Nyehe!!!!!! *gives you a massive magical twirling bear hug* You are incredible and extraordinary, may you have a magical everything friendo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hullo, I am The Hug Wizard, would you like a hug? @melanie-schmelanie sent me

awww thank you very much

hello! v v innocent ask here cause i need someone to vent to but hallo! my head and neck are in pain and i just put some tiger balm on to try and alleviate it but it just made it worse and theres no way to wash off the heat! anyways hope you have a good day. and i cant wait till the dnd story starts :}

Awwwww it should be ok and I'm excited too

Hey Mr. Wizard. You can respond if you have the energy to and want to do so though I would appreciate input to make sure in not being completely irrational. This isn't incredibly dark or anything nor do I expect you to have answers for me because I fully understand you aren't a therapist. I'm just kinda upset. I miss having friends. I have one friend outside of my partner and they were my best friend in the whole world. Anymore it seems like I'm putting in all the work. They don't answer my messages and when they do it's one word answers. We're long distance friends so I can't meet in person or anything like that. It just feels like I'm always there for them whenever they need it but it's not reciprocated. And I feel like an a** when I say that because I know life can be busy. Maybe I'm just upset for no reason. I just feel like this friendship is a little bit toxic. I tried talking to them about it but they don't want to talk about something so strongly rooted in emotions. I just miss having friends who care about me as much as I care about them.

It can be hard in long distance friendships, for me, I'm not always the best at keeping in contact, not because I'm avoiding folks, more often then not it's because I'm busy or just am socially exhausted, I don't know about your friend, I hope their just like me and aren't always the best at communicating

I'm sorry ;-; I haven't even said my ask yet but I feel like I shouldn't. It's just stressful and nice to have someone to talk to but the anon made a good point, you're not our therapist.

No but you can leave your vent here, sometimes its good to just release, whichbis the purpose of this side blog

Its kinda sad that people are actually using this to dump their incredibly difficult traumas. Ultimately, you are not a therapist and are not trained to deal with an influx of pretty scary and tragic situations. Additionally, over the internet it leads to people being significantly crueler than they would be in person or in a situation that isn't anonymas. Suffice to say what you are doing is incredibly kind and selfless, but please be careful and take care of yourself first.

Its stressful feeling like you have to look out for all of this mentally ill children especially because you don't have a meaningful way to check up on them. Obviously you are an adult, and if you want to continue, please do. However, please remeber to put yourself first. I have no doubt in my mind that you are a kind person, but take care of yourself to ensure you can continue spreading it. Thank you

Yeah, this place i set up as a way for folks to more just vent and release, of course i cant offer any sort of meaningful advice beyond speaking with a professional and thank you friendo

Hey hugwizard :) It's the anon you hugged earlier (the one with the magical brain wizard who told them about a bad memory and they ended up regressing to cope with it, that was me)

Thankfully I'm feeling better after the hug you gave me, and now that I've had some sleep myself I'm able to share what I was talking about earlier

(TW for physical abuse from a parent (mother specifically), and mentions of self harm (I classify it as such at least, idk about anyone else))

Alright, so a bit of context for this situation; I'm the current host of our system (we call ourselves the Solar System), and I met one of my gatekeepers yesterday. His name is Alistar and he's a cyborg wizard, he's pretty cool :) I can send you a hero-forge I made of him if you like!

Now, this happened when I was getting ready for bed, and Alistar was heading to help Xavier (another alter, he's a protector of mine who I refer to as the "Angel with a Shotgun" because he is an angel who happens to own a shotgun) with something. I'd started picking at a scab on my leg and Alistar (who was still co-fronting at the time) mentioned that the original host had picked up the habit of doing that because she hoped that if someone saw that we had a lot of injuries they would help us get out of our bad situation.

This caused quite a few memories to come to me of the time-period before I'd been made host (which is another slightly distressing story to look back on but ya know), when the original host had been in school and frequently had injuries from the body's so-called "parents". She'd been told by our mother that she had to wear her jumper at all times to hide the injuries on her arms, so nobody ever really noticed those unless she took it off, but by then any bruises would have faded enough to be largely unnoticeable, and the other injuries would get played off as childhood rambunctiousness (which we didn't get to experience much of either)

One memory in particular stood out to me and I can still recall it even now. We were in first grade, and it was home-time, and mother had come into the classroom to pick us up. The host wasn't wearing her jumper, and there was a large bruise on her upper arm just below the shoulder. Our teacher pointed it out to our mother and asked what had happened, and our mother said we'd fallen into the table at home while we were running around.

Which...wasn't the whole story.

What had actually happened was that we'd been running around at home and playing, and our mother got angry and started shouting at us. We got scared and turned to start trying to walk away, which made her even more angry. So she pushed us, and when we were falling we hit our arm on the table which caused that bruise.

At the time I'd been recalling it as if it was a memory I myself had experienced, so I got scared and upset and ended up regressing (if I had to say what age I'd regressed to I'd say about 4 or 5, since that was the age the body was when this event happened), but looking back on what happened I just feel angry. Really angry.

That woman who did that to us is supposed to be our mother. She was supposed to love and care for us. But instead she hurt us, and so did our father, and sure I have people to support me in the aftermath with my friends and my system and the few family members I trust who never did anything to hurt us, but that should never have happened in the first place.

She pushed over a 5-year-old because she tried to get out of a situation she was scared of. She started yelling at her because she was playing.

(You may call me Solar if you wish, or Timea)

Oh man, im sorry solar

I think one of my friends just killed herself, im not sure, I’m sorta freaked out

Keep trying to get in contact, any way you can

They can’t talk to a hotline because of abusive parent,,

Oh jeez!

I’m trying, theyre so sure about it,,

Oh man, there isnt much else i can say unfortunatly, you just gotta keep trying to get them to stay with us

one of my friends is going to commit I don’t know how to stop them, im so scared I’m so scared

Oh jeez! So keep them talking, try and convince them to call a hotline, just keep them talking

! I apologise about my spelling, thinking about this started to make my hands shake !

hey this is nowhere near as serious as any of the other problems but I need to talk to someone and some advice would be appreciated if you can

I used to have serious issues with my mental health. I've never told anyone and it's sort of gotten to a point where I can't tell anyone (as in there's some sort of mental block), so I'm keeping it vague for that reason

my friend also has some of the same issues. for them, it's important to talk about it, and about their healing process

but even though they're healing, it sends me into a panic every time they speak about it because there's this knowledge they were in the same situation as me. amd I knos what that felt like and I don't wandt thwm to go through it either

I end up congratulating then on their recivery, then turning my notifs off and trying to clan down

my issue is that in order ro stop me feeling that way, I'll have to aak thwm to stop talking about their fecoveriy, but talking about it is important to them

so either im nnore comfortable or my friend has to bottle it up - bottling up could be horrible for their already strugkung mental health

another reason I dony want to tell them is what I stated earlie, I haven't told anyone abt my issues. even if I said "hey can you not talk about this it makes me uncomfortable" they might ask questions about why, which I don't want to share

I'm sorrt about this ask and I'm sorry for offloading my problems onto you but I needed to speak to someone about this

No worries, unfortunatly i cant say any advice i have is really usable here other then making it clear that certain topics can be uncomfortable

Idc I want to be skinny

Welp i cant help ye there

Hey, this is the anon from earlier. You know the one who had to tell their parents about their so called bestfriend. Well I told them and now I'm being forced to get a kit and several tests done and they have to be with me because I'm underage. Not fun

No but necessary, be safe friendo

Why can’t I be 85 pounds

Because that would be seriously detrimental to your health

-the abused sh kid-

Sorry if that came off as mean. I was in a worse place then than I am today. It's just, y'all talk about how our friends and family would be heartbroken, not thinking that we already give everything for them. I myself tried for months in the name of my friends. But a lot of the time, we give more than we get. Other people are kinda shitty anchors. Ice cream, spring mornings, pajamas, music, are all good anchors. They make you happy and ask for nothing in return.

(Again, sorry for being mean. It was unfair of my to criticize you without providing alternative suggestions)

Its ok, for me, the people around me are my anchors, so its usually the first thing i think of

How do I tell my mother that my so called best friend raped me.

You inform her out right, make it clear what it was and that you want help in dealing with it

I spend my whole life giving things for others. A lot of kids in bad situations do. I never do anything for myself. I give my brother the bigger plate, I let my mom talk first, I do all the small things to make their life better and no-one returns it. And y'all have the audacity to tell people their life isn't their own?

I know you probably don't mean it like that, but that shit hurts. I'm not even allowed to do that now.

Oh dear, im sorry friendo