Had a job interview that required a presentation. I needed a pretend example for a database search, and when I was putting it together I promptly forgot anything people would find socially acceptable. I figured it out eventually, but my friend had to intervene and tell me I needed to pick something else at least once.

Why am I like this. Why are other people like this. Why does the set of topics considered socially acceptable have to be so small.

Being a “Fun Fact !” kind of autistic is all fun and games until you get halfway through sharing an interesting tidbit and realize that it probably wasn’t appropriate to share in polite company and now you have to deal with the consequences :(

Sometimes when I sit quietly with my deer in headlights autism gaze I'm actually listening very intently. Sometimes I'm paying no attention whatsoever. You won't know the difference so beware. Be very aware of me I might be aware of you possibly

"unalive" should just mean the opposite of undead. if undead means a dead thing thats alive, unalive shuld mean an alive things thats dead. no i dont have any examples. ☝️yet

Autism & Anger Rumination

Autistic Qualia

*sighs and rewires my neural pathways yet again*

Community Basic Intergluteal Numismatics | 5.03

Yesterday, I went to Baltimore with the intention of visiting a friend in hospice. Her health had taken a sharp nosedive over the weekend, and on Monday evening, the doctors said she maybe had a week left.

What actually happened was I went to Baltimore to help clean out her stuff, because she died at 8:44 on Tuesday morning and my plane didn't land until 8:50. So me and another friend helped another friend/her roommate (before hospice) find important documents, as well as save sentimental items for her actual loved ones because her family, well.

Her friends were her family. But because she died intestate, the people in her family of choice were entitled to nothing under the law. Instead of her beloved, disabled partner, her estranged family has legal rights to her savings bonds and the rest of her estate. (Sometimes common-law partners can inherit but they weren't together long enough to meet that criterion.)

I knew this was coming for a long time. You don't recover from the brain cancer she had. But it still really hurts. And knowing that people she hadn't spoken to in years are getting that money instead of the person she loved most... well, that hurts too.

Please, if you don't have one already, make a will. It's not hard. We don't like to think about it, because nobody likes thinking about post-death legal matters, but you need to make a will. If you're in the US, you can use websites like Free Will. You don't need an estate attorney or anything like that. In many states, a notarized letter is fine. I don't know enough about international estate law to say anything in that regard, but take half an hour to google estate laws in your jurisdiction and put together a will.

If something happened to you tomorrow, who do you want taking care of your pets? Do you have a collection of anything that you want looked after? Do you want your money to go to a person, a charity, or something else specific? If you don't have kids, everything reverts to a spouse. If you don't have a spouse, it goes to your parents. I know I don't want to burden my parents with figuring out what to do with my tegu, my skeletal collection, or my library. But if I died tomorrow, my will would take care of all of that. Thinking about mortality isn't fun, but dying intestate is worse. Make a will.

I've met people who seem genuinely confused as to why other people don't act exactly like them. It's like they can't grasp the fact that they aren't the default.

from “For the Love of Spock” (George Takei talking about the time when they wanted to cut him and Nichols/Uhura out of Star Trek and Nimoy was having none of it)

"Osiris, keeper of the gate, master of all fate, hear us!"

Esse não saiu exatamente do jeito que eu queria mas resolvi postar mesmo assim.

eng: this one didn't quite turn out the way i wanted, but I decided to post it anyway.

singing in public is totally acceptable for sure

I think the ways in which deanna acts like she's better than other people in tng the loss are indicative not just that yeah, she can be a little superior, but crucially that she holds herself to a very very high standard that she has always been able to meet until now. she has no patience for her own failure, and no empathy for her own struggle, until she reaches a breaking point at which she just gives up because coping with such a setback requires compassion and encouragement that she simply does not extend to herself. it's okay for her patients to take time grieving, to be unable to work to their usual standard because of emotional pain, but when she does these things it's unacceptable. it's only her that believes this too, the rest of the crew are a lot kinder to her than she is to herself

many don’t know this but “loudly performing outrage and shaming those who don’t” is not equivalent to “doing meaningful good”

this is a niche one but instead of "they would not fuckin say that" it's "they would not fucking use American sign language".

ASL is not the only sign language. two british characters in your fanfiction would not be using ASL. England in fact has its own kind of sign language, BSL, that forms a sign family with many other sign languages around the world.

ASL isn't even the original member of its sign family, it comes from french sign language. do you know sign languages aren't related to spoken languages? that's an important one! it's not a direct 1:1 with people speaking English around the world. people in other countries don't learn ASL just in case they run into an usamerican or Canadian (who do often use it)

i know the entire world is the USA or whatever and sign languages do sometimes borrow from ASL for signs they don't have, but please be aware that there are other sign languages and families in the world that are not in fact ASL.

Like, a diagnosis is a tool. How much it helps or hurts depends on how it's used. You're going to have more control over how it's used as an independent adult than a child or an adult who is more dependent on others. Even when it's controlled by others, the chances that they will do good things with it increase with more widespread understanding and available services based on that understanding. Your liberating adult autism diagnosis that helped you accept yourself now is likely not at all the experience that your early diagnosed peer got. The same system that missed you has also massively mistreated those it picked up on.

Autism Awareness: Trans Edition

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