commission for the one and only @ignite-art ♡ the demand : "long haired celestial being crowley"

Im bisexual, im just curious of people's answers

Trying to figure something out about myself; please reblog this for a larger sample size.

No hay acción más tonta que ayudar a alguien del sexo masculino. No lo valoran (es que no se dan cuenta o slgo asi). Dos veces ayudé hombres y literalmente lo único que hicieron fue verme blanda como para hacerme bullyng. Una vez un chico perdió plata, le ofrecí la mia y de ahi empezó a molestarme por 8 años más. El otro me manipuló para que le de un útil escolar con mentiras, le crei por ingenuidad(aparte me dio pena que no tenga marcador del que borra y le di uno) y luego empezó a ser muy tóxico conmigo humillandome cada vez que podía. Otra persona se dio un gran recorrido en auto para ir a hacerle un regalo a alguien de algo qje precisaba y el tipo no fue una pizca dw agradecido (es más :la dejó). No protejas hombres. Y si lo haces : anuncialo a bombo y platillo PERO SIEMPRE RECUERDA EN BENEFICIARTE TAMBIÉN.

Como experimento social intente abrirle la puerta a hombres y de los 3 ninguno me diò ni las gracias.

Si ellos nos ayudan se supone que son caballeros y debemos valorarlos (¿enamorarnos de eso? También es válido y "posible") . Si nosotras ayudamos... se siente ridículo por la tan poca valoración que se tiene. Es más :es como que te impulsa hacia abajo

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men against porn think theyre noble knights or some shit doing a service to themselves and their dicks (or god)

women against porn are like that one withered wojak meme wondering "when will the recorded abuse of my sisters end"

To The Substitute Art Teacher - Jordan Bolton

Fandoms de los que soy parte que no coinciden en públicos objetivos (voy a enloquecer al algoritmo) :

*Scandroid => hombres maduros

*Jennifer's Body => Mujeres jóvenes

*American Murder=> machitos agresivos los veo re fans, fuera de eso se ofenden todos.

*¡Dulce Venganza! => ¿una peli donde funan a un tipo del estilo del caso anterior? ¡Claro que si!

* Devilman Crybaby => chicos 17 añeros aprox

* Inocencia Interrumpida => chicas de 18-21 años. Hace falta ser re torta y mujer para entender la gracia del punto.

* Dance With The Dead => para varones en sus 20tes o 30tas.

*Moral Orel => quejosa de la iglesia.

* Desencanto => Lo contrario a la anterior posiblemente.

I had that doubt, thanks 💗

Via biknesmith on twitter

This is very important, and I really wish I saw this last year. You are not the "secret experiment" of transphobic cis men, and your identity isn't optional for them to acknowledge, respect, or see. From somebody who's been in shitty relationships like this with cis men, don't be so willing to placate to their transphobia (if you're safe). You don't have to put up with their bullshit, you don't have to baby them.

Thiss

Love seeing this shit on my feed and then turning around to be hit by a wall of people who indignantly beleive that terfs never target trans men. Can put up with transphobia and misogyny and have my issues minimized by feminists and other queer people alike.

Call me all sorts of nasty things but I don’t think a person NEEDS dysphoria to be trans

To me gender is a matter of self perception and a pursuit of comfort and happiness. Do you perceive yourself as a gender different from the one you were assigned at birth? Does it make you more comfortable and happy to be perceived this gender and to identify with this gender? If yes than that’s enough to make you trans

Being trans isn’t about suffering or hating your body, it’s about identifying yourself as a gender different from your birth and finding happiness in that. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

your daily reminder (colored version)

There's no "right" way to be transgender.

There's no "right" way to be non-binary.

There's no "right" way to be queer.

There's no "right" way to be mspec.

There's no "right" way to be aspec.

There's no "right" way to be gnc.

There's no "right" way to be plural.

There's no "right" way to be neurodivergent.

There's no "right" way to be queerplatonic.

There's no "right" way to be polyam.

There's no "right" way to be otherkin.

There's no "right" way to be alterhuman.

There's no "right" way to be intersex.

There's no "right" way to be aldernic.

There's no "right" way. Stop policing the terms others use for themselves in good faith.

I love your opinion so much. Thisss, dysphoria never dissapears

Trans "women" are either:

1. Perverted misogynistic men with degradation kink who see femininity as the highest form of degradation

2. Gay men with the levels of internalized homophobia so high that they would rather pretend to be a woman in a het relationship than to be a gay man in a homosexual relationship

3. Autogynephiles

“Women can be rapists too!”

This is true. Women are capable of raping people. You would think, considering that women are often left to raise and care for the most vulnerable in society (nursing, teaching, elderly care) that we would hear a myriad of stories coming out about how women in mass numbers are molesting and raping the most vulnerable. You don’t care about that though. In fact, despite having less access, it’s men who rape most. If women can rape, why is it that even though they have more opportunities to do so, they don’t?

More importantly, why do men?

Idk how cats still recognise us when we suddenly change, (I know, the smell) I mean:

First : I was blonde woman with a very big chest. Then a redhead woman with short and "sweet" face totally different. People didn't recognise me.

Now suddenly I came to the house looking like a man becouse I cut my hair 🙋‍♂️ and now I can do cispassing. And people again didn't recognise me. And he acts like he didnt even notice.

I'm the same person... I'm just more me, and you could see that.

This is my cat Ham- no matter what they've always been a sweet loving kitty cat 💕

i feel gendefluid but sometimes I wonder if I'm just a butch trying to fit. Sometimes days are terrible bc I feel really weird in this society. we need more ppl in the media thst are butches and make it more average in the media uwu

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I love this :

[about transition] "But let’s not sell this like it’s a Disney park ride. The marketing of everything trans is ridiculously misleading. Don’t put sparkles and rainbows over real pain as though that helps at all. It’s insulting."(Of course:) ", :Listen, I don’t doubt that sometimes medical transition is helpful for people. It’s not my place to say they can’t or shouldn’t".

By: Aaron Kimberly

Published: Dec 18, 2021

Between 1995-2006 I was a part of the butch lesbian community. During those years, despite my life-long and sometimes intense gender dysphoria, I hadn’t given any serious thought to medically transitioning. It wasn’t even on my radar as a possibility until after 2000. The idea of medically transitioning seemed fringe, far-fetched, and risky.

Most of the butches I knew also had gender dysphoria (GD) or rather, Gender Identity Disorder (GID), as it was called then. Many butches I knew in Winnipeg, Halifax, Toronto, and later Vancouver, were strong, stoic people. I admired many of them. I know that their lives weren’t always easy, but they carried themselves with dignity. They had butch “brotherhood” and femmes who adored them. Many were “stone” which meant that their GID made it difficult for them to relate to their female anatomy so didn’t allow themselves to be touched by anyone, or rarely. They were often harassed and abused for being masculine women, as I was. It was often stressful using female public washrooms, because our gender ambiguity made people so uncomfortable. There was a term “butch bladder” to reference the ways we’d avoid using bathrooms in public.

In the early-mid 2000s, more and more FTMs were appearing in the community, alongside the butches. Many lesbian spaces welcomed them, some didn’t. It seemed to me at the time that butches were presented with two options: we could choose to be butches, or we could choose to be FTM “trans guys”. Why people chose one or the other...that was very individual and personal. It really came down to which option solved a problem and made life easier. The problem could be homophobic parents, fatigue from being harassed, differing degrees of dysphoria and bodily discomfort, not understanding what GID is, poor social or occupational functioning, trauma, other mental health challenges like depression or the anxiety that seemed inevitable for us. Some transitioned but still identified as butch women. They chose medical interventions to look more masculine, not to identify as men. Some trans guys said they never had GID at all. I don’t know what their motivations for transitioning were. Some said “political reasons”. There were some who were big fans of Queer Theory icons like Judith Butler and Judith Halberstam. Those women adopted male personas - intentional “female masculinity” - as an expression of Queer Theory, not to be men/male. I chose to transition soon after a gay man was beaten to death in a nearby park.

If kids with gender dysphoria today are anything like who we were 20 years ago, I feel saddened by their trajectory. Others see benefits: Access to medical interventions has been made easier. They no longer have to do a “real-life test” (live their life as the opposite sex for 2 years without medical assistance). They don’t have to go through months or years of therapy and assessment. More is now known about the effects and risks of hormones. The surgeries have improved, are easier to access and now paid for by insurance. (I paid for my own mastectomy out of pocket, and was on the SRS surgery waitlist for 10 years.)

But, what have we done? Have we eliminated all of the conditions for why a butch girl would find their innate masculinity hard to live with? Have we made the lives of butch women better and safer? Have we eliminated homophobic families, communities, employers, clinicians and policies? Are we educating young people what gender dysphoria is, in evidence-based terms, supporting them to integrate that into a healthy identity and self-image? Do we tell masculine girls how attractive they are? Do they have an abundance of healthy role models? Are they fully embraced and integrated into their workforces, educational settings, faith communities… or, are butches still getting weird looks from strangers? Are they still getting yelled at in public bathrooms? Are young, obnoxious young men still yelling slurs out their car windows as they drive by a butch woman? Do gender non-conforming women still fear for their lives in some places? Can they get Brandon Teena out of their heads? Can they travel the world freely? Can they find clothing they like that fits their bodies well?

I’m not convinced we’ve made any real progress at all. I think we’ve just made it easier for people to jump ship, younger and faster, and gave it a different spin. We now call that “self-actualization”. We’ve facilitated a better illusion. We’ve convinced more and more people that the illusion is real. We continue to push for better surgeries. Penile and uterine transplants are on the horizon. Young people are flooding into clinics. They can’t keep up with the demand. Activists have pushed Queer Theory as an explanation for our difference, displacing evidence-based clinical definitions of GID/GD. It’s no longer talked about as a condition that requires treatment but a natural human variation that requires affirmation in whatever form we demand (often life-long medicalization). I’ve travelled that road to its end, and its hurt just as much as it’s helped.

The surgeries available to FTMs right now are awful. A double mastectomy and phalloplasty or metoidioplasty are gruesome procedures to go through. The US surgeon I went to for metoidioplasty boasts low complication rates, but the anecdotal evidence I’ve witnessed (myself and everyone I know who had the procedure there and elsewhere) is close to a 100% complication rate. One guy at the surgical recovery centre I stayed at started to hemorrhage and was laying on the floor unable to reach the call bell when another FTM patient found him and advocated for him to be rushed to hospital. Fistulas and strictures are the most common problem. I chose metoidioplasty because it’s thought to be the less risky of the two options. I immediately developed two large fistulas (meaning that my urethra burst open in two places) that needed additional surgery to repair. I couldn’t bathe or go swimming for a year until those openings were repaired. I have chronic perineum pain, altered bowel function due to changes in my pelvic muscles, and no sensation in most of my chest. When we have complications, local physicians and surgeons don’t know what to do. So we have to wait, and travel to whoever can help.

Listen, I don’t doubt that sometimes medical transition is helpful for people. It’s not my place to say they can’t or shouldn’t. But let’s not sell this like it’s a Disney park ride. The marketing of everything trans is ridiculously misleading. Don’t put sparkles and rainbows over real pain as though that helps at all. It’s insulting.

If we really want to help these kids, we need to make it easier for lesbian kids. Butch kids. All gender non-conforming kids. The quirky and awkward kids. Kids who feel they don’t fit it. Let’s get better at working with parents and preserving families. Be honest about what medical transition is really about. No one really changes biological sex and these procedures are really hard to go through. Why are we putting all of our resources into escaping brutality rather than eliminating brutality? We’re cutting up our bodies because our lived reality is worse. Why do we celebrate that?

Medical transition is but one option for those with GD. We need to reclaim our understanding of GD as a condition so that we can have reality based-conversations and solve real personal and social problems. “Trans” as a concept, masks many underlying issues. A queer theory-based understanding of myself worsened my GD. Medical transition became an addiction. The illusion only works if we’re lucky enough to pass and everyone else plays along perfectly. It’s an exhausting game of whack-a-mole to dodge the reminders of my female past and female biology. How is that kind of dissociation desirable? Some people may benefit from medically transitioning, but we still need a reality-based understanding of ourselves, to keep our feet on the ground.

Our children deserve better. If this sounds transphobic to you, you’re a part of the problem. Owning our reality for what it is isn’t self-hatred. It’s self-acceptance. Having different ideas and a different vision of how to move forward isn't hatred. Hatred was the skinheads who circled around us at the small 1992 Winnipeg gay and lesbian march, long before Pride was a parade. Hatred was the men who drove from the suburbs into Vancouver with the intent to "kill a fag" and murdered Aaron Webster in Stanley Park. I’m well acquainted with phobia. This isn't phobia. This is love.