Geoffrey Mitelman
Judaism and Homosexuality: An Authentic Orthodox View, by Rabbi Chaim Rapoport
Queer Theory and the Jewish Question, edited by Daniel Boyarin, Daniel Itzkovitz, and Ann Pellegrini
Queering the Text: Biblical, Medieval, and Modern Jewish Stories, by Andrew Ramer
The Passing Game: Queering Jewish American Culture, by Warren Hoffman
Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition, by Rabbi Steven Greeberg
Like Bread on the Seder Plate: Jewish Lesbians and the Transformation of Tradition, by Rebecca Alpert
This list doesn’t include all the memoirs, all the fiction short story collections. They’re mostly books I’ve read— some of them, like “Like Bread on a Seder Plate” and “Queer Jews” I grew up with, others, like “Torah Queeries” and “Keep Your Wives Away From Them” I read on my own time. They range from Orthodox to Reconstructionist to Reform, and encompass a variety of ways of tangling with Jewish tradition.
If you are curious about LGBTQ people in the Jewish tradition, I urge you read at least one if not more of these.
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