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borderlinereminders · 2 hours

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i don’t get it. why di you get this much “hate”?

im not borderline, but i started following you because the advice you give is useful with my anxiety and insecurities. your words are wise and i find comfort in them.

but also they seem really harmless? and all positive? why would anyone have any problem with that? i really don’t understand

thanks for sharing your experiences, hope you have a good day

Hi anon,

I'm so glad my posts can be helpful to you!

My assumptions for why I get hate are that it's hate from people who hate people with personality disorders in general, or people struggling with some of the behaviours I talk about taking it personally, and not being ready to recover yet.

#april answers

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borderlinereminders · 8 hours

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reminder that there is no shame in going back to therapy. difficult situations, feelings and thoughts come up in life. you deserve help to process them.

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borderlinereminders · 8 hours

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Something I’ve learned while starting FlappyHappy is just how many people don’t know about the existence of chewable stim items!

At FlappyHappy, we try to focus on offering a variety of options. I’ve included photos of a few of the options we have.

Here are our chewables here!

Flappyhappy is a small business run by two autistic women. Any help spreading the word is appreciated!

#flappyhappy

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borderlinereminders · 11 hours

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All the stuff you learn from your attempts at healthy coping doesn't get erased the moment you relapse. And you can use that knowledge to pick yourself back up and try again when you're ready. It's not a case of starting over from scratch, it's a case of stumbling and getting back up

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borderlinereminders · 14 hours

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100%.

I always say your feelings are always valid and allowed.

It’s how you react to them and the behaviours that might not be valid.

Any emotional experience is real and valid, but that doesn't absolve us from working on our behavior. Like getting aggressive and violent in your behavior isn't justified by feeling angry. Stalking people and being accusatory isn't justified by feeling jealous. Manipulation and guilt tripping isn't justified by feeling insecure. There's nothing wrong with feeling your feelings and having emotions, but your actual behavior towards other people is not above criticism

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borderlinereminders · 16 hours

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#undescribed #Queue are amazing

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borderlinereminders · 21 hours

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hey, just wanna send you some appreciation <3 your blog was what made me realize i might have bpd and that im not an evil person for feeling so negatively all the time. i finally realized i should start changing my actions and be more considerate, stop attacking people when they meant well, etc.

so, thanks a lot<333

Thank you, anon.

I hope things improve for you! 🩷

#april answers #nice asks

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borderlinereminders · 1 day

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Do you take antipsychotics for your bpd? I just got prescribed some and I feel weird about it

Hi anon,

I have before but I don’t anymore. Do you feel weird because you’re anxious about it? Or weird because you don’t know if using meds is valid or something like that?

I used to take Quetiapine but I couldn’t deal with the side effects. And it just made me emotionally numb. All the time. To me, numb was worse than the extreme emotions. Not saying it’ll make you numb. I’m not sure how common a reaction that is. I never tried anything else. I was eventually able to manage my symptoms without meds but I still think people that use meds are very valid if they help them.

I just hope whoever prescribed them went over the side effects with you. Please research a med before taking it. But meds to manage symptoms are valid.

#medications #antipsychotics #medical #april answers

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borderlinereminders · 1 day

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Spoken as someone that has forgotten way too many times, this is your reminder to check if a free trial you’ve signed up for is going to end and cancel it if you don’t want to pay for it.

(Also, if you’re like me and forget a lot, I recommend keeping track on an actual calendar.)

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borderlinereminders · 1 day

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Question. If I saw someone making hateful posts about you and ‘call out’ posts and filtering your url a bit to not show up. Would you want to know the person and stuff? I’ve been trying to decide whether to send the info to you or not

Thanks for asking, anon.

I’d rather not know honestly. I try not to let it get to me but I get anxious about the hateful stuff. Not the hate itself, but because my brain tries to convince me it’s how everyone feels about my blog. Thanks to all of you, I have some lovely screenshots in my self care channel to read to remind myself it isn’t true. But I’d still like to need to do that as little as possible.

#april answers

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borderlinereminders · 1 day

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Having bad days does not erase all your progress.

Having good days does not mean you’re faking.

You’re valid on both your good days and bad days. You’re doing just fine.

#my post

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borderlinereminders · 1 day

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Some questions I ask myself when I’m struggling with irrational thoughts:

Is there actual evidence for this thought?

Is this the only possible thought for this situation?

What would one of my loved ones think about this situation?

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borderlinereminders · 2 days

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You changed your person from aprilthegayqueen to aprilthebiqueen recently? why did you still keep the gayqueen url? does this mean you don’t know if you’re bi? sorry I’ve been trying to figure it out

Hi anon,

Two reasons.

I have a strong attachment to the url since I had it for several years on multiple social media. I didn’t know how to let it.

A lot of people also knew I had the url so I took it for an unused side blog because I was a little concerned someone might try to impersonate me. With all the hate I get on here, it didn’t seem impossible. People have literally made blogs just to hate on my blogs.

#april answers

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borderlinereminders · 2 days

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Trying to explain to people that I’m not desperately seeking a diagnosis because I want to be sick is tiring. I’m not seeking to be sick. I know I’m sick and I’m seeking answers in hopes there’s something that can help me cope with the sick.

A diagnosis doesn’t change what I’m already feeling but the answers may help me to adjust to improve my quality of life.

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borderlinereminders · 2 days

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You will make mistakes, you will act irrationally. You will commit some wrongs that cannot be fully righted. People will dislike you and misunderstand you for all sorts of reasons. None of these things make you a bad person. All you can do is try your best to be kind, to learn and grow.

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borderlinereminders · 2 days

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and is your shame helpful? is it inspiring goodness and change? or is it keeping you frozen in time unable to move on and be everything you have expanded to be?

#Queue are amazing

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borderlinereminders · 2 days

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When I was younger, I used to read a book or more a day. I haven’t properly read in so long. Like… a decade? More?

I’m starting a wishlist of books for me to try and work through but it’s been so long since I read anything I feel so lost!

I used to love fantasy, mystery, horror/thriller, most young adult books. I really just don’t like romance. Romance is fine in the book but if it’s the main story then it’s not my thing!

Any suggestions for a good book series or just books in general is great!

#personal

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