Treating all non standard brains as disordered, only a result of trauma, etc is literally against the very foundations of the idea of neurodiversity.

Sysmedicalism is against neurodiversity acceptance.

"There has to be a reason for plurality, same as any other neurodivergency, and that reason has to be trauma"

Why is it that plurality is the only neurodivergency treated like this? There's no trauma requirement for autism or ADHD. And there's no known certain one and only one cause for either of those too. And not all neurodivergencies are inherently a disorder. Something has to be more than just divergent from the norm in order to be a disorder. It has to also cause dysfunction, distress, or danger. Synesthesia is a prime example of a neurodivergency that is neither caused by trauma nor is it a disorder. Plurality can be that way too. And saying that plurality is always a disorder is wrong - and there's a ton of nondisordered traumagenic systems out there to prove it.

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Say it with me, kids, "I do not deserve this pain. I am in chronic pain due to forces outside of my control. I should not have to earn pain relief. I am good. I do not deserve to be shamed for my pain. It is not my fault."

Advice if you love/care about an addict but they're not ready for abstinence. This is meeting people where they're at- the most important part of harm reduction

Do you like koalas

Yeah they're pretty neat

Yay thank you :D

Genuinely cannot tell what is the right side or wrong side in this thing anymore 😭 otherwise the cardigan is going well I think

Genuinely cannot tell what is the right side or wrong side in this thing anymore 😭 otherwise the cardigan is going well I think

if the pain isn't my fault then why do I feel guilty?

(society has led you to believe you are a burden for needing help)

I want to love my body but some days I hate it

(your body is trying its best to keep you going, but I understand why you feel that way)

I want to pause everything, I don't want to feel like this anymore

(me too. maybe we could just sit together for awhile?)

My top surgeon said since I'm so crazy betitted, my scar is likely going to be in one piece across my whole chest, so I'm going to talk to him about getting my scar done in a sort of V shape, almost like I've been autopsied, but from under my armpit. No idea if it's possible, but it would be really funny. And yes I'm being serious. This isn't a bit. If I'm not gonna have nipples, I might as well go full silly.

"Transgender? This is from when the aliens took me. I'm an LGBabducTee."

do you think, like, one of those makeup remover wipes would be good enough to remove the sunscreen without having to scrub?

It could be worth trying, if that's what's easiest! I just don't have a lot of experience with makeup remover wipes / facial wipes because every time I've tried they've messed up my ridiculously sensitive skin, but I see how it could be convenient. Maybe micellar water on cotton pads could remove most of it too. I'd still wash your face with plain water after it too though.

this is your gentle reminder to stop fighting against your adhd and instead structure your life around it

buy a pack of chapsticks and put one in the pocket of all of your coats and jackets because you always forget to bring one and chapped lips is sensory hell

leave important things where you can see them. if they go in a box or a drawer you will forget they exist

put any appointments or deadlines in your phone calendar As Soon As you get them. set a reminder for a week before, a day before, an hour before, as many as you need as often as you need them.

when that little voice in your head says "i dont need to write that down, ill remember it" that is the devil talking!!! write it down anyway!!

plan for down time. have a few hours at the end of every day to just do fun stuff like engage in your hyperfixations. even if you didnt get all of your work done that day, have the rest anyway. you probably spent the whole day beating yourself up for not doing what you Should be doing, so you still need the break.

if you never eat vegetables because its too much effort to chop and cook them, get the frozen or canned shit. it doesnt go off for ages and you just have to microwave it. theres no point buying fresh vegetables if they just keep going off and being left to rot in the bottom of your fridge

if you struggle to decide what to have for dinner every day, take the decision out of it. choose a set of meals and eat those on rotation until you get sick of them, then choose some new ones and do it again.

its not stupid if it works! our brains literally have a chemical deficiency. you are allowed to accommodate yourself. go forth and stop making your life more difficult than it has to be because "this shouldn't be this hard". it is hard, so make it easier.

As a wheelchair user I'm trying to reframe my language for "being in the way."

"I'm in the way," "I can't fit," and "I can't go there," is becoming "there's not enough space," "the walkway is too narrow," and "that place isn't accessible."

It's a small change, but to me it feels as if I'm redirecting blame from myself to the people that made these places inaccessible in the first place. I don't want people to just think that they're helping me, I want them to think that they're making up for someone else's wrongdoing. I want them to remember every time I've needed help as something someone else caused.

most trans people who people like to call "non transitioning" actually do transition, but people don't want to acknowledge that not all transition is medical

changing your hair is transition

deciding to shave or grow your body hair is transition

doing something different with make up is transition

changing your new wardrobe is transition

changing your name is transition

changing your pronouns is transition

coming out to people is transition

even just accepting your own transness without telling anyone else is transition, as it changes how you see yourself

it's almost impossible to be trans and truly non transitioning, even if that transition might be non medical, non visible or entirely self contained

all kinds of transition are valid.

there are also things that aren't necessarily associated with transition that an individual may consider to be part of their transition, like working out to make their body look different, getting piercings and tattoos and so much more

there are so many ways of transitioning besides surgery and hormones

"non transitioning nonbinary/trans person" is just code for "i don't consider your transition to be real because it doesn't fully fit into what cis people expect"

"some parents would rather have a non transitioning trans child than one who does" like yeah no shit. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who doesn't come out, doesn't change anything about themself. not their name, not their pronouns, not their hair or wardrobe. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who never talks about being trans so their parents can pass them off as cis. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child that is in the closet. of course a lot of parents would rather have a trans child who stays in the closet so they don't have to deal with their transness. but you all mean "non transitioning" as in "not medically transitioning" and that's not true either. trans people get kicked out of their house for doing as little as changing their pronouns. and if you say you're doing literally anything as part of your transition/because you're trans, people will absolutely give you shit for it, while a cis person can do the same thing and it's no biggie. social transition is not accepted at all.

there are some weird trans people out there who will completely dismiss people's life saving transition steps as "non transitioning" because they don't fit cis ideas of transness, it's disgusting

when i say "transition" i'm always including medical transition and social transition, as well as anything else an individual may consider part of their transition that doesn't necessarily fit into the two boxes

also can we stop acting like social transition isn't also constantly under attack

I 99% agree. But the reason a lot of people who are into skincare, like myself, recommend a very simple routine as a good starting option it that daily sunscreen is quite important, and if you are doing that then you're gonna need to properly remove it at night. Water alone is not really enough to remove all of it (unless you're scrubbing harshly, I guess, which is never good) and leftover traces of sunscreen are a common reason why people think sunscreen makes their skin worse / breaks them out. So if you're using sunscreen it's just a good idea to have a cleanser to use to remove it at night. A cleanser effective enough to remove all sunscreen from your skin is likely to leave it too dry, so a moisturiser afterwards can be quite helpful.

It's always weird to me whenever I see people saying "all you really need is like a minimum or 3 or 4 products" when it comes to makeup or skincare for your face because like.

IDK. Maybe it's because I was raised by [largely black] feminists. Maybe it's because I was raised in an environment where there is a religious objection to makeup. Maybe it's because the significant majority of my friends both growing up and even nowadays don't wear makeup unless they are deliberately trying to make a statement or draw attention to the fact that they're wearing makeup. Maybe it's because the only times I've ever worn makeup were due to ballet competitions and I had to be pinned down and forced to wear it.

Anyway the minimum anyone, literally anyone, ever needs is a clean washcloth and clean, warm water. UV protection if you'll be out in the sun. And if you're experiencing anything literally any skin issue, talk to a dermatologist about products that may help alleviate your symptoms, including oral medication.

You wanna wear makeup? Wear makeup idgaf. But "the minimum you need is a good foundation and-" no. The minimum you need is to clean your face with water. If you're finding that's not helping your skin, and it's a chronic problem? You probably have a health problem you need to talk to a doctor about.

caring about things is cool being passionate is cool being earnest is cool being genuine is cool being compassionate is cool

More solid evidence of the guardian DIY hit piece.

It's being headed up by a 'gender-critical' author who has a book coming out as well.

Do Not Talk to them no matter what they say.