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Everything you need to know : Failed Coming Out 2019

This is an answer to an anon I've received.

I typed it all and Tumblr said there was an error when I went and tried to published it. So I had to type it all again but lost the anon....

Here's the question: could you tell me more about her wanting to come out in 2019? sorry for asking again I'm new on the fandom!

Hi!

It will be my pleasure! This is such an important part of the Gaylor Lore to know and understand, especially when you are new in the fandom.

This theory has been confirmed, but we'll get to it in a minute.

Also, I'm so sorry because learning about what went down during Lover Era is a transformative experiece in the Gaylor fandom, in a very heartbreaking way.

So back in 2019 Taylor wanted to come out with the Lover Era.

June 30th during the New York City Pride wich was also the Stonewall's 50th anniversary, was supposed to be the day it happened.

This date might be familiar to you, because it's the date we learned at the same time as Taylor about her masters being sold to Scooter Braun.

So let's start at the begining of all of this. I won't go through ALL the details because my post will never end. But I'll cover the most important ones.

Right at the begining of the year, insiders were already talking about the fact that Taylor was planing to come out that year in podcasts and blind items.

Then in March 6th (Karlie and Taylor's anniversary)

Taylor does a post hinting at this new era. The very first lyrics we get (We got hints at ME back in February):

Daylight the song is about Karlie. But this line specifically means coming out.

Stepping into the daylight, and letting everyone see the real you.

(Also worth noting the lesbian filter)

Taylor started being really loud in the posts she made from now on. Flagging rainbow, lesbian and bi colors every chances she got.

And flagging Butterflies. Wich is very important thematically in Lover and coming out.

Side note on the Butterfly meaning:

Remembre how in reputation, snake was a really important theme?

And how in Lover it switched to butterflies?

More specifically it switched to Snakes transforming into butterflies?

There's a species of butterflies, that when they are in the chrysalid phase of their transformation into a butterfly, can look like a snake if they feel unsafe or attacked in order to protect themselves.

Then, after the average 13 days waiting period, they transforms into a beautiful butterfly.

Basically what Taylor was doing, protecting herself during reputation with that "personna" like she described.

And now, she was ready to finally transforms and have a new beginning.

Here's a description of what butterflies means:

A powerful beacon of growth and new beginnings, the butterfly signifies the power of transformation and the incredible feats we can achieve when we trust ourselves. We all have the ability to listen to our innate wisdom, guide ourselves through difficult times, and emerge better and stronger than before.

The ME! of it all:

Ok back into the Lover Era timeline!

So all those rainbow posts were leading up to the first single: ME!

Even Taylor Nation was pretty loud about this (number of rainbows = number of days leading to ME! release):

3 days before ME! release, Taylor performs at the Time 100 Gala and it's the first and only time she switched so very clearly pronouns in the song, multiple times:

She sings repeatedly : I want HER midnights

And she even seems to be getting more and more confortable as the song goes on and singing it louder and louder.

She also looks at the crowd while singing it.

Then she releases ME!

That was really the first part of her coming out.

And honnestly, she shouldn't have had to do more than this.

ME! was released on April 26th.

April 26th in 2019 was Lesbian Visibility Day.

And she captionned the release with: ME! Out Now!

A song about how she is unique as a Lover...

That is without mentioning the amount of rainbows everywhere in that MV as well as other references.

Worth noting that in 2019 Lil NasX came out in a MV with the rainbow tower and was annoyed that people didn't get it?

Taylor also probably deadass thought that she made it obvious:

May & June 2019 leading up to the big coming out:

Taylor continues to be as loud as she can.

She makes a very generous donation to GLAAD:

She sings ME! every chances she gets, while flagging the Lesbian Flag.

Taylor Nation also keeps on being really loud:

And releases a song and music video about homophobia and includes herself front and centered in the LGBTQ+ community (represented by the Trailer park, note how Ryan Reynolds, the only straight person in the MV is outside of this park, not in it like Taylor).

With a bi flag wig...

So yeah, she was trying really hard to make people see her.

Christian Siriano and the dress...

Back in April, we learned that Christian Siriano (a fashion designer) was working on a project for Taylor:

In June, he started teasing us about a mistery rainbow dress for an unnknown person:

It was heavily rumored that it would be the dress used by Taylor to come out at the end of Pride Month.

He kind of confirmed it with this post:

Then. June 30th.

The New York City Pride.

Taylor planned to come out at the event.

Employees on site, starts to be warned about this (you can find some comments online).

Taylor learns at the same time as us that her masters were sold to Scooter Braun.

She never makes it to Pride.

And Billy Porter ends up wearing the dress:

But. You can see that the dress was not meant to be worn by him. It doesn't fit well and the "nude" parts shows that it was meant to be worn by a white person.

In 2022, Christian confirmed it by dueting a TikTok talking specifically about this.

He deleted it right after but you can still find it on TikTok: (X)

Last minutes changes to Lover:

We now know that Taylor scrapped two songs from Lover: All Of The Girls You Loved Before and Need.

All Of The Girls is really loud and very clearly talks about a girl. Wich Taylor couldn't afford if she didn't want to/couldn't come out.

London Boy was actually written and added really last minute to the album.

Really interesting, because this is her loudest song about her loving boyfriend. Wich is a brilliant thing to do if you want to limit the public speculation after all the flagging that you did...

We know it was last minute, because Taylor sampled it on Cold War from Cautious Clay. (X)

He was called in the middle of the night and had to approve the sample right away.

Interesting fact: Cold War was featured in Book Smart, a movie Taylor promoted that year.

The song plays during a lesbian sex scene...

The intro to London Boy is actually Idris Elba in a interview where he was talking about a charity where he sold a date with him.

You know, people paid to date him...

The shift in the Lover Era:

After this, you can start to see a shift. Where it was colorful sequin and rainbows everywhere with colorful choreography.

She now dresses in black, is incredibly sad and sings mostly accousting song.

Like her BBC 1 performance or Lover In Paris:

Miss Americana:

Miss Americana was supposed to be her coming out documentary.

It has been confirmed by the director of the project that a lot of footage has been scrapped.

Also, the documentary was supposed to be called : Is It Cool That I Said All That?

This is why the documentary sometimes feels like something is missing and some parts are rushed.

They tried to switch her coming out approach by making it her political activism era.

Taylor confirms it in Anti-Hero MV:

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She's pierced through the heart by The Archer.

Her queerness starts showing (she's bleeding lavender glitters).

She tries to cover it up by taking the table cloth.

Her wanting to cover it spoils the dinner for everyone and they leave her.

And while she sings : "Did you hear my covert narcissism I disguise as altruism, Like some kind of congressman?"

She covers her queerness with a sticker : Vote For Me, For Everything

Confirming that the political activism during Lover Era and mostly Miss Americana was in fact really to cover the fact that she was already one foot out of the closet when they had to backtrack.

With this. Take a look at the closing scene of Miss Americana. When The Archer is playing in the background.

It's a montage of Taylor talking to someone and Taylor on the release night of Lover.

Look at what Taylor says...

Queerbaiting Backlash:

This might be the worse part in my opinion.

Since she was flagging so hard to come out.

Sadly, most people didn't get that that was exactly what she was trying to do.

And medias massively accused her of queerbaiting.

And using the queer community.

I'm still so mad and heartbroken about this....

reusing an old Twitter post...

Even queer fans...:

Frankly, speculating about her sexuality would have been way less damaging than this...

Songs about this event:

Taylor wrote a lot about this failed coming out.

The Archer, was her song about her anxiety about coming out. And begging her fans to stay.

I'm not gonna do a full lyrics analysis because this post is already a novel.

But read those lyrics with that in mind and you'll see how loud it is, and heartbreaking.

"I've got a hundred thrown out speeches I almost said to you"

Also. Worth noting that after Lover was released and she was not able to come out, she switched one lyric in that song.

Instead of "Combat, I'm ready for combat" singular (coming out was the combat she was ready to face)

She now sings every time "Combats, I'm ready for Combats", because coming out has turned into multiple battles that she has to face now...

Hoax:

Noticed how she says that all of her heroes die all alone in The Archer?

Her fear that if she comes out, all her fans would leave.

In Hoax she says: "You know the hero died so what's the point of keeping score movie for?"

Because with her Master Heist and everything, she was not able to be one of those heroes herself... The hero that she wanted to be died in that moment because she was unable to come out.

Edit: I messed up the lyrics. But it's even more telling. Because the movie she's talking about is Miss Americana, once she was unable to come out.

Evermore:

This song is litteraly her looking back at what happened and how she managed to process everything and ultimatly heal even though it felt at the start like she would never be able to.

"I've been down since July" - June 30th = failed coming out

"Motion capture, put me in a bad light" - Queerbaiting allegations. And Miss Americana being rebranded.

"Writting letters, adressed to the fire" - Her hundred thrown out speeches that she almost said.

"I rewind the tape, but all it does is pause, on the very moment all was lost" - June 30th...

"Sending signals, to be double crossed" - Her flagging strongly on her way to come out, only to be accused of queerbaiting.

Right Where You Left Me:

The restaurant is a metaphor for the closet.

"Sitting in a corner I haunt, cross legged in the dim light"

Doesn't really feel like a restaurant, but her hiding in the closet.

"I swear, you could hear a hairpin drop. Right when I felt the moment stopped"

Droping hairpins is giving hints that you are gay.

She was doing this very loudly right before she was kept from coming out.

"Dust collected on my pinned up hair"

Her hair are still pinned up because she was not able to come out. And dust collected over time that she spent forced in the closet.

Anti-Hero:

AH is really The Archer 2.0, and talks about the same fear of coming out and being abandonned.

The fact that she decided to depict herself as the Anti-Hero is both really interesting and heartbreaking.

Because to her, the hero was the version of herself that was able to come out...

Listen to Change in the perspective of being able to come out and change the face of the industry:

"Tonight we'll stand, get off our knees

Fight for what we've worked for all these years

And the battle was long, it's the fight of our lives

But we'll stand up champions tonight"

They were the Champions.

Side note: she sang this song at the ACMA in 2010, two weeks before Chely Wright's coming out.

When we know that she has knowed and worked with Chely since about 2007.

Then Taylor wrote Long Live one month after Chely Wright's coming out.

Listen to the song with the same perspective as Change now.

"You held your head like a hero, on a history book page"

Chely Wright came out in May 2010. Taylor wrote Long Live in June 2010.

Look at the parallels of both songs.

And now, look at her choice to name that song Anti-Hero after everything that hapenned....

She also wrote Long Story Short and The Great War about that event, but this is for another post and it's about how this event affected her relationship with Karlie.

How she thought she was betrayed but ultimately found out it was not the case.

And how they both made it through.

Ok, I'm exhausted lol.

Sorry for writting a novel.

But this is such an important part of Taylor's history and I really wanted to do it justice (hope I was able to).

If you are still reading...Thank you for your question!

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favourite 2024 albums → THE TORTURED POETS DEPARTMENT: THE ANTHOLOGY by Taylor Swift

"An anthology of new works that reflect events, opinions and sentiments from a fleeting and fatalistic moment in time - one that was both sensational and sorrowful in equal measure. This period of the author’s life is now over, the chapter closed and boarded up. There is nothing to avenge, no scores to settle once wounds have healed. And upon further reflection, a good number of them turned out to be self-inflicted. This writer is of the firm belief that our tears become holy in the form of ink on a page. Once we have spoken our saddest story, we can be free of it."

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she mentioned 37 before high infidelity tonight...mtfjesus

She sure did.

Lit the stadium up in green for Gorgeous too.

We’re all mad here and all the world is green. Happy Birthday, Dianna!

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Taylor's last moment on stage. Behind her the mysterious door that came from above during "Karma". This reddit user points out that the moment is similar to The Truman show ending!

Truman is begged not to leave his life in the "fishbowl" behind - he's brought people joy and hope, and he has millions of fans counting on him. But he says his catchphrase one last time, stretches out his arms, and takes a final bow.

Taylor stands in front of the door and stretches out her arms to take a final bow before disappearing into the stage.

Truman makes the choice to leave behind the only life he's ever known -a life of comfort and safety, but ultimately a life of inauthenticity. He leaves for the unknown, for the unpredictable, for the chance at a real life. IF THAT WASN'T ENOUGH, before finding the door, Truman finds stairs leading up into the clouds. Sound familiar?

(Many have already pointed out that the ascent into the clouds also mirrors the cover for the lesbian magazine The Ladder - but perhaps there's a bit of both?)

credits to the reddit user // The Truman show Ending

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Taylor Swift reassures yelling photographers that she isn't in any rush to leave the red carpet at the Grammys!

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Gaylor Blind Items: 2014-Now

all info compiled from:

http://www.agcwebpages.com/BLINDITEMS/MAINPAGE.html

June 2014

The earliest blind item I can find that regarding Gaylor.

December 2014

Self-explanatory.

December 2014

Karlie uses Taylor’s credit card to make a purchase.

2015

January 2015

Karlie was crushed over something.

February 2015

Taylor had seats for the Michael Kors show that Karlie walked in – she did not show.

A little tidbit from Cara Delevingne.

April 2015

May 2015

November 2015

Karlie and Lorde rumored to be hooking up – mentions of Karlie’s last relationship.

2016

January 2016

Ruby Rose and Taylor celebrated NYE together at the Calvin Harris concert.

February 2016

Massive PR planned to oust the rumors of Gaylor.

February 2016

Karlie involved with someone else.

March 2016

Another shot for Kaylor? Karlie turns down Miley in hopes.

April 2016

October 2016

Taylor finds out Karlie and Kendall have hooked up – and then comes this Instagram post.

October 2016

Taylor briefly hooks up with Cara.

January 2017

Why Karlie never spoke.

April 2017

Taylor wanted to come out but was discouraged by her team.

May 2017

Here Comes Toe!

June 2017

July 2017

August 2017

Suspicious activity by Joe.

September 2017

Joe does not attend Abagail’s wedding.

October 2017

Taylor releases Gorgeous – and PR pushes the Toe narrative.

Joe has plans of his own.

November 2017

Kaylor reunites. Karlie is overjoyed and knows Gorgeous is about her.

March 2018

Some PR stunting to push the Toe narrative.

Joe living his best life.

May 2018

Toe is a safe stunt. This could last.

July 2018

Indeed, the August 3rddates were not originally in the plan. Taylor announced tour in November 2017.

Threats of revealing Toe is fake.

July 2018

As we remember, Taylor was eerily silent when Karlie got engaged.

Karlie was never in it.

Karlie and Josh’s relationship is staged.

August 2018

Taylor allegedly wants distance from Karlie at this point – can’t blame her.

August 2018

Karlie and Taylor reunite and it is all smiles. That’s when we got this photo.

Some Toe tea.

September 2018

Taylor sings Speak Now the night after her St. Louis show, where Karlie grew up.

Orchestrating Toe.

October 2018

Karlie unfollows Joe.

November 2018

Taylor is heartbroken.

Emma Stone is asked about Joe Alwyn.

January 2019

Joe can’t answer a damn question about their relationship.

February 2019

Karlie spends Valentine’s Day with Taylor instead of her new hubby.

PR orchestrates a Toe PDA plot.

April 2019

Taylor reveals the giant butterfly mural and…

May 2019

Friendship is officially back on.

June 2019

The appearance Taylor made at Stonewall? Was supposed to be with Karlie.

Taylor was prepared to come out but didn’t want to do it alone.

Taylor is informed that if she does come out, she cannot be open about her past relationship. This puts Taylor in a position for criticism.

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“dOn’T cAll TaYlOr GaY! iT’s nOt yOuR pLaCe tO lAbEl hEr!”

Deal! 🤝 No more calling Taylor anything she didn’t call herself first.

She’s a friend of Dorothea. She listens to girl in red. She’s a pirate. She’s a cowboy like me. She’s not a “bad girl” but she does “bad things” and they’re “passionate as sin”. She’s a ‘gay Texan’. She’s curious. She isn’t like the other girls. She isn’t boy crazy. She doesn’t chase boys. She doesn’t try to get boys attention. She’s trapped in a golden cage. Her boyfriend’s a jailer. Her boyfriend’s a narcissist. Her boyfriends a playboy. She doesn’t trust them. She hasn’t seen him in a couple of months. She wants HER midnights. All the boys in their expensive cars never took her quite where ‘you’ do. Her love is different and maybe society wouldn’t accept it. She’s so furious that she feels this way. She’s not going home with any men, just to her cats, unless ‘you’ wanna come along. She’ll never love ‘him’ the way she loved ‘you’. She sings about Bettys. She’s close with Cara Delevingne. She’s ✨ magnificently cursed.✨ She’s on the A-Team. She loves cats. She’s the man. She switched sides. Her relationships break the status quo. She doesn’t belong, and neither does her beloved. She likes serenading women and RayTay would be a great couple name. She’s as “happy” as Ruby Rose and Hayley Kiyoko! She wishes she could brag about getting bitches and models and she gets excited about ballerinas, especially ones with shiny aaaaaabs. She’s a New Romantic. She’s KING. 👑 She likes being called daddy. 😉 She doesn’t care if her partner has a di- gap between their teeth. She’s hunted like a witch for who she is. She’s the gold star wearing sheriff of the gay-trailer park on 16th Avenue, and ‘he’ sends her heartbeat skipping right back there. She’s loved in shades of wrong. She’s got her demons and darling, they all look like ‘you’. She thinks meeting women on the internet and taking them home is “cool shit” and she’s “been there too a few times.” She was “out now!” on Lesbian Visibility Day. She really digs that rainbow and blue, purple, pink aesthetic. She performed at Stonewall, and she could build a castle out of all the bricks they threw at her. Her love is calamitous and fills her with insurmountable grief. Everyone thinks that they know her but they know nothing about all this pining. Danger is just around the corner because it lives in her. Her love should be celebrated but it’s tolerated. She changes everything about herself to fit in. She worships a false god in a sexy way. She swears she could hear a hairpin drop. She likes Dickinson, and Killing Eve, and Booksmart, and Tegan & Sarah, and Fletcher, and Lesbian Jesus. She thinks King Princess’s music is ‘nostalgic’. She can’t think straight. She’s a 🐱 🧲. She’s chosen butterflies over one-eyed snakes. She thinks models changing in her trailer is a “literal fantasy” and some women are “so gorgeous” it’s hard to talk to them. She’s in screaming colour with her crooked love. Her love is brave and wild! She can’t even keep a straight face! She’s been hiding in a closet, and she got locked in that closet because she was eating another man’s cookies. She had an illicit affair with someone who wears perfume. She’s sending signals, and while the rumours are terrible and cruel, most of them are true. She’s invisible. Do you see right through her? She doesn’t like people raining on her parade. She’s got a schoolgirl crush. She’s popped a 🍒 or two. She writes from the male perspective. She writes from the wlw perspective. She’s a scarlet letter, but you can trust that hers is better. If you know, you know. It takes one to know one. Gay pride makes her her and she really thinks you should calm down.

In fact just about the only label she hasn’t used is straight. 🤔

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