Hey thanks for your blog heading, man. That's a good one. Thanks

i'm glad it's helped you <3

you are not what your abuser told you you were.

there is no such thing as an ‘abuser’ disorder. there is no such thing as an ‘evil’ disorder. 

if you live with psychosis, a personality disorder, if you are a system, if you are struggling with an addiction, if you have any sort of struggle that has been demonised in the media or by others, know that i am proud of you. i am so proud of you, it isn’t easy living with these, and you have been doing incredibly. you are not evil, you are not inherently an abuser. you are a human being, and i love you.

Bpd here. Nothings ever gonna be okay and you saying that doesnt change shit. Im gonna hear that all through my whole fucking life, til the day i finally suicide. Then its finally be okay. Then im gonna have eternal peace.

are you sure?

are you sure nothing will ever be okay? nothing? not even finally going to sleep after not being able to for hours? not having a hot meal after coming in from the rain? not getting a spark of excitement from seeing horses, sheep, cows, whatever kind of animal in a field? not trying a new food and deciding it's disgusting, but you're glad you tried it anyway? not seeing a bird go about its business as it flies around your bedroom window?

none of those things are particularly groundbreaking. they're just small things, that are just okay. and they happen every day.

things will be okay. you've got to look around, and see what's right in front of you. there will always be small things.

Driving is a very important thing in a lot of the world, but it is okay if you can't drive, are scared of driving, simply don't want to drive, or used to be able to and can't anymore. It's okay.

If you are tired, rest. Whatever form of tired you may be, rest will help.

🖤💙💙🖤

I love you people with neurological disorders, I love you people with neurological diseases, I love you people with neurological issues, I love you people who have issues with motor functions, I love you people with memory issues, I love you people with speech problems, I love you people who have spinal/brain/neurological damage, I love you people with dementia, I love you people who have violent mood swings, I love you people with Alzheimer’s disease, I love you people with Parkinson’s disease, I love you people who are prone to/have epilepsy and seizures, I love you people who have had strokes and anuerysms and I miss you people who didn’t make it because of them, I love you people who get migraines, I love you people with muscular dystrophy, I love you people with meningitis, I love you people with multiple sclerosis, etc.

you are so, so worthy of love. you are worth it. you are so deserving of love. by virtue of being alive.

if you can’t eat a whole meal, eat half. you ate, that’s what is important.

if you can’t get out of bed, try and sit up instead of lying down. it’ll be better for your back and your blood pressure.

if you can’t shower or have a bath today, try and brush your teeth and clean your ears. it’ll keep you a little cleaner, and we often forget those areas. 

if you can’t get dressed today, change underwear and use some deoderant. it’ll leave you a little fresher until you have the strength to change fully.

and remember, i’m very proud of you. your best will look different every day, and that’s okay.

my life really did improve when i decided to just constantly, casually compliment my friends and family. i cannot recommend it more. it makes everything better. you look incredible in that shirt, you're one of the funniest people i know, you're wearing the hell out of that dress, you're so sexy wtf, you're so talented, i love talking to you, you're so fun to be around, you're so kind, that haircut is amazing, i love you, i love you, i love you

it’s okay to not know things.

it’s okay if you struggle with things that are “obvious”

it’s okay if you struggle with reading and writing. with counting and numbers, with bathing and hygiene, with your emotions and others. with social cues, with running, with anything at all. 

it doesn’t matter if you naturally struggle with these things; if it’s due to neurodivergancy or you were never taught, or if you are injured or sick. no matter the cause, no matter the skill, it is okay. you are trying, you are learning, and you are doing wonderful. and i am so, so proud of any progress you have made, no matter how small it is.