Now that we have an official look at Ariel, it’s fun for me to see where I got close and missed the mark in terms of predicting what she would look like! Turns out I wasn’t that close LOL.
But Halle, as we all predicted, looks and SOUNDS out of this world. I’m gonna have to mentally prepare all the way till 2023 to not ugly cry through the whole movie. ;____; <3
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Could you please elaborate on that thing about people wanting to be miserable because that's a very chilling statement from you
Not that the people pitching a shit fit are going to read this, but...
There's a fallacy on the internet that you specifically can help your friends out of a trauma spiral. That you just need to "be there" for them and everything will magically fix itself. You can't. A lot of people have deep seated issues that can't be fixed with ten dollar words.
Some people are so blinkered that they can be surrounded on all sides by people who love them and build them up, and then there will be that one person who keeps talking shit about them and they will choose to listen to that person every single time. And you could certainly continue putting in more and more effort to try and pull them back, but at the end of the day what they really need is a doctor, and possibly medicine.
Continuing to burn yourself trying to help people in that position will do nothing but hurt yourself. Taking on someone else's problems like this, that YOU ARE NOT EQUIPPED TO FIX is a form of self-flagellation.
There is no shame in stepping back from that. From emotionally distancing yourself from that person's problems. And that's something I have gotten in the habit of doing. When it's clear that someone needs a doctor (or they're just a stubborn creature of habit in some cases) I just step back and go "kay."
Don't chase people. If someone is content to run away, isolate themselves, and avoid the people building them up, don't go after them. Don't chase them down. Don't try and be their therapist.
People used to come to me asking for "advice" with things like shitty parents. And more often than not I would give them a suggestion, they wouldn't do it, and then they would come back asking for more. And when I realized this, I realized they didn't actually want help, they just wanted to vent and trauma dump. So I put a stop to it.
I ended a friendship four years ago when it became clear the person involved was deliberately putting themselves in stressful situations in order to come back and trauma dump. And honestly, I don't need that shit in my life.
And YOU don't need that shit in your life. It's not good for you, and you can't help those people. They need real help from a qualified professional and you are not that. You don't need to have a martyr complex to be a good friend.
It harkens back to a time when people on this hellsite were all like "If you have suicidal thoughts, YOU CAN TALK TO MEEEEEEEEE" who didn't actually care but just wanted to feel like Superman for five minutes, and now that kind of bullshit is believed to be "being a good friend" when it really isn't. It's okay to prioritize yourself and your own health and wellbeing.
It's up to you how much patience and understanding you want to have for that bullshit. I used to have that attitude of having infinite patience with people, but a lot of people took advantage of that patience and now my patience is at an absolute zero. The moment it becomes clear you need a doctor is the moment I detach and stop providing any help other than giving you phone numbers for psychatrists.
Furthermore, if you are that person: You can only keep isolating yourself from your friendships in this weird ritual of denial and self-harm before those friends move on without you. You are treating your friends like shit when you do this. And indeed most of the "backlash" to this is from people who are that person and don't want to accept that their friends won't just sit around and wait for them.
And to the people calling me abusive for the original version of this post: Get therapy and stop obsessing over me.
I finally listened to Humanz!! (and then relistened to the entire Gorillaz discography…)
Oh? Soft & Pink Doodle to match this one?
I really loved the new Gorillaz music video Humility
Darkstalkers: Bulleta and Talbain fan art (2020)
Art by: Panzer (AKA pnzrK)