"there is no mountain that you climb to the top of and stick a flag in and go 'i win' .. that's not how it works" ~jkm
"you are where you need to be .. just take a deep breath." ~LMP
He's charming and, yeah, he can be really funny. He's your dad. But he is not a father and he never will be. And if you want him in your life, it is not gonna be on your terms, and that is not your fault. If you can handle this, that's cool. But if you do not want to deal with this, I will cut him off. I will cut off all communication and he will not be welcome here. I love you, mom.