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Sugar Baby Guide w/ 200+ tips!

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting

Square cash warning

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language

Master guide: Body language linguistics

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot?

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting

Suggested sugar reading list

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DC/DMV sb's

Any sugars in DC or the DMV area? If so would you be able to recommend some restaurants other than Capital Grille or Morton’s.

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1 Sentence, 7 different ways.

I’m guilty of frequently using this line, “What are your expectations in an arrangement?”

So today, I stopped for a minute to think about different ways that we could ask this same question, but without repeating ourselves. We all want to stand out from the crowd, and it honestly does get boring when they (or we) ask the same question over and over!

Instead of asking them “What are your expectations”, you could easily change it up and say something like:

1) Provision - The action of providing or supplying something for use.

“I’m considering your offer. However before I can fully agree, could you tell me if there are any (other) provisions that I should know about?”

2) Stipulation - A condition or requirement that is specified or demanded as part of an agreement.

“I’d love to know what your stipulations are in an arrangement?”

3) Prerequisite - A thing that is required as a prior condition for something else to happen or exist.

“Do you have any prerequisites in order for me to earn my allowance in full every month?”

4) Essential - Absolutely necessary; extremely important.

“Can you give me more details on what is essential for you, in order to consider an arrangement with me?”

5) Imperative - Of vital importance; crucial.

“When I am in an arrangement, it’s imperative that my SD is respectful, supportive, has patience and can commit to seeing me at least once a week. What is imperative for you?”

6) Indispensable - Absolutely necessary.

“What are some things that you would consider to be indispensable aspects to a healthy SB/SD relationship?”

7) Compulsory - Required by law or a rule; obligatory.

“Is there anything that is compulsory, in order to make/keep you happy as an SD?”

These are all ways to ask the same question, without being boring! It’s good to try new things sometimes, and you just never know if someone has been asked the same question a hundred times! The more little tricks that have and that you can use to help you secure an SD, the better ;)

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Pro-tip: If a potential SD asks “what you’re willing to do,” as in sexually, instead of flying off the goddamn handle like some of you do, just say something like “What I will or won’t do depends on my comfort level with the person I’m with. There are things I like that I haven’t done with certain partners and things I’ve never tried that I enjoyed with certain partners and not others. Trust and respect are what shape what I’m willing to do, so I can’t give you a definite answer on that. I am very open minded if I truly enjoy the person I’m with.” It lets them know you won’t be easy (but that they have a chance), and gets you out of talking sexually. Answer any subsequent questions at your own discretion.

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THE LINKS: The Official Sugar Baby Reading List (Strippers, Escorts, Cam Girls too)

Here are some of the download links, torrents, pdf’s, etc. to some of books here.

***I checked each torrent first, btw***

Some of these contain torrent links and some of them are personal pdf’s that I had to download online myself *tired*.

1. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey

Torrent: https://kickass.to/act-like-a-lady-think-like-a-man-t7546783.html

2. The Power of the Pussy: How to Get What You Want From Men Love, Respect, Commitment and More…What Do You Want? by Kara King ((Parts 1 & 2)) YES there is a part 2 :)

Torrent: https://kickass.to/power-of-the-pussy-1-and-2-how-to-get-what-you-want-from-men-t10100580.html

3. Sugar Daddy 101: What You Need to Know if You Want to be a Sugar Baby by Leidra Lawson

Download Link: http://document.li/IKvR

4. Seeking Arrangement: The Definitive Guide to Sugar Daddy and Mutually Beneficial Relationships by Brandon Wade

Download Link: http://document.li/iyTG

5. The Vixen Manual: How to Find, Seduce & Keep the Man You Want by Karrine Steffans

Torrent: https://kickass.to/the-vixen-manual-how-to-find-seduce-amp-keep-the-man-you-want-mantesh-t6032450.html

6. How to Talk to Anyone by Leil Lowndes

Download Link: http://document.li/3r0E

7. How To Develop Self-Confidence and Influence Peoplle by Pulic Speaking by Dale Carnegie

Download Link: http://document.li/V0jG

8. The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene

Download Link: http://document.li/EwU5

9. Going Down: The Instinct Guide to Oral Sex by Ben R. Rogers

Download Link: http://document.li/7D0V

10. Blow Him Away: How to Give Him Mind-Blowing Oral Sex by Marcy Michaels

Download Link: http://document.li/q0Fa

11. The Power of Eye Contact by Michael Ellsberg

Download Link: http://document.li/P01S

12. The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene

Download Link: http://document.li/WiXS

13. The Satanic Witch by Anton Szandor LaVey

Download Link: http://document.li/Z1qF

14. What Every BODY is Saying by Joe Navarro

Download Link: http://document.li/8t2c

15. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini

Download Link: http://document.li/uVZ1

16. Rich Dad, Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money—That the Poor and the Middle Class Do Not! by Robert T. Kiyosaki

Torrent: https://kickass.to/rich-dad-poor-dad-robert-t-kiyosaki-pdf-t6467515.html

BONUS WITHIN MY OWN COLLECTION OF BOOKS

17. The Woman Men Adore…and Never Want To Leave by Bob Grant

Download Link: http://document.li/qTd7

18. Covert Persuasion - Psychological Tactics and Tricks to Win the Game by Kevin Hogan

Download Link: http://document.li/80ox

19. Kama Sutra: Step by Step Edited by Chuck Wills

Download Link: http://document.li/5lae

20. The Definitive Book of Body Language by Allan & Barbara Pease

Download Link: http://document.li/2Kh6

How to download torrents:

For those of you unfamiliar with downloading torrents you need a BitTorrent Client. I suggest UTorrent (it’s what I use)… You can download it to your computer here (yes it’s free). Once you download Torrent, you can click on the torrent links I provided and it will download. Follow the directions, it’s fairly easy.

The rest of the links were books I retrieved from my computer and downloaded to a pdf host site.

The original list has 40 books, but of course I could not get links to all of them, either they were kindle exclusives or I couldn’t find them online.

I spent all night adding and organizing these. I’m tired af yo. So now yal’ can get off my back. whew lol

Reblog so others can view too.

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Using review boards to screen clients

I’ve had several people contact me recently asking for screening advice. I decided to write up a little thing so I don’t have to type out long messages each time. Here’s how I personally use the local review/hobbyist boards to screen clients. This is what works for me, but it’s hard to say if it’ll apply to you because things might be different in your region. My city has a really active review board culture and the boards are the main places that escorts advertise here. If there isn’t an active review board in your area, or if local escorts do most of their advertising on Eros, TER, Backpage, or another site, then most of this information probably wont be helpful to you.

If anyone thinks this is giving out too much information please let me know ASAP and I can delete/change it; I don’t want everyone to freak out on me like what’s happening in the sugar baby community right now over that Vice article. I do want to help keep new/potential escorts safe though. I’m writing this with the knowledge that client-types will probably be reading it but I don’t think any of this is secret information.

1. I encourage clients to initially contact me via private message through the boards rather than email so I can be sure that they really are that board member, because I’ve heard of situations where random creeps have claimed to be popular board members and set up appointments. When a client first contacts me I start checking their references ASAP because most girls take a while to respond (if they ever do). If I don’t recognize the names of the references I google them and/or look them up on the boards to make sure they’re real escorts with an established presence and not just random names that the client made up. I check each escort’s site/ads/profile to see if they have a method of communication that they prefer because some only want to be contacted in certain ways. I then send them a message that says something along the lines of “Dear _____, a client named _____, [board] username: _____, email: _____, phone number: _____, has provided you as a reference. Do you remember seeing him and was he okay? Thanks in advance for any information!” I include all the different names/handles/etc that he told me so they can most thoroughly check their own records to remember who he is. I also google the client’s email/phone number/whatever other information I have about him just to see if anything comes up, but usually nothing does.

2. I then start checking out the client’s board history. I look at their reviews especially, and check to see if the reviewed providers responded and acknowledged the reviews. These end up serving as references most of the time since so many girls don’t respond to reference checks, and this is basically the second best option. As long as the provider comments really positively, something along the lines of “Thanks so much, can’t wait to see you again!” it feels reassuring but it still makes me nervous that it might not be the whole story or her true feelings. If they have a bunch of reviews that the providers never acknowledged I get pretty suspicious. Some girls are probably just flaky and don’t bother to look up or comment on their own reviews I guess, but it could also mean that the client either didn’t actually see them (so they could be either a cop or someone else doing something sketchy), or they did but it wasn’t a good experience for the provider so she didn’t want to leave a comment. I also check to see if the client has any very recent reviews who they didn’t use as a reference, and sometimes I send a private message to those girls to ask about them because that could be suspicious. And I check out the client’s non-review posts to get an idea of what type of person they are. I’ve turned down a lot of clients because they acted like total trolls on the boards. I’m also wary of any hardcore hobbyist, like the ones who are posting on the boards all day every day and have written hundreds of super explicit reviews, because they tend to be especially entitled and rude. I personally don’t like reviews and only allowed/encouraged them for my first couple months so I could get started. I now have it in my ads that I prefer that people don’t review me, but obviously I can’t control what they do so seeing anyone who’s obviously really into writing long, detailed, pornographic reviews makes me a little nervous and I sometimes turn people down over that, especially if they’ve written unnecessarily bad/mean reviews.

3. The two boards in my city have alert/warning sections to post about bad clients and I always keep an eye on those and make sure my potential clients aren’t on there. Just recently for the first time when I was checking out a potential client I found two warnings from a couple years ago about him holding escorts down and slapping them and refusing to leave after his appointment was up. His initial message to me had been very polite and he included a few references, so I was surprised to find alerts on him. Maybe his references would say he was fine with them, but I don’t take any chances when I don’t have to so I very politely told him I would have to decline because I’d seen the warnings about him. He wrote back, “Ok. Have a nice life…bitch.” So, I’m really glad I checked him out.

4. I always tell my clients either at the end of the appointment or in an email/text after they’ve left to please feel free to use me as a reference, and when I do get a reference check from anyone it’s my top priority to respond ASAP. Even though I’ve been escorting for a couple years I still feel a little unsure about how much information to include when I respond to reference checks. Most of the women who bother to respond to mine usually just say “Yes, I know him and he’s fine. Have fun!” so that’s pretty much what I do too, although I’ve occasionally added extra info like “You might want to encourage him to take a shower at the beginning of the session” or “It was impossible to get him to leave when his time was up and he overstayed by almost 30 minutes” or sometimes positive things like “He really likes red lingerie”. I wish more escorts included little helpful hints like that so I’m trying to make it happen.

5. I don’t see anyone who I can’t verify either through references or acknowledged reviews, no exceptions. I don’t do workplace verifications because I’m less concerned about cops and mainly I’m scared of violent creeps. I don’t think knowing someone’s name and where they work is very helpful if they plan to murder me. Yeah it adds some accountability and might make them a little nervous to do something bad, but it’s not enough insurance for me. So I really need to know that they’ve seen other escorts and been decent to them. So far the system has worked for me; I’ve had clients who I didn’t like very much because they were annoying or we just didn’t click, but I haven’t had any really bad or scary experiences as an escort.

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Screening

Here’s the information I request on my contact form, and how I use it.

Required information is marked with an asterisk*

*First name

*Middle name

*Last name

*Email address

*Phone number

*Do you prefer texting or calling?

Texting

Calling

Either

*Provider References

Please provide the name, email, website address or ad link, and contact number for AT LEAST TWO currently active companions, and the dates you last saw them.

Age

Employment Verification (REQUIRED if you have less than two provider references, STRONGLY RECOMMENDED otherwise)

Employer’s name, your position/title, company phone number, your direct line or extension, and story for me to use when I call (or other way for me to verify employment, such as an employee photo ID badge)

*Appointment Date and Time

*Appointment Duration

P411/TER/localboard/Datecheck Info

Outift request (not guaranteed)

*What are you looking to get out of our date?

*Where did you find me?

Is there anything else you’d like to tell me?

RECOMMENDED Driver’s License Upload

OPTIONAL Face Photo Upload

How I use this information:

Google their name, both with and without quotes around their name (quotation marks tell the engine to search specifically for that exact phrase, not similar phrases)

Google their email address, both with and without quotations

Google their phone number, both with and without quotations

Plug their phone number and email address into the search feature of my local board to see if they’ve ever been blacklisted

Go to your state’s courts website, and search their court records database for his name. If your state separates their database by county, search for your county, his county, and a few surrounding counties. In my state, all superior court cases are available to view. You can see what pleading/motion was filed, and when, as well as the final judgment. You do have to pay to request the actual documents to see their contents, and you probably cannot do this anonymously (in my county, you have to call the county clerk’s office). In my state, district and municipal cases cannot be viewed, but they will still show up in the search results. Your state may be different.

Search for them on Facebook. Often their wives or children have much more of their profiles publicly visible.

Search for any information on their family members.

(I will be buying a Spokeo subscription soon, so I can plug all their info into here, as well)

Google the providers (normally Googling their name and city will pop them up if they have any sort of online presence). Or just find them based on the info he gave you.

See what kind of reputation those providers have. What to they charge? Do they have any rob reports or bad reviews posted of them? Do they look like they have their shit together? Do they have their own website? Does it look nice? Are there a ton of typos? Having your own website legitimizes you. Do they have professional photos, or are they bathroom selfies?

Contact the providers. I start off by emailing them. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. Billy Joe is requesting a date with me and used you as a reference. Can you please tell me if he was safe, clean and respectful? Would you recommend him to another provider? Anything else you can tell me about him and his personality I would very much appreciate! Best, Foxxxy.” I follow up with a text. “Hi Jessica, this is Foxxxy. I just sent you an email with a reference request. If you could get back to me promptly, I would really appreciate it!”

See what they say. Duh.

Contact his employer. The one time I called a client’s company, it was quite well-known and Google-able. I called the main company line, and asked to be connected to the president of _____. He was already en route on the plane, but I was able to hear his voice during his voicemail recording. A simple phone call to his cell phone would match up his voice, verifying he does work there. I have had a few clients send me photos of their photo ID badge (military personnel, for example).

Obviously check to see how many Okay’s they have, or if they’re on the whitelists for the hobby IDs they provided you. Search their usernames/IDs to see if anything negative pops up.

If they sent you a photo of their driver’s license: search Google Maps for the address on the card. Do they live in a nice part of town? Google the address. Has it popped up on Zillow lately? Any homeowner info pop up? You might be able to search their driver’s license number, either by Googling or going to your state highway patrol site, though I haven’t tried this myself.

If they sent you a photo of their face: reverse Google image search that shit! Also reverse search for it on TinEye. Do they look friendly?

This sounds like a lot, but doesn’t take all too long once you get the hang of it. This doesn’t guarantee your safety, but it sure does reduce the risk of an assault or an arrest.

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“I am an attractive guy, I have lots of money and finding girls isn’t hard for me. What makes you so special?”

“I admire your self-confidence. I am a beautiful, young, woman with a long list of aspirations and goals to accomplish. Finding a wealthy generous gentleman for a woman like myself has never been a challenge. Although we met through unconventional means we are both searching for a conventional value that adds to the equation. What I find puzzling at the moment however is where you can add that value to my life. Finding somebody attractive doesn’t add much since I could seek a jock-fuck (insert high profile athlete), someone that has a lot money might add a little more value because they’re able to help the small things like bills but there’s already plenty of men willing to do that. So here I am wondering, what on earth can you add as a value to my fast-paced crazy life?”

Feel free to add:

“And, if you are wondering what a beautiful young woman like myself can add as value to your life… then you are asking the wrong questions and are clueless how to take care of a woman as special as myself.”

Ladies, if a man is *questioning* what value you can add to his life that means he’s already TRYING to calculate if he can afford you – which, I’ll be blunt to say that he CANNOT. The men that are wealthy never question what a beautiful young woman can add to their life because they already KNOW the value and COST to keep her happy and AGREE anyways.

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Kyle The Troll 🗣 If I see another young baby go on a POT date with this troll I’m going to scream.

1. He’s out in DC every two weeks with another brown baby. 2. He’s frugal. 3. He’s full of himself, and will not spoil you. 4. He’s manipulative with a lot of money. 5. He’s looking for free ass.

Stop wasting your time going on POT dates with this DC troll.

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Freestyle In 50 States... 50 States Masterpost

Alabama:

1. Osman’s Restaurant

2. Noja

3. Ruth Chris Steakhouse

4. Legacy Bar & Grill

5. Highlands Bar & Grill

Alaska:

1. Crow’s Nest

2. Kinley’s Restaurant & Bar

3. Sullivan’s Steakhouse

4. Torchon Bistro

5. Simon & Seafort’s Saloon & Grill

Arizona:

1. Hillstone Restaurant

2. Steak 44

3. Tarbell’s

4. Durant’s

5. Ruffino’s Italian Cuisine

Arkansas:

1. James At The Mill

2. Vetro 1925

3. Theo’s

4. Newport Grill

5. Ciao Baci

California:

San Francisco:

1. La Folie

2. Michael Mina

3. Morton’s Steakhouse

4. Bob’s Steak & Chop House (located inside Omni Hotel)

5. Hakkasan

Los Angeles:

1. Grand Havana Room

2. Bar 1200

3. West Resturant & Lounge

4. SkyBar At Mondrian

5. Fleming’s Prime Steakhouse

Colorado:

1. Penrose Room

2. Joseph’s Fine Dining

3. Walter’s Bistro

4. Ristorante Del Lago

5. The Mona Lisa Fondue Restaurant

Connecticut:

1. Barcelona - New Haven

2. L’Orcio Restaurant

3. ROÌA Restaurant and Cafe

4. Goodfellas Restaurant

5. Valbella

Delaware:

1. Tucci’s

2. Westin Wilmington

3. Krazy Kat’s

4. Moro Restaurant

5. Walter’s Steakhouse

Florida:

Miami:

1. Azul

2. Il Gabbiano

3. Prime 112 Restaurant

4. Tuyo Restaurant

5. The Villa by Barton G

West Palm Beach:

1. Cafe Boulud

2. Top Of The Point Restaurant

3. Chez Jean Pierre

4. Agora Mediterranean Kitchen

5. Table 427

Georgia:

1. Fogo de Chão Brazilian Steakhouse

2. Park 75 Restaurant

3. The Optimist

4. STK Atlanta

5. The St. Regis Atlanta

Hawaii:

1. La Mer

2. Roy’s Waikiki

3. Top of Waikiki

4. Tommy Bahama Restaurant | Bar | Store - Waikiki

5. 53 By The Sea

Idaho:

1. Gino’s Italian Ristorante

2. Chandlers

3. Berryhill & Co

4. Emilio’s

5. The Brickyard

Illinois:

1. The Ritz Carlton

2. Biggs Mansion

3. Sable’s Kitchen

4. Wardolf

5. Trump International Hotel

Indiana:

1. Sixteen

2. Recess

3. Meridian Restaurant & Bar

4. Ocean Prime

5. St Elmo Steak House

Iowa:

1. Proof

2. Cobble Hill

3. The Quarry

4. The Hotel at Kirkwood Center

5. Hotel Blackhawk

Kentucky:

1. Vincenzo’s

2. Corbett’s

3. Rivue

4. 211 Clover Lane

5. Volare Italian Ristorante

Louisiana:

1. NOLA Restaurant

2. GW Fins

3. Emeril’s New Orleans

4. Doris Metropolitan

5. Balise

Maine:

1. Back Bay Grill

2. Emilitsa

3. Evo Kitchen + Bar

4. DiMillo’s on the Water

5. David’s Restaurant

Maryland:

1. Stanford Grill

2. The Kings Contrivance Restaurant

3. Iron Bridge Wine Company

4. Petit Louis Bistro

5. SoBe Restaurant and Lounge

Massachusetts:

1. Yvonne’s

2. Island Creek Oyster Bar

3. Eastern Standard Kitchen and Drinks

4. Hillstone Restaurant

5. Da Vinci

Michigan:

1. Pacific Rim

2. Vinology

3. Logan Restaurant

4. Registry Bistro

5. The West End Grill

Nevada:

1. The Wynn

2. Bellagio

3. Alize’

4. Top Of The World

5. Joël Robuchon

New Jersey:

1. Fernandes Steak House

2. Don Pepe

3. The Orange Squirrel Restaurant & Bar

4. Above Restaurant and Bar

5. Fascino

New York:

1. ABC Kitchen

2. Orso

3. L’Artusi

4. Nomad Library

5. Print

North Carolina:

1. Revolution

2. Metro 8

3. Four Square Restaurant

4. Fairview Dining room

5. Parizade

North Dakota:

1. HoDo Restaurant

2. Basie’s Restaurant

3. HoDo Lounge

4. Maxwells Restaurant & Bar

5. Toscana

Ohio:

1. Crop Bistro

2. Lola

3. Blue Point Grill

4. XO Prime Steaks

5. Red The Steakhouse

Oklahoma:

1. Ludivine

2. Vast

3. The Drake

4. The Metro Wine Bar and Restaurant

5. Mickey’s Mantle’s Steakhouse

Oregon:

1. Le Pigeon

2. Portland City Grill

3. Ava Gene’s

4. Ox

5. DOC Restaurant

Pennsylvania:

1. Moshulu

2. Bistrot La Minette

3. Fond

4. Buddakan

5. Le Chéri

Rhode Island:

1. Primecut Modern Steakhouse

2. Siena

3. Providence Oyster Bar

4. Cafe Nuovo

5. Camille’s

South Carolina:

1. Solstice Kitchen

2. Ruth Chris

3. Ristorante Divino

4. Rioz Brazilian Steakhouse

5. Al’s Upstairs Italian Restaurant

South Dakota:

1. Parkers

2. Foleys

3. Delmonico Grill

4. 445 Martini Lounge

5. Dakotah Steakhouse

Tennessee:

1. Etch

2. Watermark Restaurant

3. The Standard At The Smith House

4. Prima

5. Miel Restaurant

Texas:

Houston:

1. Masraff’s

2. Chama Gaúcha Brazilian Steakhouse

3. Mockingbird Bistro

4. Eddie V’s Prime Seafood

5. Ibiza

Dallas:

1. Hibiscus

2. Del Frisco’s Double Eagle Steak House

3. Canary By Gorji

4. Hillstone Restaurant

5. Madrina

Utah:

1. Valter’s Osteria

2. Bambara Salt Lake City

3. Fleming’s Prime Steakhouse & Wine Bar

4. Christopher’s Prime Steak House & Grill

5. The Roof Restaurant

Vermont:

1. Trattoria Delia

2. Leunig’s Bistro

3. Blue Cat Cafe & Wine Bar

4. EB Strong’s

5. Church & Main

Virginia:

1. Terrapin Restaurant

2. Zoe’s

3. Coastal Grill

4. The Cellars

5. Il Giardino Ristorante

Washington:

1. Pearl

2. Trace (Located inside The W)

3. Canlis

4. Metropolitan Grill

5. El Gaucho

West Virginia:

1. Noah’s Eclectic Bistro

2. The Block

3. The Chop House

4. Paterno’s at the Park

5. Bricks & Barrels

Wisconsin:

1. Ishnala

2. Double Cut

3. Field’s at the Wilderness

4. Del-Bar

5. GrandStay Hotel Appleton-Fox River Mall

Wyoming:

1. Morris House Bistro

2. Little Bear Inn

3. The Cavalryman Steakhouse

This was by far the most challenging post I have ever done but I am glad that I finished it. Please, reblog if I am missing anything. Yelp gets most of the credit, no lie!

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Tinder Freestyling Tactic

So I’ve been trying to find new clever ways of finding out if a guys worth my time without asking upfront - what’s your job, what’s your income and how often are we going to go shopping 👑

Lately I’ve been asking so where can I find some great sushi or a good wine bar? Ask questions so he has to recommend a spot for you then Yelp it and depending on how many $$$$ it has you know whether to show up or … unmatch. Plus 9/10 the guy will recommend going there on a first date. Win win.

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Craigslist Masterpost

Are you ready to give craigslist a try? Here are some ads that I have used in the past that worked for me. Pick any of them to choose from.

1. Undeniable Moments- (Insert City Here)

Would you like for me to spice up your night? Lets go out to dinner and lets have a great time. I have went on a few dates but I felt not only something was missing but also my time being wasted. Have you ever felt that way before? Would you like to meet a woman who is exciting and that you hit it off with mutually?

I would like to be spoiled.

2. It’s Never Too Late For Happy Hour- (Insert City Here)

You’re in the middle of a hectic project and you would like to go out for an evening or two. You are in fear of going alone. You don’t have to be afraid anymore as this is when I come to the picture. Your personal social butterfly is here to rescue you. Do you accept this challenge?

3. 777, Jackpot- (Insert City Here)

I am an attractive young lady. My goal is to meet a gentleman and I just hope that chivalry still exists. He must be well traveled as i love to talk about different destinations. I am interested in art, golf, and trying the best restaurants that (insert city) has to offer.

What you’ll learn about me is that I am an elegant individual with a sense of style.

Please be at least 35-55, as I prefer my men older.

4. Lonely Lunches & Dull Dinners- (Insert City Here)

I enjoy to be your oasis, you can forget the issues of everyday life in. I will be happy to experience times of adventure with you, and discover new worlds with you. When we are together, I’ll make you the center of your universe. I will be devoted to satisfying your desires. Just let the rhythm flow through your mind, body and spirit.

I’m not opposed to refreshing yet exciting experiences that make me grow as a person and evolve my professional possibilities. My primary goal is to find a gentleman who is sincere, honest and charitable.

5. Fountain Of Youth- (Insert City Here)

My ideal gentleman is someone who is financially secure as well as intelligent, older and knows how to keep a woman happy. If you are interested in leading more about this exciting opportunity let’s go out for drinks.

6. Discrete Daddy Wanted- (Insert City Here)

A little bit about myself, I am nice, have a bubbly personality, not to mention, I am a spicy, sassy, sweet, sexy petite mixed creature. I would like to be taken care of. Does it sound like you? If so, please email me. Gracias!

7. Establish An Agreement- (Insert City Here)

I enjoy the company of ambitious, successful, gentlemen. I thrive when expectations are clear and well defined in the beginning letting the rest take care of itself as it all unfolds.

I am seeking a gentleman who desires the benefits of companionship, without the entanglements of a traditional relationship. I would like to be spoiled and pampered.

8. The Ambiance- (Insert City Here)

People tell me I have an exotic look. Natural beauty by day, and dressed to the nines at night. I love the finest things life has to offer and will not settle for less. I am ready for fun and ultimately looking for one person to share my life with. I am attracted to powerful men. Honesty and loyalty are very important to me. I love black tie events, the opera, movies, both domestic and international travel, exotic/luxury cars, golfing, skiing and shopping. I believe in chivalry, romance, and sensuality.

I know what I want and when I find it, I will be off the market.

I spend my free time searching for the man of my dreams. He is worldly, educated, classy, fun, and sexy. A man that enjoys taking care of himself and the woman he is crazy about. A man that loves to travel, both planned and spontaneous.

9. Intelligence Is The Ultimate Aphrodisiac- (Insert City Here)

Don’t open the bottle of wine just yet. Just wait. Aren’t you missing something? No, I’m not talking about the appetizers or the main dish. You are missing, me.

My world is rich and diverse. My standards are high. I reserve the right to say no to invitations when appropriate.

I am most definitely not opposed to seeking an arrangement with a gentleman who is diplomatic, refined, exceptional and a philanthropic. You be will be impressed with my confidence along with my presence. I can’t wait to meet you.

10. Dinner With A Beautiful Woman- (Insert City Here)

I am a woman who enjoys having a man truly be a man and a provider. I like spending my time with a mature individual who knows how to treat a woman, and he knows how to make the most of each moment we spend together.

I am seeking a successful man who is interested in exploring a relationship that is mutually beneficial. I want to meet an individual who is open to new things and enjoying quality time.

After you have posted your ad, it’s time to play the waiting game.

You’ve got a response! What’s next? If it sounds intriguing, you can either do two things:

1. Send a personalized email about yourself and what you are looking for OR you can use my example spam message but of course you would have to reword it and it goes like this:

“Thank you so much for responding to my ad. I would love to get to know you better and hopefully you’ll give me the opportunity to do so. I hope you don’t mind my age as I am _____ years old, however I do consider myself as a young face with an old soul, therefore, I am comfortable in any setting. If you don’t mind me asking what exactly is your occupation because I do consider myself as an entrepreneur. I can’t wait to hear back from you.”

After you send that and he replies again, that means you are in there for scheduling a date. Remember to agree to meet at a public place.

Bonus tips: You are allowed to post at least 5 ads a day, so please post, never feel discouraged when they flag it.

1. Be very firm when they ask you what exactly you are looking for. When they ask, do not be shy. Tell him exactly this: At this time, I am looking for a gentleman who isn’t opposed to exploring a relationship that is rather mutually beneficial to as I have done something like this before and the experience was great to where I would like to try again. If he doesn’t know what that means, do not delete his email. Explain to him that in other words you are seeking a sugar daddy/sugar baby arrangement.

Good luck ladies!

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#sugartip Spy Dialer is my favorite website….if you put in a phone number yu can hear the voicemail, find out the name of the person the number is registered to, and even see a picture if one is available!! #nevertoocareful #bettersafethansorry #sugarsupport #nycsugar #brownsugarbaby #sugardaddy

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When a man asks you about an ideal arrangement:

Well, good question. My ideal arrangement is where we are both comfortable with each other. You get a bit of what you want and I get a bit of what I want. You get to be with a sexy, romantic, vibrant, mature, and (sexual girl) who’s also charismatic, and intelligent, etc and I get to be with a man who is willing to provide financial need in my life. I want to feel like a queen and a man who can invest in me is a keeper in my book. I am open to intimacy eventually. I am happy with per meet or monthly allowances. I do like cash though. I am happy per meet when we are platonic, and then when intimacy is involve and you see my sexual side, I am happy for a monthly allowance (of course money raised). I have been doing this for a good amount of time to know what I want. Per meet, I am totally comfortable of minimum _____. I would like to know if you are willing to let me see other men because if so, then monthly will just be doubled but if not monthly will be around ____. (Remember the more you invest in me, the more luxurious I can be for you and the more “prettier” I can be ;).

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Show Some Appreciation

You may be a 10 and he’s a 2. You’re in your prime, as he has aged less than gracefully. You feel like a Victoria Secret’s Angel & the world is your runway, while he’s embarrassing to be seen in public with. You think you’re God’s gift to this earth?

You may feel you’re entitled to his money, gifts, wealth, etc., just don’t let him know it.

Even as your sugar daddy/sponsor/benefactor/client, he’s still human. As we know, these men don’t want “to feel like an ATM.” Regardless of how you may feel, try to lose the entitlement. A man can be 100x more generous when he feels appreciated (Trust Me!).

Thank him, praise him, show a little gratitude.

Give him a handwritten card.

Leave a ‘thank you’ post-it on the bathroom mirror for him to find in the morning.

Kiss a note card with a note written on it, and place it in his coat pocket or luggage to find (DO NOT do this if he’s married, you don’t want the Mrs. to find it)

Buy him a gift/book/wine/liquor that you think he’d enjoy.

Send him an e-card letting him know you’re thinking of him.

Call the restaurant ahead of time and ask for “Thank You” to be written on his dessert plate - when it comes out, let him know how much you appreciate his generosity and all that he does for you. You’ll get so many brownie points for this one if you do it right ;)

Little things. They don’t have to be extravagant or costly; just let the guy know that he’s appreciated (even if you don’t, at least let him believe that you appreciate his generosity).

Showing a little appreciation goes a LONGGGGG way.

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adriana’s guide to finding the perfect sugar daddy

alright my beautiful sugar babies and lovely ladies looking into entering the sugar bowl, i have been getting a huge amount of messages asking me all sorts of questions, so i decided to write this tell-all post on how to master the art of sugaring.

before you read on, just know that i do and always have had sex with my sds. if you are afraid of sleeping with older men, sugaring is not for you. 99.99% of the time, men will want to have a sexual relationship with you. personally, i have never met a man that has wanted a platonic relationship. don’t waste your time, if you cannot fathom the thought of having sex with a sugar daddy, being a sugar baby is out of the question.

i started looking for a sugar daddy on my 18th birthday. i created a profile on seekingarrangement.com and three days later, i found my perfect sd. at the time, i was in the midwest so the average per meet allowance was $300 but my sd and i agreed upon a $500 per meet allowance. if you want to read more about all of my sds, click here.

he was everything i wanted, a millionaire living in a huge mansion in the wealthiest city in my area, super attractive for his age, and also the biggest sweetheart in the world. he and i had the same ideas about what an arrangement should be like. we had day parties that turned into sleepovers, i invited my friends who all were interested in being a sb and were down to play with him and his friends, he provided an amazing house and of course, lots of cash for me and all of my friends. he and i had and still have an amazing friendship. we have each others backs on anything.

seeing that i had to move to los angeles for college, i started looking for a sd in la right away. i wrote up a new bio and changed my location so that los angeles daddies could see me. i did this about 10 days prior to moving so that i could start going on dates right away.

after arriving in la, i was living off of the money that i had saved and found a couple of ok daddies that i could see every so often for extra cash, but not anything amazing right off of the bat. after sticking with one for 3 months, i saw that even the $8k/month allowance he was giving me wasn’t worth it. after seeing his reaction to me crying, i could tell that he really didn’t care about me at all, and that i was literally only a fuck toy to him. we broke it off after that and i started searching on sa again. after going on way too many dates and not making enough money, i became an escort and worked under a madame. the money seemed amazing, $1k/hour with a 2 hour minimum (before the 30% cut that my madame took) but after seeing 4 clients i decided that i couldn’t do it anymore. i began searching again and refused to settle for anything less than perfect.

i ended up meeting my dream whale daddy. handsome, caring, and mega fucking rich, i couldn’t ask for anyone better. we ended up hitting it off the first night we met and agreed upon a $2k/meet arrangement until we trusted each other enough to start something monthly. i am currently with him, and life couldn’t get any better.

so how can you score the perfect sd, and how do you keep him interested? read on to find out.

1) know what you want from sugaring. i wrote down a list of all of the material things that i wanted from an arrangement, and all of the personality traits that i wanted in my sugar daddy. i decided on my desired allowance and what type of time i wanted to be spending with my sd. personally, i was looking for a sugar daddy that doubled as a friend. someone that i genuinely enjoy spending my time with. i am the type of sugar baby that wants to have sleepovers, spend cozy nights in on occasion, and meet my sds friends. i knew that i wanted my sd to drive a luxury sports car, live in a mansion, and have a huge amount of expendable income. there are a lot of “sugar daddys” out there that drive a moderately priced car, live in an average sized house, and make enough money to give a girl $4k a month and not break the bank. are they worth your time? maybe. honestly, sometimes you need to focus on getting that money before you can find someone that will take you on a last minute trip to ibiza. if sugaring is your only income, your best bet might be finding 3 men that want to see you 2-4 times per month for $4k/month each. but if you are sugaring to live in luxury, there is no point in settling just because the cash is good. personally i don’t feel okay with having multiple sugar daddies, i think that when you find your perfect sd you won’t need anything more than what he can provide for you. i have never had multiple steady arrangements going on at the same time, but i understand that its a better option for some girls. whatever your situation is, come up with a list of needs and wants, and be determined to find a sugar daddy that fulfills them.

2) make the “perfect profile” on seekingarrangement.com. i had one and it is a huge reason why i found who i found. by that i mean i had a clear, close up selfie with a smile on my face as my profile picture. the lighting was perfect, i took the picture while i was facing a window with lots of light (around 3pm) so it made my eyes pop, my teeth look white, and my skin look smooth. i had 2 other public pictures, one mirror pic that i took in a crop top and shorts in good lighting, and another selfie of me not smiling. in all of these photos i was wearing a full face of makeup, but instead of wearing eyeshadow i only wore black winged eyeliner and mascara, and instead of lipstick i wore chapstick with a hint of shine. i got a ton of messages complimenting me on my “natural beauty” (men are fucking clueless when it comes to makeup). for my private pics i had 5 full body pictures that i was wearing tight clothing in, it is crucial to have pictures that show your silhouette, this holds true for any body type! don’t edit (unless you have experience in doing light amounts of retouching) your photos, don’t hide your body in baggy clothes, and please for the love of god do not exclude a body picture from your profile. potential sds want to see exactly what you look like before they meet you so that they know what to expect before making plans to meet. and having a good amount of pictures on your profile makes the dreaded “send me more pics” question obsolete. i did have 2 other pics (one in a bikini and one in a sports bra) for men who i was really interested in, and a couple nude pics that i would send to pots that were willing to pay $20/pic with a 5 pic minimum.

but wait! your profile isn’t all about your pictures, to complete your perfect profile and have your inbox flooding with millionaires in no time, you must write out an amazing bio and explain exactly what you want under the “what i’m looking for” section. when i first wrote my profile it was a bit vague and typical, but after going through my first arrangement, i developed a persona. my persona is adriana, the barely legal 18 yr old girl with a genuine personality and a slammin’ body. adriana is a submissive princess that loves to call her man “daddy” and gets everything she ever wants. i realized that having this persona really made being a sb fun, and men liked it too. so i wrote my bio to match adriana’s personality, stating that “i need a man that needs to love to be called ‘daddy’” and that “i’m not attracted to men under 40″ (ladies, older men loved that i wrote that, they’re the ones with the true money, and there are way too many girls that state that they aren’t interested in anyone over 40). my bio and “what i’m looking for” section was written with good grammar and didn’t have typos, which also helped. i strongly recommend coming up with an alter ego and deciding to be her when you are sugaring. are you a vixen dom that will spice up a married mans private life? are you a sweet little girl next door that just wants to be taken care of? whatever you decide, make it shine through in your profile and remember that you can never be too specific. guys love reading about exactly what you want, and then you will have men sending you specific messages about how they can take care of your needs. i.e. “i’m done with school and i love to travel, so i’m looking for a daddy with a private jet” you may get messages saying “so you said you like men with jets? i have 3.” viola! now you have someone that is attracted to you and has what you want! perfect.

3) understand what men want, and learn how to find out what his specific desires are the first time you meet him. the guys that i would meet up with knew what i was looking for, and in general they knew what my personality was like. when i met with them in person, i really played up the part of my persona that they loved. with some men, they were in love with the fact that i was 18. other men loved that i was outgoing and not afraid to show my true colors at first. whatever they loved, i played it up. and anything they weren’t interested in, i tried to not bring it up without seeming fake. learning how to read a guy right off the bat takes a little bit of time but should be generally the same for most men that you find interest in. learning what they truly want is also a huge part of keeping them satisfied in bed. don’t be afraid to say naughty things, watch porn to get some ideas of what to say (and what not to say) if you are really clueless like i was. for me, i watched a lot of porn under the “teen” category on pornhub and listened to what the girls said and did, then i put my own twist on it whilst in bed with my sd. since my sd loved the fact that i was so young, screaming out “yes daddy, fuck my eighteen year old pussy harder!” made him cum in .025 seconds. don’t be afraid to talk dirty and always remember, it is your job to be their perfect fantasy.

4) dress for success. when meeting pots, i tried to stick to an outfit that wasn’t showing too much skin, but yet showed my silhouette. think tight jeans and a fitting shirt with a high neckline. i have found that men like it more when i wear lighter colors, rather than when i wear all black. whatever your body type may be, try to accentuate your best feature. have big boobs? wear a low cut dress that will show off your bust. have a great ass? leggings and cute tank top will have men drooling all over you. plus size? don’t be afraid to show off your curves in a cute romper with wedges. small bust? try a body suit with high rise jeans. tumblr is filled to the brim with cute outfit inspo with dupes that wont break the bank. i see a lot of posts from sugar accounts saying “great outfit to meet a pot: cute gucci dress with some red bottoms and a chanel clutch!!!” like what??? how tf do you expect every girl to wear a $10,000 outfit. yes, it is good to have a few designer pieces, but its not essential to wear designer 24/7. especially if you are brand new to the sugar bowl. i would assume that most men can’t tell the difference between zara and diane von fuerstenburg, and if they can, ask them to take you shopping. if anyone should be funding your wardrobe, it should be your sd.

5) take care of yourself. it’s your job to look your best at all times. a girl that looks worn out is the last thing a sd is looking for. so please: learn how to apply makeup properly (youtube tutorials are great), shower everyday, wax, shave, style your hair, whiten your teeth (groupon always has deals for pro whitening for $100-200), moisturize, use a perfume (less is more), use ph wipes for your coochie, eat healthy, exercise, paint your nails (nude tones or subtle french tip always are a good choice), wear a bra that really fits and matching underwear to go along, wear jewelry (at least cute stud earrings), have good posture, and always remember to smile.

6) be positive. nobody enjoys being around a sad person, especially not if they’re paying for it. a positive attitude not only attracts men, it makes them want to stay. remember that an arrangement is not as emotionally involved as a real relationship. always smile, always be polite, always look on the bright side. keep it light and fun. feed their ego, tell them that they’re the best you’ve ever had. after all, how can you get sick of a sexy ass woman thats always happy to be there?

7) set goals, and tell them about it. whether you are trying to travel the world, graduate from college debt free, or own your own business, let sds know. men love to hear that you have dreams and goals, it gives them even more of a reason to fund you. even if you don’t agree on an arrangement with a pot, having a reason to why you sugar might inspire them to connect you with people in their circle that can help you achieve your goals.

8) practice your conversation skills. have topics and questions that you can bring up when the conversation gets old. keeping up on the news is a good way to talk about things that most businessmen find interest in. ask your sd questions, especially where you are asking their opinion, it makes them feel important. i try not to get into deep topics with my sd until i know that they have similar views as i do, conflicting views about meaningful subjects can ruin a relationship. when speaking, try not to slur your words and try to use correct grammar. i still swear around my sd, but i try to keep it to a minimum because i know some men find it tacky. at least try to cut it out where its unnecessary i.e., saying “fucking shit i cant find my fucking sock fuck my life” when you could say “i cant seem to find my sock”

9) be adventurous. and by this, i don’t mean try anal. a lot of men find an escape in having a sugar baby, your’e young, wild, and free. if he says he wants to go a few states over for the weekend, say yes. you haven’t tried sashimi yet? go to sushi bar and split 9 plates of it with him. he loves to go skiing? ask him to buy you lessons. he wants to bring another girl into the bedroom? give it a try. whatever it is, sugar daddys are tired of the “ew, no” or “omg i’m too scared!” type of women. generally, sds don’t find a stubborn attitude cute.

10) control the bitch in you. yes, you’re a princess. yes, you deserve the best. but being unnecessarily bitchy or moody isn’t a good way to impress your sd. that “i’m a crazy bitch” mentality doesn’t do so well in the sugar bowl. sds already have issues at work or at home, the last thing they need is for the girl thats supposed to be his get away creating drama. remember that an arrangement is supposed to be fun for the both of you, while you’re getting that shmoney, he wants to feel good after he has spent time with you. its called “mutually beneficial” for a reason.

11) don’t be afraid to ask, and then ask for more. remember that sds will have no problem asking you, or even telling you, to give them head. so you, should have no problem asking them for money or gifts. i have only slept with men that have already given me an allowance, and you should always do the same, so instead of asking for more money i just ask for what i would spend my money on. i’ve asked for typical sugar gifts, like lingerie, shoes, dresses, but i have also asked for concert tickets, pets, plane tickets (to places where i went alone). every time i ask, i get what i want. your sd should have no issue with buying you whatever your heart desires, within reason. but easier said than done, right? asking for money and gifts can be hard at first, i used to feel bad when i asked. but now, after experience, i just bat my eyelashes and say with confidence “please can i please have _____ daddy! pleeeeease!” and they say yes because it was cute and sweet. say it in a way that they cant say no. if you really want something, get him hard as fuck and horny as hell, then pull his dick out of his pants and right as your mouth is about to touch, pull away. then when he’s begging you to give him head, say “only if you buy me _____” and he’s bound to say yes. i only recommend this for girls who are in a solid arrangement, because this could come off the wrong way to a guy you just met. when it comes to talking about an actual cash allowance (which by the way ladies, is the only type of payment you should accept until you trust your sd enough to wire money into your bank/paypal you) you should always ask what they’re comfortable with first. once you have an idea of what he is looking to give you, make sure you’re not settling for an allowance thats lower than what you need. find out what the average per meet allowance in your area is, then don’t go any lower than that multiplied by the number of times you’ll be seeing your sd. i know in la the average per meet allowance in los angeles is $1k, and in the midwest it is $300. whatever it is, don’t be afraid to bring an allowance up. if the man has money, he won’t mind talking about it in a polite way. lets say you want a $6k/month allowance and he offers you a $4k/month allowance. both of you agree that you want to see each other once a week. mention that your rent/mandatory monthly expense is $x, and that you’ll need more cash to cover that. tell him that you’re not just a sugar baby for the money, that you want to truly experience luxury and that a $6k/month allowance could provide you with that. if he’s truly rich, an extra $2k/month is chump change to him. and also, when you’re not afraid to ask for gifts as well, that can save you a lot of money. my sd dropped $2,300 on lingerie for me, on top of an allowance in one day. if you add up all of the gifts that your sd will buy for you, it can go way over the monthly allowance that you want. i.e., you want a $6k/month allowance, but agree on a $4k/month allowance plus shopping, and he ends up spending an extra $5k/month on your shopping trips. so instead of just getting a $6k/month cash allowance, you got an allowance valued at $9k. that way you don’t have to spend your own money on clothes/shoes/whatever the hell, so you have your cash allowance for necessities and savings.

12) learn how to spot the fakes. personally, i have only ever found sds on seeking arrangement. i think that finding an sd through seeking arrangement is the most straight forward way to go about things. also, you can filter out men by using the advanced search option. i would put filters on so that i only saw men that made $1mil+/yr, and their “lifestyle budget” was set at substantial or high. i would either message them something short and sweet or give them access to my private pics. my little intro was “hey daddy, would you be interested in a teenage princess?” it was definitely a little forward but it piqued the interest of many men, including my current sd river. being that i was looking for the total package (not only willing to give me a nice allowance, but also ridiculously fucking rich, and very nice) i would delete every message that i got from a man with an income lower than $1mil/yr. i would, however, go on dates with men that offered me money just to meet in their first message. did i have any intentions of getting into an arrangement with them? hell no. but was the extra cash for literally eating food nice? hell yes. but there are always men that you should stay away from. this includes:

men that obviously have no interest in seeing you succeed

men that drive shitty cars but claim they’re worth millions

men that try to talk dirty with you over text before you meet

men that ask for free nudes

men that ask to fuck for free

men that say that they “don’t need to pay for sex”

men that have an issue with giving you money

men that have ridiculous mood swings

men that refuse to give you a cash allowance

men that are full of shit and you can tell that they are lying to you

men that promise you ridiculous amounts of money before meeting you

men that refuse to meet at an expensive restaurant/bar

men with no confidence that constantly need their ego stroked

literally any man that gives you a bad gut feeling

usually you can tell when someone is genuinely wealthy, but theres always a few sneaky guys that slip by. try to see what car he drives or look at the shoes he is wearing. the wealthiest men that i know don’t compromise on either of those things. also, watch for things that indicate wealth, like veneers, a spray tan, a nice watch, botox, freshly ironed clothes, etc. on top of that, rich men are typically confident people. remember that being successful in business is only 50% smarts, the rest is the connections that you have and can keep up with. that requires a confident person, plus having a fuck ton of money is a confidence booster.

13) don’t give up. i went on 60+ dates before i met my perfect sd in la. i carried on messages on sa with over 550 men. there are plenty of rich men out there, you just need to find them. remember that almost every man wants a hot girl to fuck. remember that almost every rich man cheats on his wife (sadly). you know those beautiful mansions that you see on your dash? someone owns them, and 90% of the time its some old rich guy. those big companies that you see everyday? someone owns those too, and the likelihood of it being an old rich man is through the roof. just know that theres always a man out there that is rich and willing to give you the life you deserve. i always see girls selling themselves short, hanging with men that aren’t in the 1% just because of an allowance. but if you really want luxury, don’t settle for anything less than the richest of the rich. and never decide to give up because you haven’t found the perfect arrangement right off of the bat.

14) remember that sex is a part of sugaring. whether you wait 3 months or 3 hours to sleep with your sd, it will eventually come. i have never heard of/been offered/been involved in a platonic arrangement. i don’t believe that it exists, or if it does i would assume the allowance is much, much, lower than a sexual arrangement. and when it does come time to fuck your sd, you better pop that pussy girl. be prepared for slow thrusts and a lot of moaning and twitching when they cum (from them). sex with an older man is definitely different than sex with guys 18-25, so just know that some weird shit will go down. i depersonalize during sex with sds, even with one night stands i barely feel anything, so for me i have always described sex with an sd as shitty sex. who knows, maybe if i was in love with them it would feel amazing, but all i’ve experienced so far is numbness. maybe that contributes to why i don’t mind sleeping with my sugar daddy, i honestly don’t know. for me, sleeping with a sd didn’t eat me up inside and rot my soul. you know what it did? put money in my hands and louboutins on my feet.

15) be affectionate. if you’re with the right sd, you won’t have an issue with this. hold his hand at the dinner table or in public, look in his eyes and smile, kiss him at random, hug him tightly, scratch his back after sex, scoot closer to him when you sit down together, cuddle with him, lean on his shoulder; the little things you do can make a huge difference. men can tell if youre faking it (for the most part) so try to be very lovey-dovey to let them know that you actually care about them. don’t take it too far, telling them that you’re in love with them when they don’t feel the same way or aren’t in the position to do anything about it can ruin the arrangement. but treating your sd like you’re in love with him will make him want to give you the world. after all, who doesn’t want to be loved?

so far, this is what has gotten me to where i am today. i cannot even imagine my life without sugaring. it has been the biggest blessing in my life, its like the world is at my fingertips. if you think you are ready for the sugar bowl after reading this, go for it. i hope you all take my advice or at least had a good time reading this :)

xoxo,

adriana

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