Harry: “For many people, across the globe, tomorrow is Christmas Eve. But to even more people, tomorrow is Louis’ birthday.”

there is a certain subset of queer identities—aromanticism and asexuality and their related spectrums of identities perhaps being chief among them, at least if we're talking about widely used umbrella-type labels—that the larger queer community, by and large, views as secondary or auxiliary identities that don't warrant the same... real estate, i guess, as "regular" queer identities.

i'm not interested in playing the identity politics "who is oppressed the most/more deserving of attention?" because (a) it's irrelevant and (b) i'm a white american so i REALLY don't have a horse in that particular race. what i AM interested in is the apparent bias that many people have against aspec identities and the fact that the overwhelming majority of people seem to view aspec identities as "lesser" queer identities.

i'm not talking about, like, current legislative battles or things like that (see previous paragraph). i'm talking about the frankly patronizing way that aspecs get treated when we try to talk about literally anything that affects us. you call someone out for an aphobic comment and you get accused of "making it about you" or you get told something that boils down to "well i'm a REAL gay so i can say what i want and your feelings don't matter." even in a less insidious sense, other queer people have often spoken to me like i don't Get It because i'm not REALLY queer. it's like being told to go sit at the little kids' table while the adults are talking. it's frankly insulting to try to talk about something and have your inbox flooded with a dozen people all telling you that YOUR problems are less important and no one cares and we have to deal with "real" queer people's problems first and then we can deal with you and your silly complaints.

again, it's not a contest. but i've had people i love say things like "queer women" in front of me and know they mean wlw (shoutout to straight trans people by the way, this is one of our common struggles 🤝), and when corrected people stumble over themselves to avoid saying they only meant REAL queer people. even if they don't realize it. they see aromanticism and asexuality as lesser forms of queerness that don't need to be mentioned unless the situation specifically calls for it. "queer" by default to a lot of people means a very specific thing. and it shouldn't. because that defeats the whole point of the word as a community term.

TOM HOLLAND Get A Job | UNILAD

announcing (probably very expensive) shows go on sale the next day local without specifying where the shows are going to be or when they are going to be or anything else whatsoever is truly ✨hshq✨ style

help i can’t stop making these

I do not support all women because this should’ve been MEEEEE

"See ya."

BEST FRIEND CERTIFICATE

Awww they really are bffs! She wasn’t lying. Also there is no way he didn’t read this 🤣

Full picture of Louis for Official Charts - 18.11

#mood

🍂 HEARTSTOPPER SEASON 2 IS OFFICIALLY IN PRODUCTION 🍂

Joe & Bash in Paris in Axel Auriant's IG story!

I really don’t like when characters do the whole “Maybe I’m just not a love/romance kind of person” thing because it’s never played like that could be a serious option, they almost always get made fun of by the other characters who *know* that *of course* the character doesn’t actually mean it and then at the end they find someone and that sentiment gets invalidated entirely

HELLOOOOOOOO