Hi, it’s been a long time… I’ve stopped doing comms for almost a year and while this seems cheeky for someone like me, i need some money to at least buy my cats food… If you find my art style of any interest, please let me know through PM, thank you :>
I read a post of yours where you discussed how you first gravitated towards the wlw community because you didn’t have good feelings towards asexuality yet. I think I might be in that phase right now but I can’t figure out how to have a healthy relationship with asexuality. This kinda feels like a punishment and not what I want. How did you end up with a healthier relationship with your identity?
Oof I need to update my links now that I'm getting more followers lol
To answer your question...I don't have a solid answer. Asexuality felt like punishment but I also felt relief. All of the negative associations with asexuality became positives almost instantly.
Dying alone -> Living for myself
Never kissed -> boundaries never crossed
Never dated -> hanging out cause why not
No marriage -> no compromising
Invisibility -> privacy
Developing a healthy relationship varies for everyone. I invested more in my interests. I didn't fear judgment anymore and I truly enjoyed what made me happy.
I'm really not good at giving advice. You don't have to LOVE being asexual. Asexuality is part of you. You'll change and grow in ways you don't expect.
(If anyone else is reading this, I feel no attraction at all and I don't use Split Attraction. I'm just Asexual.)
forgot about my self care tag and im crying going through the posts. so many stuff has changed, i still need the reassurance those posts provide but now it gravitates around people i thought wouldn’t wrong me.
its kind of funny, actually.