There is bravery in finding out that what you wanted for the rest of your life has changed, letting go of it, and chasing your newfound purpose.

There is bravery in letting go of that person you love so much but doesn’t treat you with respect, knowing that love alone can’t save a relationship.

There is bravery is asking for help, be it to a friend, a therapist, a doctor.

There is bravery in trying to become a better person, to be kind even though others haven’t been good or kind to you.

There is bravery in admitting that you too were toxic in your past and striving not to make those same mistakes again.

You are being so brave.🌷🌱

i hope all of my neurodivergent folks know that you don’t owe it to anyone to be less of yourself. less “weird.” less enthusiastic about your hobbies, interests and hyperfixations. less loving or sensitive or emotional or picky or less of your genuine and raw self. the people who will love you won’t demand of you to fit into their boxes. if they demand you to show any less of who you are & your struggles with navigating a world as a neurodivergent person, then they’re not it. 

some of u bitches r trying your hardest to stay positive and hopeful despite all the bullshit you’ve been going thru and it really shows and i’m proud of u

Hey btw, here's a piece of life advice:

If you know what you'd have to do to solve a problem, but you just don't want to do it, your main problem isn't the problem itself. Your problem is figuring out how to get yourself to do the solution.

If your problem is not eating enough vegetables, the problem you should be solving is "how do I make vegetables stop being yucky". If your problem is not getting enough exercise, the problem you should be solving is "how do I make exercise stop sucking ass". You're not supposed to just be doing things that are awful and suck all the time forever, you're supposed to figure out how to make it stop being so awful all the time.

I used to hate wearing sunscreen because it's sticky and slimy and disgusting and it feels bad and it smells bad, so I neglected to wear it even if I needed to. Then I found one that isn't like that, and doesn't smell and feel gross. Problem solved.

There is no correct way to live that's just supposed to suck and feel bad all the time. You're allowed to figure out how to make it not suck so bad.

You are allowed to make mistakes

gentle reminder: you deserve to live again. stop abandoning yourself. you’ve already gone through enough. you have permission to be kind to yourself and start again as a new person. you deserve love and everything else you think you don’t deserve. don’t hurt yourself any more.

Darling, You're Healing

“Healing comes in waves and maybe today the wave hits the rocks. And that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. You are still healing you are still healing.”- Ljeoma Umebinyeo

hi, it's your 2024 reminder to take things slowly.

Slow down, don't run. Look around, you see people chasing behind so many things? You were one of them too. But do you really know your destination? Is it only one? Or multiple?

You know the path exactly? You know the end point?

I'm afraid you don't. So why are you running and towards whom? Run back, towards yourself

Enjoy the journey, look around, observe, feel, understand, then move on. You're missing out on a lot of things. Don't make anyone believe you're behind, you're not.

You're on the right path, just slow down.

Take a break. Take a deep breathe. You've got this. Nobody can take it away from you, alright?

Don't forget this

God I hope the future is kinder. I hope that they have it figured out better. I hope people don't have to work so much for so little. I hope there's time to explore passions and interests and skills. I hope people get the support they need. I hope the people from the future look back at our problems and are bewildered by them, like I'm confused by how they used to put poisonous lead in make-up, just... "how did they ever think that was okay? How did they live like that?" I hope the cruelties and hidden poisons of our world are one day so distant that they're used as fun facts in trivia games. Please be kinder, future

The Kind Parent + Self-Soothing

Listen to me: You get good at things by being bad at them. You learn by failing. You gain competency and a sense of mastery by failing at something many times and in many interesting ways.

The sooner you are able to laugh at your own failures, to enjoy the process of messing up, the easier life will be. Because you'll no longer be afraid of learning.

And once you're no longer afraid of failing, you can learn anything.

Use those nice things you're saving up to make Now more enjoyable, instead of trying to falsely nurture some hypothetical Later. It's okay to save things but never do it out of the fact that you don't think the moment is good enough for them now. Save them because you want to. And then use them because you want to. You can already enjoy things now

i love posts that end with something along the lines of “and i am going to live”, because it’s like yes! everything is happening and this world is spinning and you are going to live. because of and in spite of so many things, you are going to live.

Here is a reminder to breathe. Take deep breaths. Notice the beauty in the world around you. You will be okay.

You’re allowed to feel happy, calm, content, rested, proud, accomplished and loved. Feeling this way does not invalidate your struggles, and you don’t have to self sabotage because these feelings are unfamiliar. I love you and I hope you enjoy your days :)

You should have some standards about how you want to be treated, and you should always be treated with kindness and respect but don't expect other people to fulfill every single one of your needs as if they lived to please you. Your freedom and dignity matter as long as it doesn't inflict a loss to someone else's freedom and well-being. Other people don't have to cater to you all the time, just as you don't have to do so for them. Having such high standards and no tolerance for being displeased by others will only guarantee you disappointment. People are not perfect and they mess up even when they are trying to be nice and do their best. If you want something that fits all your needs, requirements and never fails, you are looking for an object and not an individual.

a gentle fact about this world is that people will want to help you. a cruel fact about it is that you do have to put on your big boy pants and open their contact on your phone and say some human words to ask them for it