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As a medium/lower support needs autistic who works with young higher support needs autistic:
We all matter. We all have the same diagnosis. We all deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
But we are not the same.
I can mask and might be seen as 'odd' or 'weird' in public. The students I work with are seen as 'dangerous' and 'practically little kids'.
I can go to university and work with accommodations. The students I work with likely will never live independently and a few might find jobs that support them but still pay them less than an abled worker.
I have full control of my finances. The students I work with aren't allowed to make independent financial decisions, even if capable.
If I say 'no,' I'm making a choice. The students I work with can't say 'no' without being labeled as defiant and difficult.
I can feed myself, bathe myself, and take care of myself with extreme challenges. The students I work with are unable to take care of themselves without high levels of support/one on one support.
I had an IEP in high school but was mainstreamed in classes. The students I work with take separate classes and some rarely get to interact with their abled peers.
Our experiences are fundamentally different. Higher support needs autistics will experience a specific type of ableism I never will, and can never fully understand.
Lower support needs autistics need to stop saying we understand what higher support needs autistics are going through and then present autism as only being disabling because of society/lack of acceptance because that is dangerous. We need to stop saying every autistic person is capable of everything if given the right support because that leaves out huge parts of our community who will never be able to do certain things, regardless of support.
We are worthy of existence regardless of our abilities.
Autism is a spectrum. It is not the same for every autistic person. Autism acceptance and advocacy has to come with accepting, acknowledging, and listening to our higher support needs peers.
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important psa
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reminder that indigenous queer folks do not need to fit your colonial definitions or conceptions of queerness in order to be valid, worthy, and spectacular.
if your concept of what a lesbian looks like requires that all lesbians have shaved or short hair, then you’re excluding ntv lesbians who honour our ancestors by growing our hair long.
i’m no less of a butch for having hair that goes down to my tailbone. i’m no less of a butch for wearing my hair in a braid. i’m also still butch when i wear beaded earrings, a ribbon skirt, and moccasins.
if your idea of queerness is tied to whiteness, that’s just a shame. indigeneity and queerness go together like inhaling and exhaling. one cannot exist without the other.
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Feeling sexual attraction for someone and wanting to have sex with someone are actually two completely different but very similar feelings, and don't let any allosexuals (for whom this feeling is largely the same and very difficult for them to differentiate) tell you any different.
As an asexual (I identify as greysexual), I rarely feel sexual attraction even to my husband, but I want to have sex with him because he is awesome 🥰.
I'm still ace and it's still completely valid.
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Aspec representation is important because kids are still told in health class that everyone feels attraction
Aspec representation is important because somewhere in the world there’s a 12 year old crying because they feel broken
Aspec representation is important because I still get told “that’s not real” when I come out
Aspec representation is important because people still think the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for ally
Aspec representation is important because everyone deserves to see someone like them on screen
Aspec representation is important because people still think that asexual and aromantic are the same thing
Aspec representation is important
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Nothing more punk than someone who is in pain all the fucking time and just continues to exist.
Edit: this isn't about random characters. This is about physically disabled people.
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I’m curious about something…
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i cannot stress this enough, but never let anyone tell you that your asexuality is invalid. don't let anyone say that you're not allowed to have k*nks or a high libido. for those on the acespec, everyone experiences it differently. there is no "right" way of being ace.
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(uses the “make your character say something while not actually saying it” writing advice i saw on here once)
(character interactions are now 200% more fun to write)
holy shit what
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"but aces and aros can be in relationships"
Yes, I know that, but do YOU know that aces and aros in relationships are still aces and aros? Do you internalize that? Are you aware that we don't just suddenly turn straight, or gay or anything else?
Yes, even demis
Are you aware that a sex repulsed asexual will still be sex repulsed even in a relationship, and so, might never fuck you?
Are you aware that a romance repulsed aro will still be romance repulsed even in a seemingly normative relationship and might not like doing typical romantic gestures and activities?
Are you aware that a sex neutral or positive asexual might not actually be sexually attracted to you at all even if they do fuck you?
Are you aware that a romance neutral or positive aro might not actually be romantically into you even if they are comfortable with typical romantic gestures?
Are you aware that our identities are just as permanent as yours?
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As a teen I thought I was into guys, so I remember at one point thinking „If I was a (trans)guy, then I‘d be gay, so I‘d have to date gay guys but I don‘t feel like I fit the gay culture. it‘d be so much easier to just stay a woman and date straight men“ and apart from my actual sexuality (aroace), after I saw a documentary about a gay transman I literally burst into tears because it suddenly felt possible and I basically decided there was no turning back for me at that point
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quadruple-a-battery · 10 days
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Tattoo done by Miryam Lumpini.
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Yes! Hearing that other people experience and feel similar things to oneself is such an amazing thing!
And even if you feel like it‘s just how it is at the moment, if you share it, someone might come across it that has the exact same feeling, and they‘ll feel less lonely, less broken
Dear younger a-spec folks,
I'm not ancient by any means, but I do see a lot of teens and twenty-somethings on here posting about being a-spec and not being sure they should have posted it. Or saying they'll probably delete it in the morning.
And I just want to say, as someone in their mid-thirties who had very little support in all of this, and finally feels comfortable for the first time in their life embracing being aroace - you give me so much life and hope.
When I was a kid, platforms like this were not a thing.
So when I had one now ex-friend literally tell me that I made him feel uncomfortable because "a lack of attraction is inhuman," I felt inhuman.
Or when my mother constantly prodded at me about relationships and sex, or called me a prude, I saw that as a failing on my part.
Or when my friends thought it was hilarious when I was obviously uncomfortable as they described things I did not want to think about, I thought they were in the right, I figured I must just be humorless.
Or when people suggested my lack of engagement with the concept of love made me a psychopath, I thought that must be true too.
I had no one who understood how I felt so I assumed I must be wrong, and I tried so hard to fit in and say the right things, and date and be in relationships that were all inevitably doomed to fail.
I spent too much of my life thinking I was some sort of monster.
And looking at all your posts now, I really wish that very lonely girl and eventually very lonely young woman had had access to all of your incredible posts about being a-spec.
So in conclusion, when you post and aren't sure you should speak up, please keep speaking up. There is nothing wrong with us, and I am so thankful every time your posts come across my dash.
They mean the world to me.
And you never know if your post is going to be the one that makes someone realize that they get to be human too.
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quadruple-a-battery · 11 days
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A painstaking work !!
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It occurs to me that my ideal aroace partnership is like how the animal shelter sometimes calls animals that aren't even the same species a bonded pair.
They're not mating, but if you separate them, one of them might die of the Sadness.
Maybe I should just start saying Bonded Pair because the normies get too fuckin' hung up on the definition of "Queerplatonic."
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quadruple-a-battery · 12 days
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I bought the game Raft last week. And while I try to moderate myself for the sake of my eyes, I have been sleeping like shit at least half of the days because my brain keeps thinking of new things I want to do
Pros of hyperfixiation:
Happy!
Art ideas
Life is good
Cons of hyperfixiation:
I am going to blow up
All my art is of the same guy
If I don't think about this 24/7 I get violent
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I love to be able to slap names on things that are part of me. (Also I can say I collect A‘s)
Not straight, not cis, not allo people, I'm curious:
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