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farmerlesbian · 2 hours
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i'm gonna be so honest. i know it isn't much, but i think reading Alison Bechdel's the essential dykes to watch out for would do wonders for a lot of lesbians whose entire experience of queer community has been online
it certainly would help! but i think real life interaction with contemporaries is irreplaceable.
and i'm saying this as someone who also doesn't get out quite enough. my experiences of interaction with real-life other lgbtqueer people has been so important to understanding who i am and where i fit in to in my community.
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farmerlesbian · 3 hours
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sometimes i wonder what you all would think of me n my wife if you saw us haha
(you being general tumblr, not you my wonderful lovely followers)
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farmerlesbian · 3 hours
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my suspicion is that it comes from not actually knowing and especially interacting with other dykes IRL :/
i also want to talk about eventually the like.. recent tendency online to lean really hard into binary labels like top-bottom, butch-femme, masc-fem(me). maybe someone more eloquent than me can talk about it haha!
basically what i feel is that people are lonely, and desperate for connection, and horny. we see people talking about and praising these categories (this is particularly in regards to butch and femme), which for a long time have been very overdue for recognition, understanding, respect, positivity, and appreciation, so this is very warranted attention. people want to talk about their desires, and especially people want to BE desired. there's also the mythologizing of eras of the past and wanting to recreate them. there's the desire to talk about and post fantasies, whether here on tumblr, or writing fanfiction or erotica, or posting on lex or dating sites. to say what you are, or to say what/who you are seeking requires a succinct word and label. so of course people lean into the butch-femme, even when it doesn't really fit.
(and this is then taking us right back to the situation where people complain that these roles are forced and oppressive! which is entirely not the point! and also a whole other conversation)
also i want people to know that I'm not butch nor femme. i genuinely am not! and i'm a switch and a verse! i lean certain ways and go through phases but truly really i am not any of these labels, I'm just .. i guess .. me 😐 for lack of a better way to phrase it haha! and i'm still hot, and desired, and i fit in and quite noticeable and certainly GNC. and you can be too. and tbh i think it is very common and typical for dykes / wlws / sapphics / lesbians / bi and pan girls n women n ladies to be neither butch or femme as well.
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farmerlesbian · 3 hours
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i totally agree! i've seen this too and it really bugs me! my ~hot take~ is
i know we say that butch/femme isn't reproducing the patriarchy but i dunno... i think some of you are replicating heterosexuality actually!
and understand me: i am NOT saying that butch-femme itself is replicating heterosexuality. i just think some people on this webbedsight are doing that and it is annoying and i don't like it! this is a criticism of certain trends in art styles and text descriptions that i am seeing come up more often as more people are hearing about and discovering butch/femme in the past 5 years or so. glad to hear i'm not the only one seeing it. of course on individual level it's fine it's just the trend that is frustrating and i think it's ok to talk about it! it's not the past, it's 2024 and we can talk about what is happening here and now.
do ppl who draw butch/femme art know that the butch is allowed to be the shorter one and doesn’t always have to be the tall one? just saying
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farmerlesbian · 4 hours
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do ppl who draw butch/femme art know that the butch is allowed to be the shorter one and doesn’t always have to be the tall one? just saying
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farmerlesbian · 4 hours
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y’all r gonna NUT when u see this dress my friend thrifted for me
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farmerlesbian · 8 hours
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it’s fascinating how trans women on here are tokenized to signal people’s comraderie with trans (terfs dni in bio/trans women are loved here), while at the same time we’re also harshly ejected from communities and painted as predators for piecemeal grievances that are handwaved away when done by non trans women. you can say all kinds of nasty stuff about someone, and as long as she’s a trans woman, people will believe it! people love the ideal of a trans woman but haven’t worked on their biases enough to do anything but grow to despise actual trans women
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farmerlesbian · 13 hours
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farmerlesbian · 1 day
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Love women who love the brine of life...Pickles, Olives, pickled jalapeños, sun-dried tomatoes, pickled ginger, pepperoncini, kimchi, pickled red onions
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farmerlesbian · 1 day
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Lovers in lavender
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farmerlesbian · 2 days
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over christmas when i came out fully to my mom she did tell me i was beautiful and gave me some of her old jewelry and told me she was excited to have another daughter and that was all wonderful, but the part that meant the most to me was when i told her "i want to get my facial hair taken care of sooner than later, the whole "girl" thing is a lot easier to swallow when im shaved" and she examined my use of the phrase "it's a lot easier to swallow" and said "Scout, I didn't have a good relationship with my mother. you know that." (i did know that, my grandma was NOT good to my mother) "but your grandma kim [friend of my grandma's, unrelated by blood in any way, but was adopted as a grandma through familial osmosis] was the greatest woman who's ever been in my life. and up until the day she died, she had a beard and a moustache [which is true, my grandma kim, a cis woman, had VERY thick facial hair]. if you kept your facial hair for the rest of your life i wouldnt think of you as less of a woman" and ya know what? THAT'S the part of her support that made me cry.
my grandma kim was an amazing woman and she had peach fuzz that she didnt give a FUCK about. and everyone loved her.
you can have your own fuzz too, and that doesn't make you not a woman.
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farmerlesbian · 2 days
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wanted to repost oksana and małgosia, i need to draw something with them again.
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farmerlesbian · 3 days
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if i’m not driving everyone at the combination record store + coffee shop mad with lust then what is the point
(he/she butch lesbian 🖤☕️)
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farmerlesbian · 3 days
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Women have another option. They can aspire to be wise, not merely nice; to be competent, not merely helpful; to be strong, not merely graceful; to be ambitious for themselves, not merely for themselves in relation to men and children. They can let themselves age naturally and without embarrassment, actively protesting and disobeying the conventions that stem from this society’s double standard about aging. Instead of being girls, girls as long as possible, who then age humiliatingly into middle-aged women, they can become women much earlier – and remain active adults, enjoying the long, erotic career of which women are capable, far longer. Women should allow their faces to show the lives they have lived. Women should tell the truth.
— Susan Sontag, from “The Double Standard of Aging”
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farmerlesbian · 3 days
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Blütenzweige - Émile Arnold Vouga - 1885 - via Sachsen Digital
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farmerlesbian · 4 days
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Stacey Rozvich
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