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ellaten · 2 months

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Anyway, while people are discoursing about men and not sharing Shubble points, here’s the actual advice I got from watching the stream bc I think that probably needs to be spread more. Shubble elaborates it much better but if you can’t watch it’s better than nothing.

Physical abuse is not just hitting or kicking, anyone causing physical pain intentionally to you without consent is physically abusive, regardless of how that manifests or if it seems silly.

Pressuring someone into using a safeword on something that’s not, like, a mutually agreed thing and is just something one partner wants is controlling and creepy.

Partners who push at the edge of your boundaries and avoid safewords are abusive.

A partner insisting you’re remembering things wrong and making you seem crazy is abusive (specifically, it’s gaslighting)

Grand romantic gestures from the beginning can very easily be a sign of abuse, as abusers use it to endear themselves to their victims.

Controlling behaviour and refusing to break up while also refusing to make changes is possessive and unhealthy at best.

Abusers will manipulate things to make it seem normal to those outside of their victims- by being kind and helpful even as they neglect their victim, by pressuring their victim to treat their abusive behaviour as a joke, ect. It’s often very hard for an outside observer to know if something is abusive, and making assumptions off of what you know in front of closed doors isn’t helpful.

It’s very hard to tell that you’re being abused, and you'll often still retain affection for your abuser for a long time- this is normal, and this isn’t your fault if you wanted to stay friends.

Even if an abuser is struggling with their own problems, taking it out on you is not acceptable. People can be bottling up their emotions and struggle with depression and past trauma and that gives them no excuse to hurt you.

If your partner relies entirely on you to take care of them, and support them financially, that’s financial abuse one way or another.

Abusers tend to hurt more than one person, and their actions escalate without outside influence (be it intervention if possible or something that keeps them away from victims if not.)

Listen to your gut, if you think a relationship is bad. Even if you’ve been through this before, sometimes you can’t realise in it, but you’ll feel it subconciously.

Also, Shubble is being supported by friends who helped her cope and went through different but similar things. She's specifically mentioned right now keeping the stories anonymised, but she might change her mind, if I interpreted the last bit correctly. She's doing alright, she's healing, and it sounds like she's being believed by her friends, at least most of them. I wish nothing but growth and healing for them, and wish them the best moving forward.

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ellaten · 2 months

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subscribe and follow shubble everywhere

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ellaten · 2 months

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Everyone say “thank you, Shubble”

And, if you’ve got time, I would say that while we should be worrying about deplatforming an abuser, supporting Shubble is really what’s most important!

I recommend watching a few of her videos to give her that boost! You can throw a like and a comment her way. Remember that content creation is a job and we can contribute even if just a little.

Her recent hide and seek video featuring Gem, Jimmy, Lizzie and Scott is incredibly cozy, her SOS video is cute and for a series that’s just barely started, both her empires seasons are solid (one link because they’re on the same playlist), her Witchcraft smp series is fun! She has a bunch of videos on other assorted games, and a small AITA podcast series featuring HBomb!

Send all the love to Shelby! Let’s put our time where our hearts are 💗

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ellaten · 2 months

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intentionally mislabelling behaviour and narrowing down the scope of what "counts" as abuse is also an extension of abuse tactics btw.

saying you were "just selfish" or "just slobbish" or "just disrespectful" while the physical harm was allowed to be called out of line, is part of the abuse.

narrowing down the scope of what counts, and what the abuser can be labelled as responsible for, is just another tactic to delegitimise the victims claims and further make them feel like it wasnt "that bad" .

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ellaten · 2 months

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Wilburs response was so violent misogynistic and honestly can only be understood as an extension of the abuse he has caused. He publicly discredited Shubble and sent his fans to call her a liar. and to clothe this abusive, violent statement in therapyspeak and platitudes of "your valid!" as he publicly discredits the woman he abused is nauseating levels of gaslighting and misogyny. Fuck wilbur soot and all of his ilk

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ellaten · 8 months

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YEAAAAHHHHHHHH WE LOOK SO GOOD!!!

After all this time, it is finished

I should've asked yall's height before starting ngl, lmao

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Tenella, @unfamiliarroe, @favoriteginger, Shadow

Looking forward to possibly making the Green Girlbosses version next time >:]

#avloki pal posts #mccr #mcc rising #BASED FOR THIS

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ellaten · 9 months

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time to campaign my content again. it’s that time of year.

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#twitch #streaming #minecraft #minecraft championships #mcc rising #mc championship #dsmp #twitch streamer #small streamer #please follow me on twitch I’m so close to a hundred #I’m also an incredibly funny guy #very charismatic #Youtube

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ellaten · 1 year

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THE FINALE

Vivi (any pronouns)

Local 15 year old demon has a lot of things wrong with them, most of which are themes in Neon Genesis Evangelion. The ones that aren't are pleasant topics like being the son of a priest, and a kind of rage that results in arson. But she is very cute :]

Ginger (she/they)

Far from home and lost in an unfamiliar land. They desperately want to go back, but is unsure she’ll be able to.

#GINGER SWEEP GINGER SWEEP #this is one of my BEST ONLINE FRIENDS I DEMANDE YOU VOTE FOR HER SHE IS SO COOL #GIRLBOSS GANG RIDE OR DIE

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ellaten · 1 year

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ROUND 4