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What do you think about the idea that you can't control your intrusive thoughts and kinks?
Two people can engage with the same kink in different ways. Engaging in BDSM because the sting of a leather whip on your skin does it for you is one thing. Engaging in BDSM because you fallaciously believe you can take control of your past childhood trauma by reclaiming it is very much another.
Sex and Kink are mental health neutral. On their own, they do nothing for your mental health, it's about what you put into it. This is why doing something kinky with someone you love and trust makes the post-nut clarity feel relaxing, in the same way it feels good after cleaning the kitchen. But if you're alone at your computer reading something horrible, the post-nut clarity feels like "Fucking hell, what's wrong with me?!"
This is also why "toxic relationship sex" is the single most emotionally numbing and miserable experience in the universe. Your nerve endings and your lizard brain that craves dopamine only understands "Friction = electricity = yay" and it's your conscious mind that adds everything else to it. Your conscious mind, which you control.
The dirty secret of your turn ons, turn offs, and opinions is that you have more direct control over them than people would like to admit. When I realized by verbal abuse kink was just an unhealthy coping mechanism based on fallacious ideas about reclaiming trauma, I stopped engaging with it. I made the conscious decision to stop.
I also made the conscious decision to stop reading Grimdark.
Your brain is not a 100% autonomous vehicle completely independent from yourself as a person. At least not where your conscious thoughts are concerned.
It's never a bad thing to examine yourself and wonder "where did that thought come from?" Even if the answer is "Oh it came from nowhere, everything is fine." It's no more unusual than checking your tits for lumps. The people who actively push to discourage you from doing that are usually the ones who need to have an uncomfortable conversation with themselves and don't want to.
I call this "Drinker's Denial." If you've ever noticed that some drinkers can be really pushy toward people who don't drink alcohol, it's usually because they know they have a problem and actively resent you making them think about it with your presence. Your very existence as someone who made the choice not to do the thing makes them think "If they're right, what does that say about me?"
People who don't have an objective problem, or who aren't in denial about it, don't react that way.
Smokers will be the first people to tell me "Don't start." Because they know what they've done to themselves and are like "Don't make my mistakes! Please!"
Conversely, alcoholics and potheads will wrap themselves in knots trying to argue "actually this is good for me because THC is-proceeds to ignore the concept of water intoxication"
People who don't want to have uncomfortable conversations with themselves are the ones who push the idea that your opinions and tastes are completely random and not informed by background, environment, and beliefs. And they're the first ones to demand you stop thinking about things.
It's not puritanical to think critically about things. In fact, it's the exact opposite.
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Everyone should know the international sign for Help Me. Let’s make this famous!!
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I feel like someone is standing next to me talking about how I'm dead
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LGBT activists have been vocal about intersex issues for several decades, because establishing the legal right to bodily autonomy for intersex persons is basically inseparable from establishing the right of trans persons to that same legal autonomy over their own bodies. many intersex persons prefer not to be grouped together with LGBT causes; however, the vast majority of LGBT activists would agree that performing "corrective" surgery on intersex infants - to force them to adhere to a largely fictional gender binary - is pretty fucking evil.
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Frog Paints a Water Lily Pond 🪷🎨🐸
𝑓ₒᵣ ⲕᵢ𝑛𝑔 ₐ𝑛𝑑 𝑐ₒ𝑡𝑡ₐ𝑔ₑ
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Goyim, having a Jewish friend doesn't make you any less able to be antisemitic just like having a black friend doesn't make you any less able to be anti black/racist.
Your friends are human beings, not a fence between you and antisemitism.
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KARLACH WRESTLER??!!!
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Not gonna specifically tag anyone…but reblog if you feel like it and put yours in the tags.
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Hear me out guys… what if Miku could clone herself via Mitosis? MIKUTOSIS
leek chromosomes
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Oh look, just as fast and dirty as any other April 1st gag bit.
Matt, Staff, Automattic, etc, FIX YOUR HEARTS. And do some work on the real problem on here.
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Retouched this bit after reaching it in the full edit, giving it some juicier editing and removing that Unalaq bit because that was a stretch
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reblog this if your blog is a safe space on april fools and won’t have any jumpers, screamers, or anything scary or anxiety inducing
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Imagine having a character with two whole defining character traits! In fandom brain a character can only be one thing or the other. It puts them off that Katara is both caring AND wrathfull, often at the same time. To compensate, they reduce her character down to only one of the two, actively making her less interesting.
All the characters in the adaptation get this treatment to some extent but it's particularly notable and gross with Katara. Taking a character as dynamic and proactive as Katara and reducing her down to "the mom" reeks of mysoginy.
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